ok in the bedroom.. what do you men prefer? If a woman takes control and gets rough with you? Does that turn you on more then if we play all submissive and give in easily?
Celina Jaitly, the new Goddess...... 448 Posts 8/04
Posted - Mar 23 2005 : 4:41PM
Sex is an activity that, als the verb says activeness from both people. I have to say that sex is quite lame if one person is constantly leading, over and over again.
So I usually try to mix it up. But I'm not pushing anything, though. If I feel that the girl particularly likes to be submissive, I won't force her to be more dominating. I will try her to make more assertive after a while, because I don't want to get bored.
''Nature never deceives us; it is we who deceive ourselves. ''
I don't mind being dominated but it's not really my thing. When you're say 80lbs heavier and 6 inches taller it just kind of seems right to take control, I mean I've yet to find a girl who can pick me up and fuck me against the wall or throw me onto the bed. For a woman to take control I think things need to be spoken and acted a lot more that's all.
They often reckon that people look for the opposite in the bedroom than they get in the rest of their lives. You know, top directors and judges like to be spanked and those at the bottom of the heap like a chance to be in charge. The rest of the time I'm very easy going and like to do things by concensus so maybe that's why i just love to make a woman beg and then tell her what a dirty fucking bitch she is for begging
Depends on the height girl. Typically, I taller girls to be quite dominant. Shorter girls I prefer to be a little more submissive. Personality comes into it as well. With some girls, imagining them as dominant bitches seems a bit too much of a stretch.
I wouldn't mind being used like the fuckmeat that I am, but it would have to be someone who could do it without making me laugh. I don't think it's a physical stature thing for me as much as tone of voice, eye contact and wording.
As for preference, I prefer to be dominant, but that has nothing to do with anyone giving in easily - where's the fun in that? You gotta WORK for it. Knowing you can get it just by saying the word is no fun.
Depends on woman and my mood. Yes, guys have moods too. I've met women who took control right away and had the attitude that she would have her way with me that night. The little brain liked the situation, so why not? Some women bring out the dominant in me. There was one that I like to toy with in public (hands unseen) until she was constantly on the edge of orgasm. I'd keep doing this while she tried not to squirm or scream. Fun control stuff. Have her do public interaction with others when she really wants to rush home. Play it cool until she begs.
In a relationship it is give and take. If it is the same all the time, it is boring for me.
But who is really in control? Who needs who more, the dominator or dominated?
I like to dominate on the odd occasion, but more often than not prefer to neither dominate or be dominated. On the odd occasion that I have tried to allow myself to be dominated I haven't got much out of it. Instead I've found the experience to be too funny to get into it. Maybe a true dominatrix would be able to hit spots unbeknown to me...but I think probably not.
Just another bare bum in the shiower 1739 Posts 12/04
Posted - Mar 25 2005 : 9:46AM
One of my main fantasies is of being captured by an Amazon warrior and being tied up and then sexually humiliated and beaten, and then breaking free and having my very wicked way with my former tormenter!
I for one would like to see this written about in more depth and put in the 'Story Time' part of the forum Cuddly Wombat! Your post has certainly whetted my appetite!
Paying trib-ute to SinncentVanSage 1412 Posts 12/04
Posted - Mar 31 2005 : 6:36PM
I want her to tear off my clothes, throw me on the bed, coming at me like a lioness, slapping my head with her tits, sitting straddled on my head, rubbing her pussy back and forth on my face, then pressing it against my lips saying "eat my fucking pussy", then drenching my face with her juices, again slapping me with her tits, riding me hard in cowgirl talking dirty, and basically just using and abusing me for her pleasure over and over again. After having listed so many things I want it should be obvious I prefer to dominate.
Really not interested in dom/sub stuff, but I do love a woman who initiates.
I like her to say what she wants, tell me what turns her on, ask me for her favorite things. If she can do so in a really slutty way then I love it, but no giving orders by me or her. I like sex to be a game between enthusiastic equals.
It really depends on what you think of the partner in terms of her sexual image - appeal, personality. For example, if she looks/acts like an aggressive lady - CEO of corporation, biker chick, tomboy; then you expect to be somewhat submissive; unless you like to try to dominate the situation that is! Either way it could work out in the end, hah! hah!
I think the terms Top and Bottom are more appropriate here.
A Dominant is one who makes the decisions, sets the tone and works at removing the very idea of resisting from the person they are with at a much deeper level than purely the action of fucking. It is about taking someone's will and turning it to their own.
A Submissive is one who loses their entire will to the Dominant. It is not about fucking, it's about the entire experience of being with that person and turning their will over to another.
A "Top" is the one who takes control of the sex. Period. They are not always dominant in personality, they are just the most aggressive partner in the mix.
A "Bottom" is the one who likes being taken. But they aren't always submissive in any form of the term.
As to the question of how many men are dominant? Way more than half. If it wasn't so lopsided female dominants wouldn't be so damn hard to find. Go to any bdsm function or event an you'll find about a dozen very depressed men looking for a Domina. But a female submissive will be falling over male Doms every time she turns around.
I can agree with mike on this. Most of the time, I love to be the dominate one on the bedroom, teaching you new tricks and filling you completely. Making you submit to experiences that would blow your mind.
But sometimes, you take control. Forcing your sex onto us and riding us into submission. Feeling in total control and knowing your pleasure comes first. Isn't sex incredible?