My girlfriend recently gave me a "gift certificate" to a sex toy store. I can get anything in there that's reasonably priced (I imagine she means nothing over $35). It's really weird, but I'm totally blanking on what I want to get, or what I should get.

I mean, this is a gift to me; yet at the same time, I feel it would be customary to get something that would have some side benefits for her as well. I really want to engage this thing here, because I think it's a great gesture on her part to add something new to our sex life; and to be more open about things.

So, I could get one of those butt sleeves that simulates anal sex; but then what happens when we get back to my place or hers? She just sits there and watches me fake butt fuck this thing, and watch me groan wildly over a piece of rubber? Obviously, if I went that route, it would be something I would just do in my own time on the side. I don't know, that possibility just seems a little lame. She's doing something really creative here, and I feel the fruits of her creativity should involve her, too.

I've thought about going the porn route; it's an area we've never gone before. But, I've got a decent stash of porn already, and I could just bust one of those out. I don't think it would faze her either, she doesn't buy in to the idea that facials are degrading, which is probably the biggest beef in terms of one individual sex act that most women have. Anal has become such an accepted sex act in terms of people knowing it happens and that certain people really like it, that seeing it on film I don't think would bother her. I think it's maybe more just a matter of her general attitude towards porn, which I perhaps need to feel out a little more. I've always sort of kept it a separate thing from her.

I could use some help and ideas on this. Is there anyone out there who has made a similar excursion with a significant other, with the same mental parameters going in?