Ok, guys, yesterday I tried an escort and it was a great experience. For the whole duration, my cock was like a wooden plank. But when it came to actually cumming, it reached it's 'zenith' I suppose you could say (on the verge of cumming) but then it sort of subsided and eventually went limp lol. I noticed that my face was tingling for quite a bit of the session. Never experienced that before. But a few years ago I was with another escort and the same thing happened (got an erection and nearly came but then went down) But this experience was MUCH better overall. Have any of you experienced anything similar and if so, what did you do to try and change the situation in the future? Cheers.
I don't recall anyone referring to it as 'evil' exactly, RP. Certainly many people are embarrassed to talk about it. I don't personally but I'm sure many do. It's certainly seen as a taboo by many 'normal folk' if it's used for anything other than procreation. But the thing is, I don't care what they think. The fact that for the entire time I had an erection proves that this wasn't a problem for me. I have a few theories of my own. 1) Usually when I jack-off to porn, the duration lasts between 90 and 120 mins, as I take breathers in between. This session was only an hour. Maybe it just wasn't enough time. 2) Perhaps trying too many techniques was the problem. I was thinking to maybe stick to oral & foreplay next time (which will be next Wednesday, although I'll have the luxury of two women at the same time, which should help ) 3) Maybe the oral technique didn't quite agree with me. She started to speed it up a little too soon. I think slow, deep oral until my cock is ready to give way is better, at least for me because I never try and force it to cum before it's ready. Maybe I should suggest that next week....
Are you sure? Sometimes actions speak louder than words.......or in place of words.Ever wonder why?Thing is, it doesn't matter whether you want to care what they think or not. It seems that you probably do whether you realize it or not. Indoctrination is the word I'd use. Again, all speculation.But climax....release....ejaculation is the moment of truth. Erections are pretty much autonomous. Climax requires letting go. Losing all inhibitions. Losing control, in fact. Some part of your psyche doesn't want that to happen. Again, I was guessing. I don't know you. I just know how I was raised. And most kids are raised the same way I was. The psychology of sex is not a simple thing. But if you're getting an erection but can't climax, it's more likely that it's psychological rather than physical. It's possible that there's a physical problem. I'm assuming you can cum fine when you masturbate alone? I snipped your theories for the sake of brevity but they're not bad. It is possible that you've just gotten really accustomed to jacking off to the point to where you actually need to do it a certain way every time. I noticed that when I try other methods, I find my pleasure goes down. I love to wank and I have a way that I like to do it. It's like a comfortable pair of shoes. I don't know if I'd ever be able to cum with the hottest woman in the world without jacking off just because that's what I've done for so long anything else feels unnatural.
I tend to agree with your last point, RP. I think I've become accustomed to doing it a certain way, which is slow and sensual and I can only cum when my dick is ready and not a moment before. I've also myself tried jacking-off quickly if I find things not working but when I've done that, it's just left me breathless but it hasn't made any difference. It still deflated after a while. Eventually, if the situation was like that, I'd just stop and do it another time.
So, how long does it take normally for you to get a guy to cum by sucking his dick (trying to put it tactfully, of course)? There are different types of oral, too. Maybe I need deeper sucking and ball-licking i.e. more stimulation.
BTW, are you telling me that when someone watches porn, they cum within 20 mins? There is no chance I'd be able to do that. Even if I could, I wouldn't want to. I see sex as something to be enjoyed and prolonged, not something to try and get over with asap. Maybe that means there's something physiologically wrong with me but that's the way I am, sorry about that.
How would I know if someone comes within 20 minutes or not? There are 6 billion people on this planet. I'm saying that most individuals have a time limit as to how long they can suck dick before their jaws start hurting, and it's a lot shorter than 90 minutes. I have no idea if you take so long to come for physiological or psychological reasons, I was pointing out that your desire for 1 1/2 to two hours of sustained oral stimulation is not very realistic. If the two women you're about to see can fulfill your request, more power to you.
My experience is that guys take about 5 minutes to get off with oral, but I knew one guy who wouldn't even let me try, because he said it had been tried before and wouldn't work. So it varies. It wouldn't be very unusual for a guy to take 20 minutes. One way to make things go a little easier is to do some oral, then have sex until he's ready to cum, then switch back to oral, which is then usually quick and satisfying. I mentioned this to one guy who had trouble getting off from oral, and he said, "a light bulb went off" in his head. He tried it, and, problem solved! No more wife with an aching jaw, and he got what he wanted.
Now, I never said that that my desire was for 90 minutes to two hours oral stimulation. I said that's how long I take to cum when watching porn. I do take regular breaks, though, I don't jerk-off for 90 minutes without stopping.
That's what we did, lindi. But the oral only lasted about a couple of mins before having sex. She tried to get me to jerk-off by doing a fast handjob but it wouldn't work, simply because I wasn't ready to cum. The oral definately needs to be longer. Maybe a bit of ball-licking might also get me to explode quicker. Perhaps slightly deeper sucking & trying with no hands, too.
I'm a bit late on this thread but I think the reason you didn't cum wasn't the level of stimulation but the situation. As you say yourself you received enough stimulation to get you to the brink and I'm sure if deep within your psyche you had been more relaxed with the situation you would have orgasmed. This is a situation that seems to affect women more than men - the need to be relaxed with the situation whatever the level of physical stimulation - but it ceratainly affects men too and has affected me before. An old workmate of mine some years ago had an affair. Despite the sex being waaay better than his old relationship (and despite the fact that the sex only started after he had split up from his wife) he told me it took him a couple of weeks before he was able to ejaculate, he could get himself right to the brink but somehow was unable to 'let go'. SNP.
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Posted - Sep 17 2007 : 10:39AM
I agree with Sir Noel Plum. Being relaxed is the key. How relaxed can you feel within an hour of knowing someone new? Same thing happened to me too. You have to be able to let all inhibitions go from your mind so that you can concentrate 100% on the sex and fun you are having. 99.9% might bring you to the brink, but only 100% will bring you relief! Some part of you might have been thinking about what she is thinking of you, which could bring you back from the edge.
How relaxed can you feel within an hour of knowing someone new? Well with a prostitute you will never have to see again you should be able to be very relaxed.
Posted - Aug 29 2007 : 3:41AM