06/11 - ...and the fairy tale comes to an end. The police just left my house. Don was driving home from a business meeting in Las Vegas, and he got into an accident and rolled the Jeep. He's dead. He's never coming back to me. My husband, my soulmate, my other half, the one I was meant to grow old with. I'm almost 8 months pregnant with a son he will never get to see, and I have a one year old daughter who will never be able to remember anything about her father... and he was such a GOOD father to her, she was such a daddy's girl you wouldn't have believed it! Now she'll just have to take my word for it when I tell her how much daddy loved her, because she's too young to remember him for too much longer. Oh god, how that breaks my heart. How am I going to go on without him? How am I going to get a job at almost 8 months pregnant, with a one year old baby??? I couldn't go back to porn even if I wanted to, I'm much too huge. My ex-hubby, Bud Lee, is driving out here in the morning with another good friend of mine, and they are going to help me get through this. Somehow. If anyone wants to make a charitable donation to a pregnant widow who doesn't know how she's going to raise these two babies on her own, there's a spot on my sales page where you can donate up to $100. If anyone wants to send more than that (I'd be forever grateful!), you can use my Paypal Account, to address asiac@asiacarrera.com (that's asiaC@, not just asia@). I trust that no one out there is heartless enough to misuse that email address at a time like this. Oh god how I wish I could wake up from this nightmare. My life went from being a dream come true to hell on earth in just an instant. Please keep me in your thoughts and send me strength! I've got to get through this for my two little babies, otherwise I swear I'd have nothing to live for anymore. But I have no choice, I will do the best I can for Catty and Devin, somehow, some way, I must...
That is HORRIBLE news. I've only "helped" complete strangers to me a few times in the past but Asia, geez...Asia is...she's honest to God, like, the first porn star I really, really fell in love with. I was so happy to read about her life away from porn and see the pics of her putting on weight and looking regular and normal, smiling, enjoying herself. To be eight months pregnant and already have a 1-year-old... I'm glad Bud is on his way to her. Returning should be the last thing on her mind; I can't believe she even mentioned it. I think if this is real (and I can't see why it wouldn't be but trust me, I've seen stranger) I will most definitely come up off of what I can spare, if not for Asia then for her babies. I think it's the least a true fan can do.
As far as work in the future, Asia's an INCREDIBLY smart girl. There's a million things she could do. I think she'll be fine.
Edited by - Crucifixio_Jones on 6/11/2006 11:59:44 AM
My condolences and all that, but it seems weird to me that immediately after the police leave her house notifying her of her husband's death, she has a spot set up on her web already where people can donate money to her? Did I read that wrong?
Hmmmmm... I did a google search on Asia's porn name, her real name, her husbands name, Las Vegas police reports, and local Las Vegas news, nothing came up. I know not all activity that happens in the porn world makes mainstream news. But it did, when Anna Malle died, and even though Asia is more of a recluse, she is more well known then Anna Malle was. I think this would of made some kind of press. The only press it seems to be making right now is on her website.
I am not saying that this did not happen, but something sounds fishy.
Time will tell.
It could be that they broke up, and she just doesn't have good coping skills.
Agreed she seems to be worried about their future , it's her official website AFAIK in another part of the site according to what comes up with google she sells her pornstuff so her request for help is really strange
Wow. You people are harsh. Her post seems to be dated today, June 11th. So in a matter of hours you expect the death of a guy in Vegas to be splashed all across the newswire? On a Sunday at that? C'mon.
If you were sitting all by yourself, just found out your significant other was killed, and spent literally years of spilling your guts out on blogs, is it really that hard to believe that you'd turn to your journal for some measure of solace?
I don't question anybody's actions in the hours (or even days) immediately following a tragedy. A single pregnant mother with an infant and no immediate means of supporting herself asks for financial assistance? In retrospect she might think it was in bad taste, but hours after a crisis I don't think it's the strangest thing to happen.
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Posted - Jun 11 2006 : 1:20PM
The donation page was always there. She's just directing people there to help her in her crisis as opposed to just supporting the website. I was under the impression that she and her husband were doing well as webmasters, not just her page. I hope she has some clarity soon and pulls it all together emotionally.
People are just forming an opinion. No, one really said Asia was lying, they are just saying the story sounds fishy & it does. No one is even being harsh, they are questioning things tha are questionable.
It doesn't matter what day of the week things happen, media is 24/7.
I don't care how internet savvy you are, it is odd, that the day your husband dies, you are asking people to paypal you and send you donations and you can send up to $100.
As another poster said, why ask for money when she makes money selling merchandise on her website.
I think she has other people to talk to, besides interrs. How about Don's family? How about her brother, she is close with? How about her friends in the industry? How about a grief counselor?
She just seemed so matter a fact about her husband's death.... the fairy tale ends?. Odd. And everything seemed all about her, in her statement. Not much about Don
Edited by - niterunner on 6/11/2006 1:45:20 PM
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Posted - Jun 11 2006 : 1:38PM
You know, I'd often felt that porn studs were too harsh and mysogynistic because of too many years in the business making them cynical.
I'm beginning to think the consumers of it are just as bad. Some of you guys are disgusting.
She hadn't updated the bulletin page in over a month until today after "The police just left my house." It's clearly not an every day thing for her to post there.
Yes, this is a big part of why life insurance is a must. As for Asia being on the computer shortly after it happened, I don't think it's that weird for her. She's poured her heart and soul out on it many times before, and I think it's probably part of how she's dealing with it.
"Vegetarianism for me is about saying ‘yes’ to things - even meat." - Coupling
She was a wonderful performer, and the little updates on how things were working out so well for her in recent years have been nice, uplifting reading.
My doubt was on some intruder trying to divert money on his account or so, but now I see it's her paypal account, so it's her who ask.
I don't know how much pain can feel a pregnant woman when she lose her husband , especially when she already has a very little daughter and no chance to find a job , at least not in a while.Out of the pain which obviously hurts a lot , she might feel abandoned (a common feeling) concerned for her babies , she might feel lost and with no future at the horizon
This is my second thought , I can understand her now, maybe only a minimum part of her actual feelings but she deserve my respect, hope she pass through this soon for the sake of her children
Edited by - Laurie Cameron Fan on 6/11/2006 2:09:26 PM
This absolutely sucks! I've always loved reading her journals, etc...it was just refreshing to see her put a life together outside porn, and I'd always admired her for her intellect. She seemed miles ahead of most porn performers with regards to using the internet - a true cyber-geek.
Asia performed in tons of my favorite movies early on in my porn viewing. She was simply gorgeous. To think of the two kids not knowing a father and to try to comprehend what an expecting widow must be going through right now is just overwhelming to me...thus I can't expect to know or predict how she should be acting or what she should be doing.
This is to sad for me to even think about getting all cynical on. As difficult as the last 18 months have been for me personally and career-wise, it can't compare to this, so I'll be sending something. If I turn out to have been fooled, so be it. That's a chance well-worth taking, considering the circumstances.
Glad to know she has support...my hopes are with her & the kids to get through this. She was just always a lovely woman to me.
Other than extending a hand, I don't follow or concern myself with others motives. You find a way to survive. My condolences To Asia, and hope the best for the kids.
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Posted - Jun 11 2006 : 3:09PM
Asia has spent the last 10 years or so of her life being very open about herself through online journals and blogs. When I started my website, her site was the one that I thought of as the 'gold standard' of how to do a star site right.
As far as her selling merchandise on her site, well... she's been out of porn for awhile, and I'm sure she does sell stuff, but she's not going to be selling as much merchandise as Jesse Jane or Jenna. Whether it would even come close to supporting a mom with 2 children doesn't seem likely to me.
Best of luck to her and her children. I never really knew her on a personal level, but I hope that those who do show what good friends they can be, and actually be there for her not just financially (which is of course wonderful) but also emotionally.
You already know what I'm going to say, so I'm not going to say it. Karma is a MF.
I feel for her kids. Fathers are already in short supply in this world, and it's sad that these two will have to grow up without theirs. Bud's a wife beater, so I imagine he's not much of a father either...
They moved a while back to St. George, Utah, just up I-15 from Vegas.
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Posted - Jun 11 2006 : 5:10PM
Asia always used to boast of her investing prowess. Was she lying there? I would think she'd have enough to last at least for a little while, plus residual income from Don...
But yes, this is awful. I always thought Asia would be the industry's best happy ending. Too many girls become tragedies. I wouldn't wish this on anyone.
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Posted - Jun 11 2006 : 5:20PM
As soon as the note started talking about donations, I became suspicous. Don't put it above Asia to not be the type of pornstar who will take advantage of her fans.
If you were planning to donate, you should not do so until you get independent confirmation of her husband's death.
Its possible as well that someone has hijacked her site and opened up a paypal account in an attempt to make a quick buck off of a bogus story.
If I am wrong about this, my apologies and condolences. But this kind of thing has happened before. Remember Hyapatia Lee's "fake" death? Do not become the gullible fan that these pornstars laugh at all the way to the bank.
"06/11 more - I asked Bud & friend to stop at the Clark County Coroner's office on the way here from LA as they pass through Vegas, to pick up Don's belongings and anything from the truck... they were told that the truck was strewn over 300 yards, wheels here, axle there... he rolled across so many lanes the truck was just disintegrated... there was an RN (registered nurse) in the car behind him, she tried to help Don, but there was nothing she could do. I can only hope it means he died quickly and maybe painlessly? It just breaks my heart to see Catty's smiling face now, knowing she has no daddy... I show her pictures of Daddy and say "who's that, Catty?" and she shouts "Dadn! Dadn!"... I'm going to have to do that with her every day so she never forgets her daddy. Oh please give me the strength to get through this, somehow... we had no life insurance, I have no car now, no job, no income, I'm pregnant, I have a one-year old baby... this is not how my life was supposed to go. What wouldn't I give to go two days back in time and just hold Don again and never ever let him go..."
looks legit to me. Asia always seemed gracious & upfront all the years I passed by her website. Hubby seemed like a nice guy. So condolences to her and baby.
It does look legit(but that's also what makes people vulnerable, true or not true) and its not that I don't believe her, but you can't blame people for being suspicious. You have to be very careful.
I still have done a bunch of searches and still have come up with nothing on his death. Except for her own statement. Although, Asia is not mainstream, she is well known enough for some press coverage.
I know in some ways this may be unfair to Asia, but you have to be careful of people in general, not just adult stars. There are a lot of shady people in the world.
Once its confirmed with "proof" then I may donate something like $15 in an exchange for an autograph photo.
You know I could be totally wrong, but the more I think about this I think its a scam. If I am wrong, I made a mistake. But some things don't add up. Asia Owned property in Hawaii, she left Hawaii, because of all the expensives. They probably owe money on that property. Hawaii is very expensive.
Don's credibility has been challenged on being a nutrionist(sp), I am sure he didn't make a lot of money.
I have read Asia's postings for awhile on her website, and she did talk A LOT about how she invested in stocks(to the point of bragging), but who really knows?? If she has invested so much why would she be *SO* worried, so much about money?
Adult Stars don't make a lot and Asia has a second child on the way. The update on her site makes the reader feel so vulnerable(too caculated). Its also interesting that Asia usually updates her bulletin every couple weeks, this time it was around 5 weeks. But in the meantime, she posts happy family pictures. The "boom" her fairy tale is over, its all to caculated. Sorry I really don't buy it.
I know this doesn't mean anything, but I once sent her $20 for an autograph and she told me she never got it. It was a mistake sending cash, but it was very concealed. But once again, I was dumb for sending cash. I emailed and told her, she got it, and her response was "You think I am that poor" I am starting to think so.
If I am wrong, I am wrong. But Anna Malle's story made coverage, and this hasn't yet, and should of by now.
And why is Don's site still up, I guess people who are no longer alive, have no problem taking credit cards.
Once again, I don't wish this on Asia if its true, but I has SERIOUS doubts.
Being a diehard Asia fan , I am really sorry for her.
However, I am thinking to myself, if something like that happens, would you immediately ask for money from people (the same day of the incident)? And I strongly believe that she shouldn't be in a horrible financial shape, she was a very active pornstar. Plus, if you're on thin ice, why would you try to make another child? That baffles me.
Anyway, if it's true (which I believe it is), I am terribly sorry. I think she will come back to adult world...
Everett, did you ever hear of reading? You are telling me the mistakes, I already said I made. I said I was "dumb" for sending cash & also said it probably means nothing. But I still wanted to throw it out there, b/c I have sent cash to people & never had a problem. Sometimes I said money orders, but not always. It could possibly question her credibility. So why would I would be "sour", btw... "Sour Grapes" sounds better. It was over a year and a half ago. I am over it, don't worry. Stop diverting.
Asia moved, because of $$, she posted, that on her bulletin.
it's not a thing of trying again. Im not in a contest. But no sweat! My bad if I hurt your feelings. That wasnt my intent. I honestly wanted to pass along helpful info and figured you didn't understand. No I didnt read totally everything throughout the thread just the ones at the beginning and the ones before my posts. So you're right that's on me. But the bulk of what i said about Asia I still stand by. Dont know enough about her husband's accident to speculate at this point but im sure info will trickle down. Peace Nite...
It is natural for people to suspect the event as what Asia has done so far is really strange, no our normal actions after some close people have passed away.
Time will tell the truth and it's not rush for us to help her if her man was really dead. Read from some source, I know Asia is a very high IQ person. I am sure she will have ways to solve her problem. Every one shall cope with her problem, IMOP.
She hasn't because her life isn't porn anymore for the past few years. She has that site for almost 10 years going and I have read her blog for almost as long. She was a porn star for many years. She has always seemed like a sincere person on her site for years.
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Posted - Jun 12 2006 : 2:36AM
If this is true my deepest condolensces but I am somewhat suspicious of a supposed MENSA member not being able to find a reliable source of income.
That's really sad. Especially with Asia having a baby and another one on the way. It's sad when something like this happens at a time in her life where she should be really happy. I send my condolescenes.
Anyone, let us wait and see if it is true. I just wonder if Asia can't earn a living, is she coming back to porn biz possibly after giving birth the 2nd child.
I am so puzzled about her financial status.She is supposed to be quite rich after shooting countless porn.
I am a MENSA member and I don't have a very reliable source of income, IQ & income are not directly proportional. If it was, I was hanging out with Trump now...
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Posted - Jun 12 2006 : 3:28AM
This really is the time for her parents to step up and do the right thing. I know her history and she's quite estranged, but this is their daughter and their friggin grandchildren. If these people have any humanity they will let some damn bygones be bygones.
As Asians, I think it will be very hard for Asia to repair the relationship with her parents or families if the reason is due to her past porn experience. Has AVN.com or other porn sources reports the incident yet?? It is supposed to be big news as Asia was once a big name in the Biz.
