have you talked to her about it? is this a rule she has stated? or oral just isn't happening anymore?
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| cubicledood Member los angeles, ca 15 Posts 7/00 |  Posted - Aug 1 2000 : 9:05AMMy gf and I have been together for about a year now. Early in our relationship, we limited our imtimacy to oral sex. Later when we began to engage in intercourse, my gf no longer gives or allows me to perform oral sex on her. Any suggestions. [Link] |
| Janitor Retired Porno movies, sexy videos, xxx. Adult DVD Talk at your service. 6409 Posts 11/99 | Posted - Aug 1 2000 : 9:26AM have you talked to her about it? is this a rule she has stated? or oral just isn't happening anymore? [Link] |
| cubicledood Member los angeles, ca 15 Posts 7/00 | Posted - Aug 1 2000 : 9:39AM [Link] |
| Janitor Retired Porno movies, sexy videos, xxx. Adult DVD Talk at your service. 6409 Posts 11/99 | Posted - Aug 1 2000 : 9:51AM I wish I had better advice to give, but I think the only thing you can do is try to get to the bottom of why she's not interested in oral sex by talking with her. "I don't feel like it" is the general excuse for I'm embarrased to talk about it - or something to that effect. Maybe you can make her more comfortable talking about it with a nice dinner at home, a little wine, candlelight, etc. [Link] |
| cubicledood Member los angeles, ca 15 Posts 7/00 | Posted - Aug 1 2000 : 10:11AM Just another question that I've been wanting to ask. For the past couple of months, the few times that she has gone down there shes only been willing to put my testicles in her mouth, shes been reluctant to suck on my shaft. Is this her way of weaning me off oral sex. I could understand if she were worried about me shooting in her mouth but I've never done that. We used a condom for bj or I've always cum in a towel. Thanks again. I can't exactly go to any of my friends for advice since most of them are not in sexual relationships yet. [Link] |
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| Oneloa Member 848 Posts 2/00 | Posted - Aug 1 2000 : 11:01AM Is she feeling self-conscious about herself? I've noticed that women act very strangely when they're not feeling right with themselves. On the opposite side, when they are feeling really sexy and gorgeous, they are much more sexual. Has she put on some weight or dealing with stress? Something that might make her feel less sexy? Even if you haven't noticed that she put on 10 pounds... trust me... she has! As for her only sucking on your balls... I'm not sure at all. Especially if you've never cum in her mouth. Has she gagged on you at all? I could never make it as a woman... I gag from brushing my tongue. So, maybe she's avoiding it. Also, are you keeping everything super clean down there? A long day of heat and sweat can make things a little pungent. [Link] |
| Janitor Retired Porno movies, sexy videos, xxx. Adult DVD Talk at your service. 6409 Posts 11/99 | Posted - Aug 1 2000 : 11:37AM The balls I don't really get either - unless she has TMJ. TMJ is really common, most people don't know they have it. It's some kind of jaw thing that makes it painful to give a blowjob, chew overcooked steak, open the mouth really wide - you get the picture. [Link] |
| cubicledood Member los angeles, ca 15 Posts 7/00 | Posted - Aug 1 2000 : 12:09PM She gags every once in a while but only when she deep throats. I've become very attentive to my personal hygiene since I've met her and wash very thoroughly down there. Even if we've just showered or we are actually in the shower, its still a no go. This is something that bothers me a bit but I do love her and will just learn to live without it. Maybe I'm just being selfish but I miss getting blow jobs. [Link] |
| Oneloa Member 848 Posts 2/00 | Posted - Aug 1 2000 : 4:27PM I'm stumped! I would talk to her about it. Ask her why she won't allow you to go down on her. If you mention her going down on you, she could have any reason (like before), like "I just don't want to...". But, there aren't many excuses she can have about not letting you go down on her. Sooner or later, she'll have to give you a reason. I may be alone in my feeling here, but I think couples owe it to each other to tell them the things they do and don't like in bed. [Link] |
astroknight  Questionable Moderator Tastes so good... 4187 Posts 11/99 | Posted - Aug 1 2000 : 6:45PM [Link] |
| -lunacy- Senior Member 1081 Posts 4/00 | Posted - Aug 1 2000 : 7:26PM It's so hard to know without knowing her and how she responds to things and why. I guess if it were me, I would light some candles, lay her down on the bed with me and tell her I would like to talk about sex. ( make sure your smiling and touching her gently, not neccessarily sexually, but caressing ) I'd say, "honey, I've noticed you don't seem to like oral sex anymore and was wondering if there was something I had done wrong?" ( takes pressure and accusation out of the equation ) She will probably give you the, I don't know, I don't wanna talk about it. Persist gently. "I care about you and it seems that something must be wrong for that part of our sex lives to just cease, please talk to me." I dunno..lol..I hate not being able to help more.  Please don't take my scripting the wrong way, but I can only suggest what I assume I would do in that situation. And by the way...Welcome to ADVD cubicledood! ------------------ "I'm glad I amuse myself."-Lunacy [Link] |
| Darkmage Member State of Denial 328 Posts 11/99 |  Posted - Aug 1 2000 : 7:56PMMy theory is that she doesn't like giving oral sex, and she was originally doing it as a prelude to "regular" sex. Not because of anything you did, I just think she wasn't ready to "go all the way" and was limited the relationship to oral sex until she became comfortable. Now that you two are more intimate, she no longers wants to perform oral sex on you. I can understand this, not everyone likes to do this. However, I suspect that she is a concerned that if you perform oral sex on her, she will feel guilty about not reciprocating for you. In order to avoid feeling guilty about not going down on you, she is attempting to avoid you going down on her. Unfortunately, I don't have a solution other than those mentioned above. And again, this is only a theory, but it makes sense to my mind. Of course, this is my mind we're talking about and it never did work quite correctly. Good luck. ------------------ [Link] |
| cubicledood Member los angeles, ca 15 Posts 7/00 | Posted - Aug 1 2000 : 9:17PM Thanks to all for responding. Astro, I don't think its that I'm being too aggressive while eating her out since she does like to push my face into her. When I can convince to let me do it, its great for both of us. Lunacy-thanks for the script, didn't happen quite like you described but you were right about the "i don't know" reply Darkmage - thats an interesting theory, probably some merit to it in my case but I've always told her that I don't expect anything in return when I pleasure her. Shes given me plenty of handjobs without me reciprocating right away so I think it balances out. [Link] |
| biggun Member outthere 67 Posts 7/00 |  Posted - Aug 1 2000 : 9:24PM[Link] |
| cubicledood Member los angeles, ca 15 Posts 7/00 | Posted - Aug 1 2000 : 9:24PM I can see how a girl would consider getting on her knees and sucking dick demeaning. We usually do it while I'm on my back but that could still be a submissive position for her. I've always been careful not to ram her head onto my shaft and don't talk dirty to her while shes doing it. No "take it bitch" type comments. Shes likes it when I say that to her during intercourse but I've never said it during a bj. [Link] |
| Darkmage Member State of Denial 328 Posts 11/99 | Posted - Aug 2 2000 : 8:19PM There could be several reasons why she doesn't want to give blowjobs. You mentioned a good one. It could be the idea turns her off, she doesn't like the taste, she wants to get to the sex faster... They're all valid theories. ------------------ "There's a sucker born every minute, but swallowers are hard to find." ------------------ Who is [ invalid url ] | The [url=464724]Darkmage Special</A [Link] |
| -lunacy- Senior Member 1081 Posts 4/00 | Posted - Aug 3 2000 : 7:40PM [Link] |
| CoPPerTone Member 7 Posts 8/00 | Posted - Aug 11 2000 : 2:05AM [Link] |
| biggun Member outthere 67 Posts 7/00 |  Posted - Aug 11 2000 : 10:53AM[Link] |
| Big_Gun Member Under a rock 30 Posts 7/00 | Posted - Sep 20 2000 : 12:48PM Most times I don't even finish but I always make sure she does. [Link] |
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