Just stumbled across a topic entitled: Husband wants me to do degrading things
I've been realizing recently that I'm getting a little porn addicted. In the sense, viewing forums like this during work hours and letting it take my mind over more important things.. ...getting hooked on ever more 'nasty' porn (FacialAbuse style stuff, girls suffering to cope, etc.) Is anyone else scared porn could end up ruining their lifes? ...is there a line not to cross in order not to end up like the couple in the post mentioned above?
I don't believe that porn has some unique power to ruin your life. I think it is no different than any other source of pleasure - you either control your use of it or you don't. In other words, you could make the same argument against chocolate that you would against porn.
No. My fellow humans have done a splendid job of that without even taking their clothes off. It honestly never occurred to me. Porn is the only thing that makes my life tolerable.
Yes, there is such a thing as too much porn, same as there's such a thing as too much chocolate or too much alcohol. It might be easier for those around you to see when it's taking over, than it is for you to see it.
The only person who is able to ruin your life is YOU. When porn takes a precedence over your normal daily functions you might want to seek help. When you start calling in sick to work because you'd rather be at home watching porn, you might want to seek help, seriously, who wouldn't rather be watching porn than working lol, that was meant to be kind of humorous. As far as the acts in porn that you desire, well, I am guessing that you are an evolving person and somewhat exploratory, nothing wrong with that. You wouldn't be watching it if it didn't interest you, your interest takes precedence over what movies portray IMO. So if somebody enjoys watching horror movies does that turn them into psychopathic slasher killers? I don't think so.
Too much porn? Perhaps, but then again we can get addicted to everything we enjoy. Anyway, I don't think it can actually ruin your life. Porn definitely doesn't have the power to make a person think "I'm not gonna see my friends today, there's porn on the internet".
IMO,if you take porn as an "escape" from your life,or if you have unfulfilled emotional,psychological ..(put whatever you want here)..needs then you got a problem.It's like how people resort to food or drugs or online gaming..etc.Eventually,you'll find porn ur only or one of the few sources of pleasure you have which will not be sufficient to satisfy your needs,so you'll try to find sth new,sth you have't seen before,new porn,new kinks...etc and in the end,you'll still be unsatisfied so you just have to face whatever it is that makes you "addicted" to porn.It's not about porn itself,it's about stuff you seek to escape and satisfy your needs.Simply,if all of your energy is directed towards sexual energy,then there's no amount of porn or sex that will satisfy you.I'm not saying you're addicted,I don't know,but if you relate to what I'm saying to you then you should do sth about it.Hope this helps.. Edited by - joeteen on 1/10/2013 9:16:10 AM
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Posted - Mar 5 2013 : 5:49PM
There is a fine line between an addiction and a passionate interest, especially when the interest in question is so varied and is always renewing itself like porn does. I think in strictly clinical terms, a force of habit becomes an addiction when it interferes with your day to day functioning in a negative way and in some way negatively affects those around you. My parents, who I still live with (yeah, yeah I know)have always said that I am addicted to porn because I am always downloading it. But I see it more logically. I do not look at porn while I'm at work, I do not think about it at work so that it is distracting me from my job, I do not prioritise watching/downloading porn over seeing my friends or socialising. I keep my interest in porn and all of its facets pretty much secret and to myself, aside from my closest friends who I talk to about it occasionally and as a means of passing time, I watch the latest scenes that I have downloaded in the privacy of my own bedroom. I'm not taking it outside on a laptop and beating off to it for the excitement of getting caught. I am self-conscious of my interest and how it may affect other people's opinion of me and that is why I keep it very much to myself. All in all this means that I am aware of what my secret interest could make others view and judge of me and so purely by virtue of that fact, and the measures that I take to keep it hidden, I am not addicted. A person who is addicted finds it difficult, or maybe irrepressible, to resist the urges that that addiction fixates on but act on them anyway. An addicted person would makes a conscious decision to engage in the object of their desire while being fully aware of the negative consequences on themselves and/or others. So bringing this round to the OP, I would say that by virtue of the fact that you are recognizing that your interest is potentially veering into addictive territory, you are not a porn addict. The best thing you could do though is to make a private consultation with your GP or a counselor and they could recommend some form of medication or psychological technique to tone down your urges and to manage and control your interest in porn. Honesty is the key though, without going into great detail. You would need to tell them your worries about what you think it is turning you into or what may happen if you continue indulging in gradually more extreme porn. In all seriousness, I think you should be proud of yourself for being so self-aware and for actually seeking the counsel of others who understand. But no, an addict you are not, not yet.
Thanks. For taking the time - and the effort - to write all that ^ (Reading it makes me feel better) I've been 'restraining' myself recently... (mostly from staying on ADT) ...and ended up realizing something kinda weird also: in my case, too much porn, has not so much to do with the actual 'fapping' involved or time spent daily viewing beautiful youths getting their brains screwed out (literally: I'm a huge face/throat/skull-fuck fan!) but much more to do with 'getting lost' in the the o-so-many archives of porn (i.e.: 'wow, she's gorgeous!', 'wow, she's young!', 'wow, she's too pretty for porn!', 'wow, that must hurt!') or spending hours on hours on this forum (i.e.: 'shit, JrCanon just posted a really good pic in girls-in-tight-dresses, now I MUST spend a couple of hours searching for a better one!') I've 'wasted' an hour (of 'work' time) to write this single post. Sometimes I think it's NOT good, I should stop, I could have got so much else done in the same space/time... ...then other times I think 'What-the-fuck, I deserve some time for myself!' I'm very busy, never have much time. ...the most I get is watching F1 & MotoGp/Superbike races and following things related, mostly on Twitter. Don't have many friends, hardly ever go out. I attended Catholic primary school, therefore as a kid I never masturbated much... (...I would be left with all the 'emptiness inside' every time I emptied my balls...) (...still happens, to be honest...) (...I'm thirty something, by the way...) ...I even burnt my porn magazine collection once to 'make amends'. (Magazines ... good old days) I recently started watching porn to wank at cause I'm married with a young son and life is busy and he sleeps in our bed between us at night; therefore our 'moments/opportunities' are few and rare and in the beginning I was screwing up most of 'em cause after a week or two or more of abstinence I was like cumming in my pants almost! That didn't seem to fair on her (nor fun for either of us!) so I thought it would be a good idea to keep myself 'ever-ready' and I approached porn with a different attitude It wasn't wrong all of a sudden! So I was like a 'thirty year old - porn - virgin' not knowing where to start... ...so I ended up here! Chocolate and alcohol? ...yeah, if I get my hands on those I do abuse as well!...naaah, I think I'll pass......seriously? You know that your parents know that you use porn? And your cool with it!?
Frankly, if there was ever anything that had the potential to save my life, it would have been porn. But I don't base my happiness on the same things many people do. I never wanted a wife or a family or even a house. Porn didn't make me this way. I was born this way. Porn has been a tool that allowed me to continue when it became clear that I was not going to be someone who wanted to pursue the typical "American dream". I think everyone does need sexual release and that's pretty hard when you're ugly and poor. You do not get addicted to natural instincts. I am not addicted to orgasm any more than I'm addicted to breathing. This is a stupid concept that has become mindlessly popular lately. There used to be this thing where people were encouraged to follow their dreams and do what they wanted to do. What happened to that? If you like porn, your dreams and desires are suddenly wrong and they compare you to a heroin addict. Fuck that shit.
Sometimes you have to ride these things out. Before I hit 30 my hormone levels were crazy and I was obsessed with porn. But after I settled down and had a family I was able to keep porn viewing to a monthly or weekly "treat".
There are 7 billion humans on the planet. The sky is not going to fall if a few people spend their lives jacking off and cleaning up those "wasted" babies with a tissue.
Like I said. It seems like nobody told all the baby factories that. If 7 billion is "moderation", I'd hate to see "excessive". The twisted irony of it all is these are the same people who will give you shit if you have a porn collection and have no interest in joining them.
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Posted - Mar 25 2013 : 2:35PM
RP - I'm sure you didn't post to gain sympathy but, still, I feel sad for someone that's so vehemently chosen porn over the physical closeness of a partner. I've just never heard views such extreme before. Not trying to be your shrink but I hope one day you find love. No one is too old, poor, or ugly. Sometimes I gotta remind myself of that. Edited by - Todd Gack on 3/25/2013 2:37:48 PM
My hand is about as close as it gets. And it never has a headache. And it has at least a dozen other talents because getting me off and producing 18 years of financial obligations.I find that kind of hard to believe.I'm kind of disappointed. I was hoping I'd find love here.
yea man, you gotta show a *little* bit of self-control. not only that but when you take a few days off it becomes even that much hotter when you DO choose to watch it. it's real easy to get burnt out watching facefuck videos every day lol. today was my 3rd day in a row fapping to blowbang vids so i'll prolly take a couple days off to recharge the juices lol. gotta say the internet age doesn't make this easy. click...boom, there it is. back in my parents' day you'd have to go to the red light district to get this kind of stuff lol.
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Posted - Mar 28 2013 : 6:13PM
I like Pron Movies etc But Too much Porn watching = Loss Energy :))
IMO its only a problem if while you're with someone it makes you lose interest in them and you focus on porn porn porn all the time. I watch lots of porn but my wife always gets hers in the end. Pun totally intended. ----Dread----
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Posted - Nov 30 2012 : 10:23AM
My hand is about as close as it gets. And it never has a headache. And it has at least a dozen other talents because getting me off and producing 18 years of financial obligations.I find that kind of hard to believe.I'm kind of disappointed. I was hoping I'd find love here.