Occasionally during foreplay, my fiancee says something to the affect of "I wish you had four hands". This of course leads into a brief discussion about threesomes. (Oddly enough, she seems more prone to a MFF while I'm more prone to a MMF, but that's a bit off the topic). What I'm wondering is who's participated in a threesome? Was one of them a significant other? What kind of ground-rules were put in place? How did it go? What was the aftermath? My one experience with a former gf ended about 30 seconds into the other girl giving me head, when she started crying.
You've managed to get 30 seconds further than I have. I mentioned mff once to my gf and she went ballistic, I had to back down and tell her I was only joking, before she smashed the house up! What I'd suggest you do, if it's available to you, is to book a MF escort couple and have a foursome! You can pick a couple whom you both find attractive, they are there to please you and it will remove any awkwardness about who might see who again, behind the other persons back. If my gf was up for it, that's what I'd do! Using escorts will take away an notion of love. The experience will purely be based on lust and sexual experimentation....., perhaps? Edited by - bobcat on 7/21/2009 6:17:15 PM
If you have an orgasm with another woman in front of your fiancee, you might end up canceling your wedding. It's not jealousy, it's just that mostly we(women) believe you got off faster, better, and more with her and we're just chopped liver and wish we were dead so don't ever bother touching us again. It really takes incredibly special people to successfully have moresomes without grief. If there are emotional connections involved.
'Fiance' is problematic. Casual fuck buddy or early stage girlfriend is much more managable. You should explore it as a fantasy but don't rush into the reality if you value your relationship.
I was afraid I was going to hear this. It was meant to be more about pleasing her, than me playing with another girl. Nevertheless, it's probably a fantasy not worth living when it involves someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. HeyNow, yes and yes! In the long run, I learned my lesson about turning fuck-buddies into relationships.
My experience is that the horse has to come before the cart. My first husband and I engaged in many group encounters with no issues on either of our parts. The caveat is that we both were involved in other group activities, both with others as well as each other, before we committed to marriage. I can easily see problems with the other way although I have known several who have very successfully pulled it off.
I had a somewhat drunken bad idea threesome with 2 female friends that was fun, but entirely awkward afterward. I've had multiple more threesomes with my long term girlfriend and a good friend of hers. My girlfriend is bisexual and very secure with our relationship, so she was always open to the idea. The other woman is another sexually liberal girl in a stage of her life where she isn't looking for commitment. Basically, I lucked out and found 2 very accepting (and awesome) people. These threesomes usually turn out fulfilling for all parties. No real spoken ground rules but it's understood that everyone gives everyone else some attention so that nobody feels left out or gets jealous. It works out pretty well, since we keep having more threesomes. But it's almost the perfect setup and I don't think that happens very often. In general, you have to have the right type of people, and people who are hesitant are that way for a reason.
I've wanted a 3 some with another girl and a guy but haven't done that yet. I have had sex with two men before and I could tell they were a bit nervous at first but it ended up great! sucking a guy off while another guy is doing you doggie style is fantastic. and one time I straddled a guy on top and bent over as we were fucking and the other guy got above and used KY on my bum and fucked me in the ass and I orgasmed multiple times and I could actually feel their cocks rubbing between the thin skin between my anus and my pussy. It was out of this world being sandwiched like that. Two big guys from Trinidad and little old creamy white me in the middle. I'd kill for a video of that night as i had their cum leaking out of both holes and they each shot off in my face later and I loved every second of it!
ground rule: never do it with someone you're in a relationship with. i think the best threesomes are those in casual non-relationships. your 30 second experience is testament to this. my two cents :)
I completely understand how and why someone might feel that way. Since I don't have a lot of experience with actually having a GF, I probably would feel lousy if I had one I really liked and she seemed to really hit it off with some other dude. In reality, though, it can be nothing more than the novelty of doing something different that causes someone to enjoy sexing somebody other than their spouse. It doesn't have to mean the other person is in any way better or you're not good enough. Some people just need to do something different sometimes. Do you occasionally change your diet and then realize how much you love your old favorites when you eat them again? Personally, I might be the kind of person who would love to do a 3 way and would really want to take the opportunity if it presented itself even if I was involved with someone (maybe especially) but I would never want doing that to hurt someone else. Especially someone I loved. I think a lot of men just don't realize or understand how women feel about this. Often, fantasies just don't play out in reality the way you always imagined they would. I doubt most men who would want a threesome would really want to hurt their wife or GF. It's just the kind of fantasy most men have had forever and passing it up when it presents itself is like saying no to free money.
I know - but, like most people, I know that in the rational part of my mind. The emotional part of my mind reacts the other way. I would argue that most people who have significant feelings for their sex partner would tend to react the emotional way. And some of those emotional reactions... they don't ever go away. If you're not emotionally attached, like when a guy hires a couple of professionals, everyone can really just have fun and walk away without doubts, hurt feelings and bruised egos.
You know what, you're right! Come to Moscow, people....the most beautiful (ex-)pornstars that you see on your telly in one of the latest Evil Angels flicks, ready to fuck ya with some other Eastern European "10" In my opinion, you shouldn't do menages a trois when you're having a serious relationship with the girl you're with. I find it a bit disrespectful towards her (even though she might even say that she's kinda into it: 9 out of 10 times, she only says that because she "luvs" you and want to make you happy). Most girls are just not lesbian or bi just like most men aren't gay or bi. Anyway, all my non-pro threesomes we're pretty crappy! I've never had girls who ate eachothers pussycat or licked eachothers nipples. In almost all my experiences I had to constantly switch condoms when I fucked the other girl. Believe me, then it's pretty fast: "So long, mr. boner"! Why do you think there are so many mongers in Moscow, Rio or Asia......not because those countries are so beautiful,
we have done this a few times my girlfriend and I. Once with a male friend of mine, once with a female friend of hers. it was pretty hot but i think it was more the idea of it being kinky in the first place made it so. actually we both love the idea and would prob do it again but neither of us really likes people to begin with lol fucks up our reclusive life
I've had a few. My most successful experience was with two strangers - no emotional concerns - just pure fun.
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Like so many people have said, if you want to end a relationship, have a threesome. It always leaves them wrecked. You're better off with two strangers.
I've had two threesomes (FFM), a foursome (FMFM), and a fivesome(FFFFM). Each situation was great because we were all unattached, though the second time I had a threesome it was with my boyfriend at the time and my good female friend. Again, it worked out well because we're all genuinely openminded and we've had a long history as friends. I contend that it's only weird if you make it weird, but finding that right person to do it with can be very tricky. In some ways it's nice to discuss it beforehand, but on the other hand it's nice to meet a stranger, have a few drinks, and take them home :). Sometimes the fantasy gets ruined if you discuss it too much and it's nice to go the spontaneous route. In any instance of polyamory jealousy can become an issue, but jealousy often stems from personal insecurity; if you keep that in check and you trust your partner things should work out fine. Best of luck!
Very well put! If anyone within the relationship is insecure before the experience enganging in something like this will only bring it to the forefront more qucikly but I contend that if it was never an issue (insecurity that is) a group encounter will not create it.
I also think it depends on how you see sex. If you see it as a very intimate and personal thing, or if you see it like me...a fun thing to share with the right person. I kind of divide love and sex. Also there is a difference for me in sex and "cuddly love making" where more feelings then just attractions are involved. To me a threesome is just sex, no feeling other the raw lust.
Update: I participated in a threesome a couple nights ago with a good female friend of mine and her boyfriend. To answer your questions specifically, Was one of them a significant other? Yes, they've been dating for a while now and do tell each other they love each other. What kind of ground-rules were put in place? None. My girlfriend and I are very sexually open with each other and know what we're into. This was our first time fooling around though. How did it go? Awesome!!! It was possibly the best sex I've ever had; because we were so open and into each other I got to play out a lot of fantasies I never got the chance to. We did some very naughty things, and each of us came twice! What was the aftermath? It was great. I woke up the next morning to the sight of him fucking the shit out of her. I was pretty tired so I didn't get in on that round, but a bit later we both dommed him and then I dommed him while she took pics. It was really great! I kissed them goodbye and went home the happiest I've been in a while. It couldn't have been better really. I hope this gives you some inspiration and I expect to hear back with your experience :).
Over several months I have frequently returned to this thread and I can't help but point out that:really summarizes the key to successful threesomes in relationships. I have lived with my partner for so many years I would like to not reveal the number as not to feel myself so old. As one could imagine you have ups and downs in a long-term relationship. As it happens we also have had several MMF and MFF and group (up to MMMFFF) sexual experiences over the years. No relationship-breakers by any means. The key here is that me and my partner really do not like people:) Makes having sex with them easier and more enjoyable. I think this is called commitment. Or security. I don't care. As it turns out we like each other very much and generally do not care about other people so it seems that occasional kinky activities with outside parties are not harmful to our relationship in any ways. Go figure. One additional thought is about enjoying the experience. I think (maybe wrongly) that some kinky experiences are somewhat diluted if the participants are at some point shocked by the thought "what must they think of me next morning!". Once again, if you don't care about other people or their opinions, then you feel better during the experience :) It REALLY helps if all the participants have the same attitude. I know it sounds a bit sociopathic but there is a point somewhere. Overcaring kills joy and fun and everlasting happiness.
