Right ladies and gents, another crazy question for you.
I have always been a wanker!!!! Been yanking my plank since I was 11 going on 12. It's alwats been the way with me. But I have noticed that there has been a positive side to this, and also a negative side to this, and this all boils down to intercourse.
When I have intercourse, it takes me absolutely ages to cum. At least an hour or more (which many people would say is an excellent thing, and I have to agree with them),but this can also be very frustrating, as there are times when the woman being penetrated has her orgasms early on, and then almost lies there doing nothing and I sense that they are wishing that I would hurry up. There are numerous occasions when I have to give up, as it it's either getting painful for her, or with me it "just ain't gonna happen".
Either way, I was wondering if you think this can be caused by too much regular masturbation, or the fact that when I am generally in moments of sexual intimacy, I have had quite alot of beers beforehand, which are definately known to numb ones sensitivity. But the same can be said when I haven't had anything to drink.
What you think??? too much of the old 5 knuckle shuffle, or too much booze??? or maybe a combination of the two?
Yep, she's frustrated. After I come, the blood wants to leave the area, I want to save my juices for next time (I'm not gettin' any younger, here), and I could be getting a mite sore. Pounding away isn't doing it for me anymore.
The good news is, you can probably fix this right up. The bad news - give it a shot without booze, and after a week without wanking. It must be worth that to you.
Since you come when jerking off, you can rule out medical stuff.
One possibility - your wanking has gotten you used to particular sensations which cue your orgasm. Vaginal sex seems too different or not as strong. At any rate, several suggestions follow.
Not a weird question, either - it looks like about 3% to 8% of guys have this problem at any given time.
Squid, you've got to stop spanking your monkey so much! The booze doesn't help matters of course, but this can turn what should be an enjoyable bone session into a painful endurance event for her, and frustrating for the both of you.
I made a huge post about this before and how intercourse does nothing for me. I can definitely blame it on a few things-
1. wanking since 11 yrs old
2. prefering moneyshot style finishes
3. intercourse intimacy is a huge turn off, I prefer to feel negatively about my partner and then its easy to cum (this is awful, but its true. review your own personal experiences and maybe this might hold true for you also. Then its off to the therapist we go....hopefully its a chick in a short skirt)
4. Porn and past sexual experiences have dulled normal intercourse (overdose of hardcore stimulation.)
Whats funny to me is the double standard for sexual behavior. I have heard how some women cannot come from vaginal intercourse (they prefer oral or direct clitoral stimulation); why is it so ridiculous if certain men prefer also not to cum this way (vaginal intercourse)?
P-Knuckle, regarding your last paragraph - there's nothing ridiculous about the sexual preferences you mention.
But there is a difference between prefering to come in a certain way, and being forced to come in a certain way. Choice is nice, and developing control is desirable.
Too true!!This is another true statement, but at weekends, I like to wind down with a "few" beers, and it's usually at this point that I meet the lovely young ladies..... Damn!!
Because most of the time I'm at their house, and I don't carry dvd's with me...
It would also be a bit odd if I had too supply a dvd everytime I made love to a girl, as then I'd become dvd reliant and the girl would start doubting herself as well. Not good I'm afraid. Only on special occasions.
Squid - I'm starting to realize that you're dead serious about this (call me dense). In that case, SB & lindi are right - no choice but to lay off the wanking until your pecker is so sensitive that it cums for the crack of dawn! Damn that sucks. Oh well... think about it this way... it'll be nice to have sex as a team sport again.
the first thing that comes to my mind seems almost too simple - maybe youre just jerking off too much? or rather, too close chronologically to when you have intercourse. common sense dictates that your body is not an infinite source or sperm and semen. therefore once you've "used up" some of your stock, your body needs time to build it back up. i know that some male performers in porn try to refrain from having sex or masturbating for a period of time before a shoot. needless to say, this is also a way to increase your chances of gaining an erection
personally, i dont quite suffer from the same problem, but i do find that if i've gone a few days without jerking off before i have sex it's much easier to get hard and stay hard, my erection is often stronger (which means i'm bigger too) and i enjoy the sex more because i'll have an increased craving for it.
It's psychological. You probably wank so much out of anxiety. Try setting the mood for yourself. And just being comfortable with your partner and confident of your performance, have in mind that when you please yourself you please her. Try getting used to cum ner her vag, wank near it and evolve gradually onto orgasming inside.
Have you ever tried jerking off while you have intercourse? Have your lady or you grab your shaft and stroke it as you slide the end of your dick inside her or pull out and stroke yourself then put it back in to see if you can build your arrousal level until you pop.
Find the right girl. I used to have this problem sometimes, and sometimes I wish I still did. During part of the time I dealt with that, luckily, I had a girlfriend who was more than willing to go down on me and let me relax while she finished me off that way and swallowed after I had to give up after an hour of pounding away and not getting anywhere. Edited by - freakdude28 on 12/28/2011 7:36:14 PM
Yes, it was bumped because someone was asking a similar question, to put this on the front page of Sex Talk to make it easier to the new person to find. And someone new is asking something similar again, so bumping is easier than copying all of this, or whatever.
