Unless she specifically asked you to pick out a movie for her. That might be a little different scenario.

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It's nicer for her to remember a first experience that is about you and her, and how you couldn't take your eyes off her and how she was trembling as you unbuttoned her blouse rather than how she trembled as Shayna Plumbottom got boned in doggie.

And wouldn't it be nice to let her develop her own natural sexual responses, rather than wondering if she's saying, "Oh yeah, Hell yeah, oh yeah, Hell yeah, oh yeah, Hell yeah, oh yeah, Hell yeah," because Britney Havatit just said it in Cumcatchers 11? There's a whole lot of things in porn that she doesn't need to be wondering if she's expected to do.

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(Just so you know, 3 of the replies in this thread are from women's points of view.)

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I guess you guys (and ladies, of course) are right.

Thanks again!

hayto

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Remember there's no rush to try everything the first time.

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As erotica goes, reading her a salacious story would probably work much better than porn.

Since I first started interacting with women in a sexual way, post-puberty, I've noticed that many respond much more favorably to written or spoken (and tasteful, and subtle, two things often lacking in porn) descriptions of sexual scenarios than they do to visual stimuli.

Among the benefits to this approach: you can often find out what some of her hot-button turn-ons are without figuring out how to word awkward questions like "are you turned on by the thought of my hands and mouth on or near your genitals?" Much less "I'd love to eat your pussy. May I put my face between your shapely, firm thighs now and tongue your holes?"

Instead, as you read her a description of oral ministrations, you might stop, notice she is flushed and breathing a little more heavily (all this, of course, implies powers of observation on your part, but I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt here), and say "would you like to try something like that?" If she says "yes", you might say "how about right now ?"

And smile. (But not a creepy, wolfish smile while thinking "I'm gonna get me some", that'll freak her out, and rightly so.)

Many and varied are the stories and topics and settings in erotic fiction. Your challenge would be to find something well-written, engaging, hot but not so crude that it's off-putting, and covering some of the areas of sexuality you would like to introduce into discussions with your lady friend without scaring the bejeezus out of her or making her nauseated.

Because the trick is communicating -- once you get a dialogue going, things will progress quickly.

It's one thing to want to know if she masturbates (and never knowing how to ask) and quite another to have her describe her technique to you and what she fantasizes about while she does it, of her own free will, because she's so turned on she'll say or do anything ..

That's a nice feeling. Mmmmm...memories.

Anyway, I say all this because I used to write erotic love letters to girlfriends in high school, and it was a pretty effective way to get those dialogues started. (If you're careful, because "I never knew you wanted to do that to my Mom, you freak. Don't ever call me again." is NOT the reaction you wanted.)

Stopping along the way to ask "what do you think of that?" may help her make some of those discoveries you've heard about.

Be her gentle but firm guide to the world of carnal pleasure.

But not a carny. Carnies are scary.

Relax, have fun, be honest and open, and don't rush her. She'll probably never like Rocco movies, and that's perfectly OK.

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Ciao

hayto

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