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wmonbear
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Posted - Jan 12 2010 : 7:59PM
Having sex, which for this discussion will also include the pursuit of having sex, usually entails various things or activities that one may not find enjoyable at all, such as the psychological and/or sociological complexities of dating. Also, when you do get lucky, having actual sex introduces a completely different set of issues including but not limited to such things as performance anxiety and STD’s.
The question of whether you prefer to watch or participate may also depend on where you are in your relationship with your girlfriend or in your marriage (is the sex getting old, boring and stale?), maybe it’s a matter of what stage of life you’re in, or maybe your just lazy and find it easier to watch rather than engage.
Personally, I can definitively say that I really don’t enjoy the “pursuit” like I used to (perhaps it’s age), even though women turn me on more than ever! These days, I prefer to watch porn rather than actually pursue and engage in sex myself. Too often, at least in my experience, it turns out that the “catch” quite frankly was not worth the pursuit. On the other hand, getting off on porn is much cheaper than sex via dating, is very convenient, available 24/7/365, gives you full control, is hassle and stress-free, and features your choice of gorgeous women from a pool of pornstars that’s virtually endless.
I am very interested in knowing where ADT posters stand on this question?
It should be noted that by stating, for example, that you prefer to watch porn over having sex, it is understood that one can love sex (and who doesn’t), yet for whatever reason(s), still prefer to watch instead. As I’ve noted above, there can be some advantages.
Edited by - wmonbear on Jan 12 2010
Gore Gore Girl All-Star Supporter
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Posted - Jan 12 2010 : 8:07PM
This is obviously directed at men, but this is a really interesting question for women also. In fact, it comes up a lot in feminist theory - pornography is certainly a safer and less complicated option for women. I would love to hear the women here weigh in on this.
As for me, I don't have to choose one or the other, thankfully.
Dread
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Latex and boobs
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Posted - Jan 12 2010 : 8:49PM
Though i do watch a lot of porn, as long as my wife gets hers she's happy and has no qualms with me watching all the porn i do. We have sex often enough where its not an issue. I suppose i'm lucky in that aspect.
Edit: That being said I would go for her first and porn second. I half-joke with her when i tell her i consider her my own personal porn star.
----Dread----
Edited by - dreadsynapse on 1/12/2010 8:50:54 PM
Dan
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Posted - Jan 12 2010 : 11:07PM
Watching others have sex can never be as much fun as having sex yourself can be.
But comparing real sex with watching porn is often like comparing apples and oranges. Because in real life, most guys don't have sexual access to many sexy young women whenever they feel like it. And most guys don't have access to uninhibited ladies willing to have anal and DP sex with the guys.
If I could have wild no-holes-barred sex with many attractive young ladies whenever I felt like it. Then I definitely would've preferred real sex over watching porn. But such sex is available to me only in porn and not in real life. And that's why both real sex and porn have a place in my life. And they can't substitute for each other.
Edited by - Dan on 1/12/2010 11:09:01 PM
The Ghost of Cal Jammer
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2207 Posts
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Posted - Jan 13 2010 : 1:14PM
Yes.
 
posthum
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12/09
Posted - Jan 13 2010 : 1:27PM
Nope. Even boring sex I enjoy more than watching the best porn. Until technology advances enough for porn to emulate all the sensory impressions that come along with sex at least.
testingahem
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7/09
Posted - Jan 13 2010 : 1:50PM
Preferring porn to real sex?? How terrifyingly post-postmodern. I prefer the real thing.
TheCuriousDizzle
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Posted - Jan 13 2010 : 2:09PM
What a terribly depressing question.
WardqueenJanine
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Posted - Jan 13 2010 : 6:12PM
No question here. Although I also don't have to choose, I do often opt for the less complicated option of porn. It is somethng that I can choose intantaneously and not have to concern myself with any short or long term entanglements. In addition, I can tread on a lot more otherwise forbidden areas without worrying about what that might telegraph to a partner if I participated in such an act having 1:1 sex.
V_H_
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Posted - Jan 13 2010 : 6:32PM
I prefer to have sex, but I can understand the other side. Getting sex can be complicated for a guy, so some can see porn as a much easier alternative. Also, given any fetishes one might have, it could be immensely difficult to find partners into the same things. Not to mention the whole culture of picking girls up and the associated stress. I guess it all depends on how easy it is to find women that fit your desires.
Watching some porn with the ladyfriend and then having sex, now that sounds like a good idea.
LubeNLuv
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Posted - Jan 13 2010 : 6:35PM
I've never had to choose one over the other, so I don't know. Intuitively, however, I can't believe I'd enjoy watching porn more than actually having sex as long as my partner was desirable to me. If my partner was someone I loathed, then yeah, sure....I'd likely enjoy watching porn to that. Sex to me has never been about just sticking my dick inside a woman's orifices. I know for some guys, however, that is all they want/seek.
Bobcat
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Posted - Jan 13 2010 : 6:36PM
Watching porn is like scratching an itch to me, it keeps sexual desires in check, when sex is not available. I don't get that much out of it. It's a bit like this; you need to pee so you pee, you need to masturbate so you masturbate, there's not a whole lot of enjoyment in it! On the other hand, sex with a women, is the most enjoyable and wonderful thing there is to do!
stinkfist
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Posted - Jan 13 2010 : 6:39PM
I love sex and porn,although i can see how some might prefer porn over sex-such as long term partners who have grown even more distant as the days go by and as they lie side by side in bed they are technically miles apart,the male and female no longer turned on by there partners physical appearance etc.Thank god for furry gloves and one night stands.
RandomPrecision
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Enjoy!
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Posted - Jan 13 2010 : 6:55PM
I never was all that interested in actual sex. The idea of it seems good but I rarely ever climaxed from real sex. Real sex is complicated and messy and smelly and even dangerous. No thanks.
Dave_K99
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Posted - Jan 13 2010 : 7:30PM
This is like asking if you prefer watching cookery shows to eating. I don't imagine there are many people who'd rather be watching than doing.
 
The Ghost of Cal Jammer
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Posted - Jan 13 2010 : 7:56PM
Let's put it this way: I am never, NEVER, going to have sex with someone who looks like, say, Tanner Mayes, or Kristina Rose, or Lexi Belle. Not going to happen. Watching porn is about as close as I am going to get. And on a good day, when I am sufficiently high enough, and my lotion is applied in the correct amounts at the right intervals, masturbating to porn is ten times better than actually having sex, which is an activity which leaves me not only winded (a reminder of how out of shape I am), but aware of how bad I actually am when it comes to fucking. I mean, if I fucked like Manuel or Michael Stefano or Mick Blue, then fuck yes I would prefer to have sex over watching porn. But I don't. I look like your average shmuck on the street. Porn is a portal into a world I will never get to call home.
cantgetlaid
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Posted - Jan 13 2010 : 8:46PM
LOL.... heheh..
You're just used to jerking off.
cantgetlaid
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Posted - Jan 13 2010 : 8:51PM
I've had "normal" women, even though I'm a complete failure with women, who are incredibly pretty, they just don't have the fake boobs. Really thin, cute faces, etc. I'm not even really intimidated by "porn hot" women because I'm honestly not that attracted to them. I like what regular women look like. I suppose if you saw escorts, you would be able to have sex with porn like women, but that's not something I would do, just doesn't count if you have to pay for it.....
I don't know many of the stars you mention, but Lexi Belle, I know of, and she looks like the girlfriend of various friends of mine. I know guys in real life that get women like that, they dump them too... I think you're probably just putting women on a pedestal. I don't care what you say, but even Stoya, Jesse Jane, or whomever is big now, takes nasty smelly dumps... They're humans, probably wouldn't give us the time of day, yes, but still humans.
Dubious_Leftovers
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Posted - Jan 13 2010 : 9:01PM
Very different experiences.
In both circumstances, I've had times whilst partaking in one of these activities, that I wished I was was doing the other.
They're both great in their time and place, but overall actually having sex is the better experience.
cantgetlaid
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Posted - Jan 13 2010 : 9:04PM
YOu feel better about yourself, that's for sure... Because I'm a beta, I'm used to porn, so the few times I had sex, I sometimes had to think of porn to get off.
Finfrock
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Posted - Jan 14 2010 : 12:41AM
This is a good question. There are many times in my life when I have felt like it is preferable to watch porn than to deal with the complications of having sex (and I do realize how disfunctional this probably is). I can say that I would much rather watch porn than go to a hooker (or even have a one-night stand). Ultimately, I would rather be in a healthy relationship in which good sex is a big part of the relationship but, falling short of that, I'd rather just watch porn.
A few years back, it seemed like porn had gotten so damn good & there was a ton of good porn out there; so much so, that I think it lessened my need to find a girlfriend and/or sexual partners. And good porn, in my opinion, is a hot girl engaging in nasty, no-holds-barred sex (girls like BellaDonna, Arianna Jolie, Kelly Wells, Jewel DeNyle). Nowadays, it seems like there is much less good porn out there & not nearly as many of the hot & nasty girls that I like. As such, I'm more inclined now to pursue real-life sex over watching porn.
Again, it's a good question.
Bobcat
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Posted - Jan 14 2010 : 8:15AM
If you want sex with women that are out of your league it's easy, you just pay!
I can get as much average pussy as the next man but this doesn't stop me wanting to book a high class escort once or twice a month. Some of the girls I've seen have been fucking amazing, as good as anything in porn. The cost for an hours fun with them works out at about what I'd pay for 4 or 5 DVD's.
RandomPrecision
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Enjoy!
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3/06
Posted - Jan 14 2010 : 8:30AM
No. I'm pretty sure real sex is complicated and messy and smelly and even dangerous. I'm lazy and I don't like complexities, messes, bad breath or danger. Therefore, masturbation is perfect. I'm used to jerking off too but that's beside the point.
Edited by - randomprecision on 1/14/2010 8:34:10 AM
Ramsey
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Posted - Jan 14 2010 : 9:50AM
Good porn is better than bad sex
Good sex is better than bad porn
NewRomancer
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Posted - Jan 14 2010 : 9:54AM
Porn, while fun, will never come CLOSE to comparing to having real sex with a real person.
 
palominorn
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Posted - Jan 14 2010 : 10:37AM
how about a thread on having sex while wathcing porn?
bi_girl
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Posted - Jan 14 2010 : 10:40AM
I definitely prefer having sex to watching porn. However, and much to my chagrin, I watch porn a hell of a lot more than I fuck. I also think there's an honest truth about Ramsey's post. I don't think it's sad or depressing for someone to prefer porn over real sex; there are plenty of good reasons why one could choose that. That said, I think there may be a slippery slope, wherein the more one watches a ton of porn the less likely it might be to obtain or climax from real sex. They both have their place in my life; the porn is there for getting off, particularly to my wacky fetishes, and to sort of tide me over until my next lay, whenever that may be.
Patriotic Sentinel
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Posted - Jan 14 2010 : 2:47PM
The only fair answer is: it depends.
I like porn. I like the fake fantasy of it. Porn is not constrained by reality.
Real sex is just that, completely real. That means it comes with it's own limitations.
In short, I like both for their own merits and wouldn't want to sacrifice either.
Nimrod
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Posted - Jan 14 2010 : 8:16PM
Smelly. That is the big elephant in the room that nobody likes to talk about. You say it and people start questioning your sexuality. If I've had pussy of all colors and that is one characteristic they all shared. It has nothing to do with hygiene...there is a natural odor. That is the reason why I never eat pussy.

Edited by - Nimrod on 1/14/2010 8:20:03 PM

Myload
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Posted - Jan 14 2010 : 11:34PM
I prefer having sex over watching porn. I love watching porn, but it can't beat sex.
WardqueenJanine
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Posted - Jan 15 2010 : 5:51AM
Me too but maybe I'd fuck a lot more if it was as convenient as watching porn and without all the drama.
cantgetlaid
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Posted - Jan 15 2010 : 5:57AM
Okay, let's take a gander here, um, based upon my time, guess my ratio of watching porn to having sex? 5000:1 at best :(
cantgetlaid
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Posted - Jan 15 2010 : 5:58AM
I've never ran into a problem regarding this.
RandomPrecision
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Enjoy!
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Posted - Jan 15 2010 : 8:50AM
Funny thing is, I like pussy smell but most people have some breath odor unless they keep their mouths meticulously clean and even slightly bad breath is absolutely foul compared to (healthy) pussy smell. I was thinking specifically about bad breath when I wrote that.
posthum
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12/09
Posted - Jan 15 2010 : 10:21AM
Besides bad breath (which most of my previous girlfriends didn't have), the smell aspect is something I sometimes wish porn could simulate.
I really like when the whole room smells like sex when you're done.
Edited by - posthum on 1/15/2010 10:22:32 AM
 
Cerebral Jedi
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Posted - Jan 15 2010 : 11:21AM
When I was married, it was definitely watching porn. Having her out the house, me being home alone to watch porn, was a treat to me. I looked foward to it.
Edited by - Cerebral Jedi on 1/15/2010 11:23:00 AM
NewRomancer
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Posted - Jan 15 2010 : 2:15PM
The mess, the smells, the tastes are part of the POINT of sex...
Anybody who has issues with any of those aspects aughta get their heads examined.
wmonbear
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Posted - Jan 15 2010 : 5:43PM
That was me as well. I used those opportunities to basically catch-up on all the viewing time I'd been missing. When the cat's away.....
guttaman
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Posted - Jan 23 2010 : 3:41PM
maybe i am one of the few people who prefer porn over real sex.
porn is convinient....limitless beautiful women.....i can make myself feel better than any woman could.
porn chicks are generally way hotter than real life women.
real sex is mesy and complicated. u have to worry about performance and satisfying someone else.
maybe its dysfunctional for me to feel this way but i do.
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jbailes
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Posted - Jan 23 2010 : 3:48PM
sex over porn...definitely.
I'm not scared of the 10,000 punches you throw one time, I'm scared of the one punch you throw 10,000 times
wmonbear
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Posted - Jan 23 2010 : 6:42PM
Well said guttaman I agree 100% (nothing to be ashamed of) I'm sure there's quite a few people that feel this way. Porn is awesome!... and with so many options.
Dmase7721
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Posted - Jan 23 2010 : 6:49PM
Definitely sex... but porn has always been there. But intercourse feels sooo much better then just my hand..
taylor_swift_tasty_feet
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Posted - Jan 25 2010 : 11:05AM
HELL NO !!! Porn is great but it's nothing compared to having a real girl and eating her pussy!
BigBobxxx
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Posted - Jan 25 2010 : 2:34PM
Hey, even the male pornstars are jerking themselves off
Granted, their target is often the face of an attractive woman (and not a towel)
Coming back to the orignal question.
It's not like I have much of a choice anymore.
I made my peace with being alone years ago.
Porn, thankfully, gives me a sexual release.
Frankly, all the game-playing and emotional pain of dating/mating took its toll on me by my early 20's.
If only getting and having sex was actually about the sex.
As I've gotten older, I'm not willing to pay for it. I'm also not willing to spend the time, money and effort chasing after it.
And, for what?
So, you kids have a nice time.
I'll just continue whacking-off to your wives, girlfriends and (legal) daughters
If I feel the need to "sniff" and rub-against it, that's why God created strip-clubs.
They call us perverts for a reason, you know
dasein66
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Posted - Jan 25 2010 : 4:09PM
This is a very interesting philosophical question, especially since advances in technology are making the porn experience more "real" (e.g. HD, masturbation devices, etc...). Real sex and porn are, in my estimation, just different modalities of sex. Since I enjoy the immense variety and perversity that porn provides without the trappings of mundane existence (like having to convince someone to engage in a 3-some and/or do anal), I often find that a well cultivated porn experience is more gratifying than a roll in the hay.
If in some future porn-utopia you could simulate experientially hyper-real sexual situations (i.e. super-porn), how many would still opt for regular sex?
smokedbacon
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Posted - Jan 25 2010 : 4:31PM
That's always been the million-dollar question in future entertainment technology speculation. Have no doubt, we will get there...eventually; to the point where you can have sex with just about anyone you want or can imagine, artificially, through some sort of technological construct.
The question is, though, whether or not the experience will be the same as sex with a real person... assuming you're capable of making a distinction. Will reaching orgasm while gripping into an artificial woman have the same psychological release as the same act with a real woman?
Have no doubt, though, just like the pornographic industry today... future interactive experiences like this will be a major money maker. ;)
As for porn versus sex: obviously, just like anything else, it will differ for every person. Some people have preferences over the other. Saying someone's crazy because they prefer watching porn and masturbating over sex with a real person, is shortsighted and intolerant. Just like some people may not watch or participate in anal, DP, or even oral sex; and some may enjoy fisting or being hogtied and whipped... everyone has different preferences and fetishes, and no two people are exactly alike. Similarly, a person can have a different preference to how and with whom, if anyone, they engage in sexual acts with.
As for my preference... Porn is obviously a love of mine, and I'm sure it is for just about anyone on these boards. Often times I would much prefer watching some gorgeous women taking toys and boys up their rears, sometimes over hitting the clubs myself and looking for my own partner -- with a very good chance that the sex will be lackluster or uninteresting. Paying for an escort is also out of the question for many men/women in locations where such is considered illegal, and much of the police force is put into vice entrapment operations that will ruin your career and land you in jail.
Would I rather have a high-energy, marathon screw session with a lovely woman that likes taking it up the rear? For the most part... absolutely. But those women are far and few between. When I can find them and we're compatible for a relationship.. it's usually quite nice. I'll still end up watching my porn though between our own sessions... ;)
Edit: In response to some who feel they may never be able to land a gorgeous woman who looks like she's out of a movie or porn vid... While you may have a very good reason for feeling this way; for the most part, your insecurities are probably not valid. Take a look at the guys in most porn vids... they're usually not the most attractive males in the world. Also take a look at the average boyfriend that hot women are dating. You'll find that there is usually a marked difference in relative attractiveness. Women respond to confidence, and if you combine this with the unfortunate generalization that many of the hottest women are actually rather insecure, you'll find that a semi-unattractive male can still be quite the player in the dating scene.
Edited by - smokedbacon on 1/25/2010 4:44:51 PM
BigBobxxx
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Posted - Jan 25 2010 : 5:44PM
BTW, we all know what the "holodeck" will be used for
And, of course, we all knew what Quark was doing with his "holosuites" on Star Trek: Deep Space Nine. Holosuite even makes you think of a motel room by-the-hour.
Don't forget Chase Masterson played the "D'abo girl" Leeta, at Quark's.
Masterson... masturbate... see you in an hour (ok, ok, 2-3 minutes).
dasein66
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Posted - Jan 25 2010 : 5:45PM
This is a very interesting philosophical question, especially since advances in technology are making the porn experience more "real" (e.g. HD, masturbation devices, etc...). Real sex and porn are, in my estimation, just different modalities of sex. Since I enjoy the immense variety and perversity that porn provides without the trappings of mundane existence (like having to convince someone to engage in a 3-some and/or do anal), I often find that a well cultivated porn experience is more gratifying than a roll in the hay.
If in some future porn-utopia you could simulate experientially hyper-real sexual situations (i.e. super-porn), how many would still opt for regular sex?
smokedbacon
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Posted - Jan 25 2010 : 6:05PM
Vulcan Love Slave: Volume III :)
Katar Hol
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I know you're watching me.
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Posted - Jan 30 2010 : 3:30AM
I remember a bumper sticker that put it this way:
"PORN, IT'S CHEAPER THAN DATING!"
BlackSix All-Star Supporter
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pornography wasn't sex but fantasies of an impossibly hospitable world
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Posted - Jan 30 2010 : 6:22AM
No way, sex with a real person blows away porn, no comparison really.
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