If I was dating today, though, I do wonder if I'd run into the issues you raise.

And to be truthful, no, I can't relate to the high-glamor styling and/or very youthful appearance of most porn actresses. I don't feel forced to compete, but to enjoy the scene, I often have to look past the false eyelashes, long nails and augmented breasts. I really prefer to watch gay porn much of the time, where I don't have to deal with any of that. I also don't like the incessant theme of gendered power dynamics that permeates so much of straight porn today.

As far as the sex acts, I do many of them very naturally. I discovered anal sex only a month or two after my first vaginal experience with Mr. Yoga. It was a happy accident. I was doing facials before I ever saw them in porn or knew what they were called. I also like deepthroating, but that's a fairly recent and not yet consistent skill for me.

I'm just adventurous in these ways, I guess. Some women aren't, and that's okay, too.

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That said, I generally like sex and I like porn and if my boyfriend or I sees something we'd like to try we talk about it or watch it together and give it a try. I know where my lines are and any pressure to cross them just annoys me. Luckily I haven't had any problems in this area. I like to think my boyfriend and I have struck a good balance between flexibility and sensitivity.

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Edited by - Quasimodo on 12/29/2003 3:45:30 AM

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To tell you the truth, the worse boyfriend I ever had (I mean the worse one in bed) was a guy who wasn't into porn in any form, but he loved computers, video games, war movies, etc. His idea of a romantic evening was to sit in front of a computer and play some idiotic video war game, which combined all three of his interests. Once, he told me as we got into bed that we had to hurry up and get the sex over with quick, because there was a really good war movie on HBO, and he didn't want to miss any of it.

I agree with Kitty-Kat, that men shouldn't base their expectations too much on what they see in porn films. But she's right, there have been enough posts here on ADT, that indicate that is just what happens with a couple of guys, at least based on their questions. Imagine if I expected a man I'm dating to be like Rocco Siffredi or Manual Ferrara; wouldn't that be ridiculous of me?

I don't feel bad about bleached blondes with big fake tits , because I don't watch too many of those kinds of porn films. Honestly, I've been pleasantly surprised to see women in gonzo films that aren't picture perfect. Some of them are little overweight, or not too busty, or don't have perfect teeth, or whatnot. Just about any other entertainment, whether it be TV, mainstream movies, magazines and so on, rarely show a less than perfect woman, unless it's in a comedy role.

So, that's what I think.

Edited by - Renee on 12/29/2003 5:23:45 PM

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I see perfect bodies, chicks taking it up the ass, taking loads in their mouths, etc. etc. and sometimes wonder where the line between a paid fantasy ends and real sex lives begin.

On the other hand, porn has certainly broadened my horizons and encouraged me to try things I otherwise probably would not have.

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I as a 20 year old guy, have been watching porn for as long as I can remember...

The woman I have been going out with for about 2 1/2 years is probably into porn as much as I am. I guess I got lucky. We enjoy watching it together, and trying new things out, its a turn on to both of us. It helps us experiment, and find out what turns each other on...

Like I said I feel lucky to be with the person I am with, I dont know if i could be with someone who looked down on me watching porn, or told me to throw it out etc etc....

I dont want this to come of badly on woman who do no like to watch porn...I did not mean it to come off that way if it did...

Edited by - skullman80 on 1/3/2004 11:06:55 AM

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