...which turns you on the most? Please discuss. I don't view this as being confined to BDSM or roleplay, all sex has aspects of this! btw: I see this more as a discussion topic for sex talk, rather than a poll.
^^I totally agree! The question is not to choose one, it's which one turns you on the most, or you could answer they equally turn you on! A further question would be, "is this the case for all types of sex, are there certain circumstances when you prefer to be one or the other"? Also, I'd like to hear peoples opinions on vanilla sex, when do you feel sub or dom, which acts/positions?
It all depends on what your are doing. Certain roleplay games can have one person dom and one sub all the way through. Vanilla sex, is much more subtle, I think, things shift all the time, or you can choose more easily, depending on your mood.
But that's not how it works. For me, there's always a choice. I can guide my mood. Neither role turns me on more, that's almost irrelevant, it's the interaction that does it for me.
I'm a switch but lean heavily more toward Domme. Unlike some of you I can't control my inclinations. I really have to be in the right mood to be sub but when I am It's great. The thing is that the same things are equally stimulating to me whether I'm the Domme or the sub.
In any type of sex game, I have to be dominant. Whilst in affectionate love making, being submisive is what really turns me on. Probably says something about my personallity, but exactly what, I don't know.
Submission turns me on the most. I can take the dominant role, be turned on it but it always feels strange, like I have someone else's shoes on. I haven't decided if that's because I'm unfamiliar with it or I simply don't like it as much. I'm thinking in terms of roleplay here not just instigation or playing leader. So for you guys who say you love it all, it doesn't matter, choosing one over the other is boring, etc - how extreme are we talking? When you think of being submissive is it a scenario where your SO simply takes control or a full-on "lick my heels" thing?
Oh, I forgot to add that I'm a pretty aggressive submissive, if that makes sense...but is being aggressive the same as dominating? I don't think I'm aggressive because it's necessarily in my sexual nature, it's just kinda what I'm forced to do to get what I need. Would I be so aggressive if I were in a different relationship? :::sigh::: This seemed so clear cut until I actually started thinking about it... Edited by - savoy on 3/4/2010 11:19:54 AM
What roleplay games do you like? I like to play out little scenarios, usually it involves my partners dressing up in lingerie/uniforms/outfits. The only other thing I like is "rape" roleplay, tried this with "knifeplay" a few times but the girls in question were too "blonde" and it got dangerous.
The "lick my heels" thing is never something I've gotten any erotic charge out of. So I guess I don't find submission, per se, appealing. I don't find any heat in denigration. I wouldn't find it appealing to have my wife lick my heels, either. Being tied up and sexually "abused"; tying up and sexually "abusing" -- those are more promising ideas.
Nope, you look very attractive but my interest lies more with your mind than your body! Womens opinions on sub/dom issues of sex are something I find fascinating. When I self analyse my own sexual hang ups, I find it difficult to dominate a women during affectionate lovemaking, it's like the two things conflict for me, do you understand that? Take for example "doggy style", I seldom instigate it, even though I know women like it! I find it a very female submisive position and I don't feel much love doing it. BTW, I tied up my first gf at the age of 7(I should make it clear we were both that age and knew nothing of sex, other than that we were attracted to each other ), it was my favorite game and still is, it always seems to me that girls love being tied up? Blindfolds are extra hot, don't you think? And as for loving sex, I'm a total and compleat addict
I specifically didn't use that term because it always struck me as something quieter and more manipulative and my approach can be pretty obnoxious and demanding. Then again, I'm no sex game expert. Under that term, bottoms are forcing a certain action - backhanded or straightforward approach...is it all considered the same?hmmmmm...and DISqualified!!! :)
I'm the same as you. I used to think I could be dominant but I tried it a few times and it just felt weird. I thought I'd get used to it but I never did. Being submissive is what turns me on. Edited by - randomprecision on 3/15/2010 9:46:03 AM
Dominant only. I can empathize with the submissive role and totally respect it, but there is no way I could ever enjoy allowing myself to be Dominated by another. That said, I don't always slide into the Dominant role...there are times I really want an equal role.
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