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cantgetlaid
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Posted - Nov 11 2019 : 9:05PM
I always found it very stressful. Every time I had a girlfriend I'd feel sick to my stomach hours a day due to the stress of I guess realizing she was out of my league and then realize it and poof gone . I made a conscious decision to remove stress sources from my life to the maximum I can such as now having a lower stress but lower paying job. However on occasion I feel less functioning human when I realize that it's been 12-13 years now since I've had sex but fortunately I have always had a pretty low sex drive .
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Posted - Nov 11 2019 : 11:26PM
I guess we can take it as read that you ignored the good advice you received the last time you brought this up.
AngryPirate
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Posted - Nov 12 2019 : 2:47AM
Avoidance is the best way to remain in your predicament. Dating and getting sex aren't always easy. You have to put yourself out there one way or another.

cantgetlaid
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Posted - Dec 22 2019 : 10:09PM
Well in my case it's literally life or death . The stress was causing me nausea, some other symptoms that made me extremely worried about my heart health. I'm no longer miserable . When I was having sex I was completely miserable . I can't say I'm happy but I'm not miserable and that's a drastic improvement . Isn't that a good thing ? Maybe some people weren't meant to
AngryPirate
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Posted - Dec 23 2019 : 5:42AM
Apologies if my assumption is wrong but have you sought therapy for what appears to be an inferiority complex/severe self-esteem issues on your part? Have you consulted a medical professional about the root cause(s) of your stress?

Some of the best advice I've been given is that you will never find happiness with others until you find it within yourself. I'd put money on this being why you always felt your girlfriends at the time were out of your league.

You have to be kinder to yourself and take the view that you are "good enough" for the next woman in your life. Yes, you will take punches (rejection, being dumped, "we've got to talk", etc) on the way but you can roll with them or get up if they knock you down. These setbacks are doing you a favour as she probably wasn't the right woman for you.

 
cantgetlaid
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Posted - Jan 19 2020 : 9:07AM
I've seen a psychiatrist and psychologist in the past after breakups (meaning I got dumped). Didn't help much. Me avoiding stuff honestly has me the happiest I've ever been. I used to be very miserable. I don't think I ever discussed stress but anxiety yes . Avoiding anxiety is a great thing. I used to feel sick to my stomach every day now I don't any more. However this has also impacted my career but I make enough to survive and that's all that matters. I don't care about being rich or successful . So do have anxiety a bit about what if I get laid off what kind of work will I be able to get in the future. I have limited marketability.
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Posted - Jan 19 2020 : 9:53AM
I have a mental illness which I take medication for. I am single, and don't feel comfortable in looking for dates or going out. Thankfully I do have a fuck buddy who I see once again, so she makes sure I am not going without sex.
DrexlSpivey
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Posted - Jan 26 2020 : 11:13AM
I avoid being in public as much as possible due to anxiety. It's my holistic approach since I fear getting addicted to Benzos like Xanax, Klonopins, etc.



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