Why so many men dont like female domination?

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FireRain Member 8 Posts 10/06	Posted - Jul 11 2007 : 2:18PM I dont speak about BDSM-Movies. I speak about normal (porn) girls being in charge. Just imagine a female "Max HC". Why the guys are turned off by this? I'm only seeing girls being fucked hard, when they have the submissive part. 99.9999% of all straight porn is meant. Sure there are exceptions like the "power bitches" series but all in all very rare. Look, in reallife the girls are in charge very often, at least in my relationships. So why not in porn? I think because most men dislike it. BUT WHY? I dont get it... [Link]
Hardware All-Star Member Your other left 14595 Posts 3/02	Posted - Jul 11 2007 : 2:25PM I like a woman who can be assertive as well as submissive, but a female Max Hardcore doesn't interest me. [Link]
conquistador Deactivated User Hellhamster. 2947 Posts 10/03	Posted - Jul 11 2007 : 2:26PM Isn't just that the people "dislike it" enough of a reason for them not to want to see it? You already have the "why". [Link]
LCF All-Star Member Non Prevalebunt! 10364 Posts 1/05	Posted - Jul 11 2007 : 2:27PM I have no problem with women in charge , but I absolutely don't like anything similar to max' stuff that is not sex that is despice of persons that is mistreatment I like the idea a girl wants to guide the sex , actually the idea everything she's doing is for her pleasure is kinda arousing, but not max's stuff [Link]
FireRain Member 8 Posts 10/06	Posted - Jul 11 2007 : 2:34PM Ok, it hasn't to be as rough as MAX HC Stuff (didn't see much of him, so this example is maybe displaced), but as Laurie wrote it would be nice watching a girl forcing a guy for her pleasure. [Link]

ShiWarrior Senior Member 1170 Posts 8/01	Posted - Jul 11 2007 : 2:35PM Laurie Cameron Fan wrote: I have no problem with women in charge , but I absolutely don't like anything similar to max' stuff that is not sex that is despice of persons that is mistreatment I like the idea a girl wants to guide the sex , actually the idea everything she's doing is for her pleasure is kinda arousing, but not max's stuff Click to expand +1 Personaly I dont like BDSM etc, but I prefer a women in charge over a Man being in charge, if i had a choice to watch a film where either a) a bloke is in charge and being dominant to a women or b) a women being the dominant one over a man, I would choose b everytime, I hate rape bdsm etc, more so when its a guy that does it on a female becuase females are the ones to take care of and to be kind and gentle too, not hurt her {If you have't seen over 100 Big Boobs films, where have you been?} [Link]
FireRain Member 8 Posts 10/06	Posted - Jul 11 2007 : 2:42PM @shi Im interested in the opinion off other men chosing a) or b). I guess most will chose a. [Link]
Hardware All-Star Member Your other left 14595 Posts 3/02	Posted - Jul 11 2007 : 2:58PM Actually, I prefer a and b. Changing dynamics are much more interesting than the standard domination stuff. [Link]
mrdngm Member 754 Posts 11/04	Posted - Jul 11 2007 : 4:19PM FireRain wrote: . . . Look, in reallife the girls are in charge very often, at least in my relationships. So why not in porn? . . . Click to expand That's why not in porn. [Link]
Johnothan Pedak Senior Member Catastrophe 1594 Posts 6/07	Posted - Jul 11 2007 : 5:27PM We all know that in the real world the ladies have the power. So porn is a way for men to feel like they've got the power. Even if it's a fantasy. [Link]
zorge Member 278 Posts 8/06	Posted - Jul 11 2007 : 5:29PM Yeah, I'm really turned on by dominant women in real life, but not so interested in seeing it in film, and the reason is that it makes the male the center of attention, which I'm not so much interested in watching. But in theory I would prefer this. I guess it would have to be shot in a different perspective than I'm used to. I know some scenes in Joey Silvera's Service Animals are like that, but I have a hard time enjoying those scenes. But maybe that's a bit too BDSM. As for Max HC, he's a creep. I don't think there could be a female version. There shouldn't be a male version already. [Link]
Hardware All-Star Member Your other left 14595 Posts 3/02	Posted - Jul 11 2007 : 5:50PM I don't get that a dominating female puts the center of attention on the guy. The camera determines the center of attention, after all. [Link]
Von Hugenstein Member 63 Posts 2/06	Posted - Jul 11 2007 : 7:17PM Plus a 'woman in charge' is likely to be a grinding machine, not a 'sit back and pound me' type dealio. [Link]
Dracula Member Women's necks are too damned sexy for me! 756 Posts 3/06	Posted - Jul 11 2007 : 8:12PM The only reason I don't like female domination in XXX films is because the female neck is usually covered with thick collars or costumes. [Link]
nietzsche Deactivated User 5470 Posts 8/03	Posted - Jul 11 2007 : 10:03PM I want to be pistol whipped by Hailey Page. [Link]

Dean Wormer Senior Member Fat, drunk and stupid is no way to go through life, son. 1048 Posts 7/04	Posted - Jul 12 2007 : 3:28AM I could get into an office scenario where the hot female boss coerces the guy into having sex. Really, any situation where the woman was the authority figure. Cop, teacher, psychiatrist etc. [Link]
Gunzo Senior Member 1377 Posts 2/05	Posted - Jul 12 2007 : 6:35AM I think that many male performers don't want to jeopardize their image. I mean... imagine Rocco being dominated... both men and women would look at him diffirently afterwards. It sounds kind of ridiculous though... [Link]
gladtobeblazed Member 83 Posts 5/07	Posted - Jul 12 2007 : 8:15AM I love being dominated by females and I enjoy pornography that depicts this. Sadly, most of the time I'm dominated by my right hand... [Link]
LubeNLuv Senior Member 1854 Posts 3/06	Posted - Jul 12 2007 : 8:37AM FireRain wrote: Look, in reallife the girls are in charge very often, at least in my relationships. So why not in porn? I think because most men dislike it. BUT WHY? I dont get it... Click to expand You are right. You DON'T get it. That's a huge generalization based largely on your own experiences. [Link]
popdog Member 865 Posts 5/05	Posted - Jul 12 2007 : 9:19AM nietzsche wrote: I want to be pistol whipped by Hailey Page. Click to expand [Link]
conquistador Deactivated User Hellhamster. 2947 Posts 10/03	Posted - Jul 12 2007 : 9:21AM Gunzo wrote: I think that many male performers don't want to jeopardize their image. I mean... imagine Rocco being dominated... both men and women would look at him diffirently afterwards. It sounds kind of ridiculous though... Click to expand I think Rocco's image took a huge hit when he started putting his name on trannie movies. [Link]
christianx Senior Member 1883 Posts 9/04	Posted - Jul 12 2007 : 11:35AM i love dominant women.....its my favorite kind of scene [Link]
HarryWild Member Make me believe 622 Posts 2/05	Posted - Jul 12 2007 : 2:46PM I know a study back ten years about who hires the services of dominatrixs; they turn out to be men and some women who had alot of authority over vast numbers of people. They were the CEO of fortune 500 companies in the most cases and many Hollywood studio heads. It seems that these people what to be dominanted for a change. Isn't life crazy sometimes! [Link]
Hardware All-Star Member Your other left 14595 Posts 3/02	Posted - Jul 12 2007 : 5:00PM I'm sure it is a relief not to have to make the decisions. [Link]
LCF All-Star Member Non Prevalebunt! 10364 Posts 1/05	Posted - Jul 13 2007 : 7:25AM HarryWild wrote: I know a study back ten years about who hires the services of dominatrixs; they turn out to be men and some women who had alot of authority over vast numbers of people. They were the CEO of fortune 500 companies in the most cases and many Hollywood studio heads. It seems that these people what to be dominanted for a change. Isn't life crazy sometimes! Click to expand Man I meant in charge of sex , I meant the girl chooses either positions , rhytm , act and so on , she chooses when she wants me down on her or if she wants to ride and so . Neither I like to be dominated by a woman or a man in any situation in my real life [Link]

BIGmike B-I-G-m-i-k-e 2335 Posts 3/01	Posted - Jul 13 2007 : 10:23AM FireRain wrote: I dont speak about BDSM-Movies. I speak about normal (porn) girls being in charge. Just imagine a female "Max HC". Why the guys are turned off by this? Click to expand I'd get off on that. I like, and have always liked the idea of being controlled by a female. (Since I was 5ish, when that fetish started.) If there were a female version of Max HC, I wouldn't only love to see it, but I would volunteer myself to be degraded anyway she saw fit to degrade me. The only downside would be it looks unnatural when the chick is normally submissive or quite, she has to be natural a take charge woman, can't fake that shit or it looks wrong. "When they're runnin' down my country, man, they're walkin' on the fightin' side of me." [Link]
codswallop Member 39 Posts 11/06	Posted - Jul 14 2007 : 10:02AM I wouldn't mind being dominated by Lauren Phoenix! That would be fantastic! Yep, I'm all for assertive females in porn. I'd start buying new films again if this was the case. [Link]
The Porn Doctor Member 218 Posts 7/07	Posted - Jul 15 2007 : 9:52AM I don't care for female domination unless it was done by Natalie Portman. [Link]
matrixman Member 148 Posts 8/03	Posted - Jul 15 2007 : 12:57PM I like it. I have a feeling that there are other men out there that like it as well, but maybe never experienced it since most women are shy to be in control and dominate. I love to have my women straddle my face and I feel dominated like she is forcing me to eat her pussy and nothing else. And my dick gets rock hard while this is happening. [Link]
Dither Persona non grata I love America 650 Posts 8/05	Posted - Jul 15 2007 : 1:03PM I don't mind seeing women taking charge. I wouldn't enjoy watching them abuse the guys, but then I don't enjoy watching guys abuse the girls either. I think the most important thing is that the woman is in focus and has the leading role, because it's her I want to see. [Link]
Leeroy Magic Member 178 Posts 6/07	Posted - Jul 15 2007 : 1:08PM I like it in the sex...like with Paola Rey rolling her hips hard and getting really into fucking the guy more than he fucks her. Another example is in Pigtails Round Asses 3 with Sandra Romain. She’s on all four getting fucked before she says he’s too tired to fuck her. So she has him back up into the corner of the couch and she backs her ass up into it saying “it’s better like this you fucking lazy guy”…”eat your fucking burger”. And she basically fucks him. That kind of domination is hot. But the domination of the girl walking on the guy with high heels, smacking him, having him kiss her boots doesn't turn me on as much. Don't get me wrong it doesn't "bother" me. I'm not offended by it or turned off, it's just not as hot to me. And in a way can be overdone because the focus moves to the guy and not to the girl. There is some female on male domination in the Service Animals series. And Brother Love gets kicked and punched in the balls ocassionally by a few girls in his POV series. Again not as hot as seeing more domination in actual sex in my opinion. I'd personally like to see more sexual energy from the women. See her slam the guy against a wall and start sucking and basically use him for sex. That's the domination I like. [Link]
Leeroy Magic Member 178 Posts 6/07	Posted - Jul 15 2007 : 1:13PM Also verbal abuse from women is hot in my opinion. I enjoy the Kick Ass DVDs where the girl talks shit to the guys before sex. I find it funny and erotic at the same time. Grrl Power! is a great series known for that. [Link]
Cerebral Jedi Senior Member I don't trust men who don't like big tits. 1067 Posts 12/04	Posted - Jul 15 2007 : 2:28PM It's cool with me, as long as it doesn't involve her sticking something in the guys ass or making him suck something like it's a dick. [Link]
Johnothan Pedak Senior Member Catastrophe 1594 Posts 6/07	Posted - Jul 15 2007 : 6:03PM What a horrible thought. "Your world will burn until its surface is but glass" [Link]
john thomas Deactivated User 1168 Posts 6/06	Posted - Jul 15 2007 : 6:21PM Venus Girls seem to be doing well enough specialising in just this sort of thing. There must be enough guys interested to keep them in business. [Link]

codswallop Member 39 Posts 11/06	Posted - Jul 16 2007 : 5:58PM matrixman wrote: I like it. I have a feeling that there are other men out there that like it as well, but maybe never experienced it since most women are shy to be in control and dominate. I love to have my women straddle my face and I feel dominated like she is forcing me to eat her pussy and nothing else. And my dick gets rock hard while this is happening. Click to expand Precisely my thoughts exactly! Now if only some studio can be bothered to make some like this! [Link]
dvd4dvd Deactivated User 292 Posts 6/07	Posted - Jul 17 2007 : 2:38AM ofcourse most real men are turned off by this. most real men love for the babe to be submissive. like in Rocco's movies where he's banging babes from behind while they are on all fours and as he's banging from behind he's always got one of his feet stepping on her face while she's sucking his toe beyond belief. now that's what I call submissive. if that's not having a babe being submissive, I don't know what is!. most real men with balls of steel don't like to be bullied and bossed around and be manhandled. [Link]
RandomPrecision Senior Member Enjoy! 8175 Posts 3/06	Posted - Jul 17 2007 : 3:30AM FireRain wrote: Look, in reallife the girls are in charge very often, at least in my relationships. So why not in porn? I think because most men dislike it. BUT WHY? I dont get it... Click to expand I think you just answered your own question. Porn is fantasy material produced primarily for men. Porn isn't meant to be a reality show. Who wants a porn DVD with no sex? [Link]
matrixman Member 148 Posts 8/03	Posted - Jul 18 2007 : 1:46AM most real men with balls of steel don't like to be bullied and bossed around and be manhandled. most real men are turned off by this. most real men love for the babe to be submissive. Click to expand Most real men are not that insecure with themselves in which they believe that by having a women be the dominant in sex makes them less of a man. I like to really bend my women over and be dominant, but at the same time I like her to be in control sometimes ordering me to eat her pussy while she sits on my face. Now I don't see your reasoning in how that makes me less of a "real man". [Link]
Hardware All-Star Member Your other left 14595 Posts 3/02	Posted - Jul 18 2007 : 1:57AM Dominant is not the same as S/M domination. If my girlfriend walks up and grabs my cock I don't think, "How dare she act dominant!?" I think, "WooHoo! Sex!!!!" lol [Link]
dvd4dvd Deactivated User 292 Posts 6/07	Posted - Jul 18 2007 : 2:04AM funny hardware funny. [Link]
Gunzo Senior Member 1377 Posts 2/05	Posted - Jul 18 2007 : 2:33AM Then I think that it's not as nutural for women to be dominant, just like it's less natural for men to be submissive. I like the combination, the guy turns the girl on by being dominant, then the girl is getting dominant because she's turned on. [Link]
amneth Member 91 Posts 9/05	Posted - Jul 18 2007 : 9:42AM I know why I don't like it: feels unnatural. I'm a big man. It would take an absolutely huge and strong woman to dominate me. I don't think that type of woman would be physically attractive to me. It's natural for men to dominate women. It's the way it should be. If it were any different, it would mean that all the aggression had been bred out of men. I wouldn't allow that to happen to myself. You want to be bred into a submissive male, have at it. [Link]
Hardware All-Star Member Your other left 14595 Posts 3/02	Posted - Jul 18 2007 : 1:39PM You might want to read up on bonobo society. Females dominate the social order. While they act in concert to prevent male aggression against each other, this has not bred out male aggression. It has, however, meant that there is no reward for being the most aggressive male, so bonobos are less violent than chimpanzees. [Link]
Seth666 Member 645 Posts 10/05	Posted - Jul 18 2007 : 2:02PM HarryWild wrote: I know a study back ten years about who hires the services of dominatrixs; they turn out to be men and some women who had alot of authority over vast numbers of people. It seems that these people what to be dominanted for a change. Click to expand This is true, in sex people tends to feel pleasure being the opposite of what they are in normal life; if they have a powerful rank in their works, they wants to be dominated in their sexual life. I see women as equals in my everyday life, and i prefer an equality relationship in sex too, but always being a little more dominant than the girl. And in movies i prefer to see submissive girls, i love them!!! Edited by - hardware on 7/18/2007 2:21:30 PM [Link]
illmatic Member 194 Posts 9/06	Posted - Jul 18 2007 : 6:47PM I think scenes like this are great as long as the girl doesn't stick things up the dude's butt. Then it's not cool anymore. [Link]
michelle aston Member "Hillary Scott is cute, but she looks cuter with my fist up her ass." from set of Upload f 22 Posts 3/07	Posted - Jul 19 2007 : 1:44AM Great topic! [Link]
skronker Notable Legendary Icon Scopophiliac 9780 Posts 9/02	Posted - Jul 19 2007 : 2:15AM Grrrr ... [Link]
Savoy All-Star Member Sucker for Sinners 1844 Posts 12/06	Posted - Jul 19 2007 : 4:41AM Perhaps because a submissive female seems more accessible... [Link]
Dan Senior Member 2056 Posts 6/07	Posted - Jul 19 2007 : 8:56PM FireRain wrote: I don't speak about BDSM-Movies. I speak about normal (porn) girls being in charge. Just imagine a female "Max HC". Why the guys are turned off by this? .... Click to expand If the lady in charge does anals and DP's with two or three guys. Then I would enjoy watching this kind of a scene. It would be nice to see an assertive lady in a standing DP spank the guys taking turns in her ass to make them bang her ass harder. Actually there is such a scene in 'Debauchery #12'. Four guys take turns DAPing Sandra Romain's ass. And during her DAP's she spanks and slaps the guys to make them DAP her ass harder. These obedient guys fly in and out of her ass like there is no tomorrow. They hold nothing back on her. Perhaps many female-dominant scenes are not very popular with porn-fans because the dominant lady prances around too much and doesn't get a lot of penetrations from the guys. When female dominance leads to less sex, then of course it's not something porn fans enjoy watching. But when the lady dominates and bullies the guys into banging her pussy and ass harder and faster, then I'm sure that this kind of female dominance would be very popular among porn fans. [Link]
khyber Member 197 Posts 5/06	Posted - Jul 24 2007 : 1:21AM The whole dominant/submissive dynamic is not explored enough in porn in my view. I like to see the roles switched throughout the scene, where the guy can be dominant for some of the scene and the girl for the rest of the scene. I've seen this occasionally in porn, I've mentioned in other threads that scenes with Jake Malone and Annette Schwarz is an example of where you can find this type of action. Joey Silvera also uses this technique in some of his scenes as well. I'm not really into the whole dominatrix thing with all the typical outfits and procedures, but it is appealing in a straight sex scene for the woman to be in control. I agree with the original post that most porn has the guy in control. As to the question of why, I guess the market dictates what people want to see, but I personally would like to see some titles explore this area a bit more, I'd definitely be interested in buying. [Link]