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| Agbotech Member 52 Posts 11/09 |  Posted - Nov 16 2009 : 7:27PMBecause we are on a porn forum, saying that most of us take our porn seriously will be an understatement. When I was younger I was afraid to get married because my future wife may not let me watch porn. I've always been honest to my ex gfs about my porn, some had a problem with it and others accepted that with time. Then I got married to a prude, who hates porn and wanted me to stop watching porn. Porn has come between us in our marriage because that is something I will never stop. I love my wife but I love my porn too. We came to a compromise. As long as I keep her happy in the bed, I can watch my porn at my own time. But I know she isn't happy about it. Unlike some of you, I don't like watching porn and jerking off in my girls presence. The only way I can do that is if the girl is as hot as these pornstars. Most of us don't have wives as beautiful as Jessica Drake, Phoenix Marie or Kristina Rose . My question is: do you guys hide your porn from your girls or do they respect your privacy when it comes to porn? Has any of you guys had problems in your relationship about porn? [Link] |
| Power Stranger Member 56 Posts 7/09 | Posted - Nov 16 2009 : 9:43PM [Link] |
| redhead Member Not so redhead these days... 718 Posts 1/08 | Posted - Nov 16 2009 : 9:54PM So, the Gianna flicks are watched/owned/worshipped on the sly. [Link] |
killbillvol69  All-Star Member ^Lucy Pinder 18635 Posts 4/08 | Posted - Nov 16 2009 : 10:11PM [Link] |
| Agbotech Member 52 Posts 11/09 | Posted - Nov 16 2009 : 10:23PM Edited by - Agbotech on 11/16/2009 10:27:50 PM [Link] |
| Agbotech Member 52 Posts 11/09 | Posted - Nov 16 2009 : 10:24PM [Link] |
| stinkfist Senior Member Subterfuge...... 7401 Posts 4/07 | Posted - Nov 16 2009 : 10:25PM [Link] |
| mtruc Member 8 Posts 11/09 | Posted - Nov 16 2009 : 10:36PM I do not mind that my wife is not looking like a pornstar. What I find highly exciting, is that she gets as turned on as I am watching a hot porn scene. This creates a complicity between the 2 of us that is priceless to me. That being said, as I explained in another topic, I screwed up. In the first five years in our relationship, I managed to interest her in monthly porn evenings. I worked very hard trying to select movies I had seen alone, that I knew had content that was not too hard, but on the other hand, that was not boring soft porn that we see in pay tv. At that time, the Private series from Europe was hot: great looking women, good group scenes, some DPs, facials, but not too much of anything. At some point though, she got worried about that. I remember precisely when this started: a gaping scene from Christophe Clark. He was spreading a girl's ass and the camera made a close up on the stretched gaping hole. I was actually performing anal at this time. She pushed me out and that was one of the last time she let me perform anal. She just thought of her own ass hole stretched and not getting tight anymore. The other thing that got her worried was that we would end up in a pattern where porn would become our only turn on. Maybe I was trying to do it more and more often. I don't quite remember, but that is something that scared her. But for me, in mid 40s, I still get aroused and sexually excited about my wife even though I never stopped watching porn on the side. But her, she has lost a lot of interest in the whole thing, and our sex life is getting to a dramatic point now, after 10 years together. My recommendation (if I still have credibility with my poor result!): - Be honest with her about your interest in porn. - don't ever make it turn into a habit or dependancy. - pick your titles so it remains below her limit. - watchout for unnoticed escalation (too hard, or too often). At the time we were watching porn, it was clear between the 2 of us that we were not watching love movies with erotic scenes. It was understood that porn was just porn, and we both understood that we can pull out something we liked from it. Had she been totally against porn, and totally closed minded about that, I would probably never have been luck to have her enjoy it with me. -- M. Truc [Link] |
| ChodeMasterJ Perpetual Marxist 5405 Posts 4/03 | Posted - Nov 17 2009 : 5:27PM I don't have a wife/gf but the ones I've gotten involved with haven't really cared too much about it. That's only a few people, though. [Link] |
| Gore Gore Girl Doctor of the Erotic Arts 7238 Posts 1/09 | Posted - Nov 17 2009 : 6:15PM Click to expand Speaking for myself, I'm honest, and the only stuff I watch without my SO is stuff he wants nothing to do with (I reinterpreted wife/gf as "significant other"...don't mind me...). I'm honest about that stuff though, even if he doesn't want to hear about it. Do you talk openly with your partner? You seem to feel the way a lot of men/women fear that their partner will feel - namely, that you will prefer the women in the movies to them (physically at least). Have you tried reassuring her? Looking for things you can share? [Link] |
| Dread Senior Member Latex and boobs 5085 Posts 3/07 | Posted - Nov 17 2009 : 8:47PM ----Dread---- [Link] |
| redhead Member Not so redhead these days... 718 Posts 1/08 | Posted - Nov 17 2009 : 10:45PM Killbill - It's really stupid. I'm attracted to Gianna because her body reminds me of my lady so I'm not sure what her prob is! It's not like she's a threat! Agbotech - No. Their boobs are pretty much exactly the same. [Link] |
| fu_q All-Star Member Marv Montag (@PornOfYore) 2506 Posts 2/09 | Posted - Nov 17 2009 : 10:52PM Every so often, I include her opinion of a scene in a review. [Link] |
| PL Senior Member God hates us all, you know it's true, God hates this place. - Slayer 1726 Posts 10/03 | Posted - Nov 17 2009 : 11:42PM Needless to say she's OK with it, and really don't care. Occasionally she even watched with me. World Class Adult Reviews [Link] |
| ChodeMasterJ Perpetual Marxist 5405 Posts 4/03 | Posted - Nov 18 2009 : 12:23AM [Link] |
| skronker Notable Legendary Icon Scopophiliac 9780 Posts 9/02 | Posted - Nov 18 2009 : 12:28AM [Link] |
| Tobias Deactivated User 475 Posts 1/09 | Posted - Nov 18 2009 : 12:31AM [Link] |
| Myload Senior Member A rose is what you are to me 2069 Posts 6/03 | Posted - Nov 18 2009 : 1:21AM [Link] |
| TheCuriousDizzle Member 91 Posts 11/09 | Posted - Nov 18 2009 : 2:26AM I have a media server in the basement with all my porn (as well as movies and tv shows on it)... I think it's up to 9TB now. My wife watches porn with me so I don't have to hide it from her. We also watch porn apart sometimes. She's relatively new to watching porn (I watched my first porn tape when I was like 12... she didn't see a porn until she was 23) so I often will encourage her to browse the collection on her own and watch whatever she wants for as long as she wants to without feeling any sort of pressure from watching it with another person. Truth be known *shhhhh* don't tell my wife, I do check the server logs on the media server and get more porn like the kind she has been watching ;-) Don't give my secret away! She thinks the porn server is just perfectly stocked by some sort of elfin magic. [Link] |
| Bob All-Star Member 5516 Posts 3/03 | Posted - Nov 18 2009 : 2:46AM We had some time to kill last night after we got the kids tucked in, and I asked her with a sly grin whether she wanted to watch "Gape Lovers" with me. She laughed and laughed (and declined politely). It's working for us. [Link] |
| JuicyTweaks Member Porn should be as complicated as you & me 11 Posts 11/09 | Posted - Nov 18 2009 : 2:52AM When I was in high school, I dated a "slutty" girl (no, this is not an erotic story). At an advanced studies school, this meant any girl who sexed more than two guys. But the more interesting thing was that she was so honest about things. In a repressed time of my life, it was wonderful to be with someone so open. One day, I was bored in 'Family Studies' class & I whispered my theory about monogamy being unnatural because of biological urges. (It actually wasn't my theory. It was Bill Maher's, & I copied his line from the 'Politically Incorrect' talk show). Again, I knew she wouldn't get mad at me for suggesting it. She talked about sex more than most girls, and in a pretty mature way. Anyways, she just nodded & smiled. I remember feeling very sophisticated, a bit European, & very happy with myself. And given what I had heard/seen her do, the prospect of a threesome tickled me to no end. A few minutes past, then she turned and asked: "But what if a girl you loved hooked up with other guys, would you be cool?" In an instant, I coldly said: "HELL NO." It was the gods honest truth. I said what was in my heart. As a result, I had the biggest smile across my face. She got me...she GOT ME! I wasn't so sophisticated & European. I forever appreciate her proving the point. _____ I think porn has its place... When you're lonely, personally avoiding relationships, or in a disappointing one. Then, it's a wonderful exercise of the imagination, right alongside your fantasies of ruling the world. I can attest to this. But there's something to a fulfilling relationship. You don't need anyone else, & you sure as hell can't stand her watching someone else. Porn takes its place in the attic of your mind...collecting cobwebs along with your childish libertine dreams. For however long it lasted, I thank God that I can also attest to this. Edited by - juicytweaks on 11/18/2009 2:55:25 AM [Link] |
| BlackSix All-Star Member pornography wasn't sex but fantasies of an impossibly hospitable world 12377 Posts 9/07 | Posted - Nov 18 2009 : 3:33AM [Link] |
| Karloff Deactivated User 319 Posts 7/10 | Posted - Sep 27 2010 : 9:06AM [Link] |
| red exposure Member ....it's either very new cheese or very old meat 102 Posts 12/09 | Posted - Sep 27 2010 : 1:31PM My girlfriends never had a problem with me watching porn (99% of women surely accept it as inevitable thesedays), and have watched it themselves out of curiosity, but I never admitted the size of my collection which I've felt might be problematic. I've found the biggest problem in my experience, is the girlfriend feeling that she is being physically compared to the performers, so self-esteem has usually been the divisive issue as opposed to the morality of watching adult movies. It also always seems as if watching porn is OK, but owning an amount going into triple digits is still stigmatised as obsessive, so I always tried to hide the extent of my admittedly large hoard, without ever denying that I watch - or enjoy - porn to begin with (I think I'd have a major problem with someone who morally objected to all legal adult movies). I have an average, overworked (and underpaid) life, varied interests, and have friendships with men and women (including ex-girlfriends), so don't think the excess of porn is something adverse to my real-life interaction with women (my books and music collection easily outnumbers even my 300+ porn DVDs, so I think I just have a hoarders-nature, though a raincoater is still a raincoater whichever way you cut it!) I always felt that most women would have problems with a large collection, but maybe some of you out there have experienced differently. Is there anyone who's had spouses who were OK with 10,000 DVDs blocking up the front-door?? Edited by - red exposure on 9/27/2010 1:34:10 PM Edited by - red exposure on 9/27/2010 1:39:06 PM [Link] |
| RandomPrecision Senior Member Enjoy! 8175 Posts 3/06 | Posted - Sep 27 2010 : 10:41PM Edited by - randomprecision on 9/27/2010 10:41:36 PM [Link] |
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