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arrgy
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6 Posts
1/15
Posted - Jan 11 2015 : 2:49PM
When I was younger and in my 20s, sure I would date a porn star. Now that I am older, I wouldn't because I would try and get her out of porn, and that isn't fair to her especially if that is what she wanted to do with her life. I dated a number of girls who were into that lifestyle, with the drugs, parties, etc. and it is very difficult to get them away from that.
Draxxx
Senior Member

3831 Posts
2/07
Posted - Jan 11 2015 : 8:31PM
I'm not big on marriage either. I think you should be with a person as long as you're both happy and it's working and a piece of paper shouldn't make you feel obligated to stay with someone you're unhappy with. As long as youre both happy you stay together. For some people that only may be 6 months for other people that could be most of their lives. In either case you should be together because it's working and you'e happy not because of some made up laws on paper that makes their bond "legit" and harder to get out when that time comes. It's hard to stay with one person your whole life because people change over time and a couple might change in ways that make them less compatible.
Also, in case I wasn't clear I have no problem with sex or a girl doing porn or people who live a life style of open sex with others...if that's what they both agreed to and they're happy with that decision. But my definition of "girlfriend" means an exclusive sexual/emotional relationship. I have no problems with "fuck-buddies", "booty calls" or "friends with benefits" having the type of relationship that includes sex with other people because no commitment has been made and those types of relationships aren't meant for exclusivity. Of course these are my opinions and as long as the couple both agrees to whatever ground rules are set others can do whatever they want.
I do think sex is an intimate thing and I don't think I'm beng unresasonable or possesive if I don't want me girlfriend to share her body with others.
Edited by - draxxx on 1/11/2015 8:31:50 PM
rexthedestroyer
Member

16 Posts
10/08
Posted - Jan 11 2015 : 10:04PM
Nah, it's just fantasy for me and I would leave it at that. With that said, I wouldn't date a conventional celebrity for different but somewhat similar reasons. Their lives are just so different from mine that we would not be compatible. Notice how often actors marry other actors? You gotta be in that field to understand your partner.
I will say, this idea that porn stars are disease infected creatures that you would never want to put your penis in to, yet you wank to them nightly seems odd.
Edited by - rexthedestroyer on 1/11/2015 10:06:35 PM
davebowman
Member

294 Posts
6/09
Posted - Jan 12 2015 : 12:43AM
Would I? Sure - I'd date anybody.
I have a sneaky suspicion that for most people, however, the 'fantasy' of having some amazing super-hot pornstar girlfriend might not measure up to reality, at least not in the bed department. If your girlfriend has spent all day literally getting her arse pounded by huge dicks at work, is she really going to be desperate to do the same thing when she gets home? Unless she is seriously nympho, I suspect she's more likely to want to put her feet up, and recover enough for the next shoot she has booked.
I wouldn't be surprised if you ended up getting less action with a pornstar girlfriend than one who worked in just about any other industry.
 
Washington
Member

126 Posts
4/14
Posted - Jan 12 2015 : 10:46AM
As long as I was doing the choosing, certainly.
misspornUSA
Senior Member

I ♥ the male gaze (and Palestine).
8737 Posts
11/13
Posted - Jan 12 2015 : 11:32AM
I'm not a fan of monogamy, so my only problem with dating a pornstar, male or female, would be concern about the possibility of contracting one or more STDs.
bigfoot
Senior Member

1295 Posts
7/06
Posted - Oct 13 2015 : 6:18PM
Sorry for the late response but I have been on an extended porn break (since 2011). So, what I gather the crux of the question to be asking is "Would I date a porn star?" Given the way I look, the amount I weigh and the relative emptiness of my bank account, I find that prospect to be extremely unlikely. I was tempted to be a smart ass and respond with "Sure. And for $1,000 an hour (more for anal), I'm sure she'd date me" but that presupposes that all porn stars only have "dates" for money. I've corresponded with quite a few stars over the years, some on this very site, and know that to not be the case.
That said, even if the Gods smiled on me and today's biggest star, whoever that is, (again, I've been away from porn and have no idea who that is - is Seka still performing?...kidding) called me up and said Hi (NAME REDACTED). This is (NAME REDACTED). I've been reading your pasts posts and love the way you seemlessly weave respect and irreverence. God that turns me on. In the event that you do not know, I am currently the #1 rated female performer. Just looking at your profile picture of Angel from the Golden Age of Porn and reading how your favorite performers who seem to really get into the sex like Seka, Ginger Lynn (act 1), Angel Dark, Jenna Haze, Kimberly Kane, Inari Vachs, Naomi, Chloe, Tori Black, etc., Do you know what? Many of the women you've loved in porn are also among the smartest women in the industry. I see you were married to a physician and last dated a PhD. Clearly, you are looking for more than great sex. You are looking for substance. Allow me to tell you about myself. Sure, I've taken the porn world by storm, but to be honest, that is all hype. Truth be told, before I did this (on a whim), I was less than a year away from my Master's degree in Clinical Pyschology. When I leave the industry, I will take the Master's I recently received and put it to good use as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker.
(NAME REDACTED), the reason I am telling all of this to you is that I am going to be in your area...well, technically "our" area as I grew up a mere 45 minutes away and live, would you believe it, about five miles from where you live. I apologize if that is a bit stalker-isn but since it is usually the famous person being stalked, I have joyfully reversed the roles. I hope you don't mind. When I am there, i would love to have dinner with you and you can let that bald head trip the lights fantastic. Or, it could just be a quiet dinner followed by sex and a (minimum) three-year relationship (to which you can cancel at any time but I would have to pay you a steep penalty if I back out)? I promise to stay as fit as I am now and not get fake breasts. if, after meeting you, you want me to quit the industry, that is not a problem. If you are opkay with me working, I promise not to screw guys with a larger penis than yours and if they last longer than three minutes, I'm ending the scene. Oh, and one last thing. I realize that this could be a deal breaker, butI have a twin sister and while she is not in the industry, we've always dated the same guy at the same time...so, she'd be part of the package... as, uh, well, as would her lover who I'm sure you know as she is (NAME REDACTED), the Sports Illustrated and Victoria Secret Model. Now, she's never been with a guy before but says it's time and asked me to pick out that special someone. I think that is you. When I showed her your picture, the first thing she said was "Claimed!" Evidently, that is a phrase from The Walking Dead, which has something to do with zombies. My sister and (NAME REDACTED) are totally into zombies. Well, zombies and football -well, all sports, really. So, zombies, sports and, what was that last thing? Oh, that's right. Anal sex. The caveat here is that (NAME REDACTED) wanted me to ask you if you would take her anal cherry? Of course, you'd have to take mine and my sister's as well as we do everything together and yes, when I say everything, I mean everything. Apparantly, the thought of sleeping with twins at the same time is a big turnoff to most guys. I hope you are not one of them.
The very last thing is our age difference. I know you more than twice my age. I just turned twenty-one and, to be honest, out of shape, overweight, bald men are really my thing. I'm attaching some pictures of me clothed and not so much, with my sisters (my twin and two younger sisters - 19 and 18 - aren't they beautiful?). The picture with me and the three other women who look like me are my sisters (NAMES REDACTED). Don'rt worry about the nudity. We are all over 18 when we got together yesterday to take this picture just for you. I'd love to keep writing, but to be honest with you, the game is about to start.
Anyway, I hope forward to hearing from you."

So, yeah...nice fantasy but I think the answer would still be no. I am old fashioned, have never paid for sex (and yes, I know when you are in a relationship, man are you paying). I think the simple thing is that I am not open-minded enough toknow my woman is fucking some random guy. Knowing that is her job doesn't really help the situation for me. At heart, I am a romantic. the most special time for me is in bed with the woman I love, spooning - just holding each other and talking. Hearing about how she did a ten-guy blowing or double anal doesn't improve that situation.
I am not judging. That life is fine for someone. Just not me. I will also tell you that I recently saw a piece on 20/20 (I think) where the relayoipnship between Manuel Ferrara and Kayden Kross was featured. I guess she quit the business, they got married, had kids and live next door to Dana Vespoli, his ex-wife, adult actress and director. They asked Kayden how she dealt with the fact that Manuel asked her to stop doing porn (she did) but he still fucks everything. If you are being honest, there just isn't a good answer. He claims to be moving to Directing more films and starring in less. I do not know if this is true. Even so, it seems like he'd be walking on a razor's edge.
So, for old fashioned, old me, the answer is no. I do have $1,000 though (if Sunny Lane take's an IOU).

Edited by - bigfoot on 10/13/2015 6:19:04 PM

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