Probably lots and lots of vodka. Seriously I am not Leya but being a gentleman until you get into the bedroom would probably help a lot. Also not expecting her to pay for the date would likely help. Use a breath mint before french kissing her. An actual seduction would probably help once you get her in the bedroom, don't just tear your clothes off and don't immediately slap a pair of cuffs on her and jam your dick up her ass sans lube without caressing her and telling her how hot she is for a bit first, playing with her tits and ass while seducing her. Remember that breath mint for kissing. If she is a woman that prefers to take an enema before anal, assisting her with that while telling her how hot she is and how much you want to tie her up and make her night might be nice. You know, be a gentleman and treat her right. If you do that she may even take you on a second date. Also, be clean -- especially in the crotch region since she would probably be having her mouth down there. If you are doing BDSM role-play remember that RED means stop and YELLOW means check-in and find out what is wrong. Have that pair of safety shears in your back pocket if you are doing rope bondage or the key to the handcuffs if you are using those (I tie a shoe-lace to my key so I can easily find it and wrap it around the cuffs after use). Leya, please give more personalized advice to this gentleman. I can give general advice from having dated and fucked women (being a man) but only you yourself can give that personalized advice about you.
Is this why some commercial porn sucks? On some websites I can pay 60 dollars for all I can eat when it comes to porn, and it is all "amateur" but is seems more real to me and the girls on the free porn which isn't really free seem to be more into fucking for the sake of fucking rather than the girls who are getting paid to do it.
Leya... Did u ever had sex with a male porn star just for personal enjoyment and fun at ur residence or private stay at hotels or resorts, where there is no camera man, director or any other to guide instead its u and him doing sex for both of your pleasure. In other words having sex with a porn star not for any porn industry video shooting. If so...in such a situation how long the guy (male porn star) can carry on with sex without cuming
You guys...this is supposed to be Sex Talk, not Ask A Porn Question. You guys are screwing up HER thread. STOP IT! Leya, do you like toys? If so which ones are your favorites? I'm a bullet and butt plug kinda gal.
^^ seriously! And I prefer glass dildos and butt plugs are nice as well. Vibrations don't do that much for me so I don't use them often. Edited by - leyafalcon on 2/7/2013 1:22:24 AM
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Posted - Feb 7 2013 : 2:33PM
Ive heard diabetes can effect sexual performance. Is that true?
^Yes, it is true. It's very common with Type 2 diabetes. At the shop we sold a lot of different supplements for it. Some guys can't take Cialis or Viagra because they are so expensive so they turn the the sex shops to find cheaper alternatives.
MOD Your post WAS addressed by Leya (3 posts up) so there is no need to post the exact same post here, besides the question is off topic as pointed out by SexShopGrl (4 posts up). This is for sex advice and your question doesn't request sex advice. If you want to ask Leya something concerning her career please do so via her Star Crossed thread, the link is below. If on the other hand you were asking Leya the question to compare yourself with "A" porn star in terms of how long it takes to cum then you may want to restructure your question and bear in mind you're asking for advice. Leya Falcon Making a Landing :^) Edited by - Jonny Jay on 2/8/2013 7:43:25 AM
absolutely! I am no doctor but I do watch Dr. Oz daily and know that this is in fact truth. With or without diabetes you always want to make sure you're keeping yourself healthy, exercise, proper diet, not smoking all of that will help you to make sure you keep a longer, stronger erection. If you cannot achieve an erection then it is time to consult your doctor about possible lifestyle changes, supplements to take or as a last resort, medication. On the lighter side, here is my "health advice" from 2012 avn, if nothing else its hilarious... Leya's Health Advice
I take it either you don't like french kissing or don't like mints. Oh well, I did say that my advice was more on the general side. I guess you did confirm what I suspected anyway -- if you want to act out your Princess Leya thrills you better get into porn and get cast in her scenes. Leya, may you get cast in the next Star Wars parody fucking Jar Jar Binks (played by Evan Stone). That can be played out for all sorts of dark humor.
I don't know what would be worse, kissing a dude or fucking jar jar. I hate episodes 1-3, especially jar jar and I really do not like kissing dudes. Its gross and creepy. Just stick your cock in my mouth and deal with it! I don't even like dudes kissing my neck or anything. Im strange. It creeps me out. Badly.
^^^LOL im glad you appreciate it. My no kissing rule offends some but most are ok with it when I say ok ill just suck your cock more instead!
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Posted - Feb 12 2013 : 12:11AM
What kind of music is the best to play when fucking? Should i put on some lords of acid or some my life with the thrill kill kult? What would you suggest? Or do you prefer no music at all?
my personal favorites would be Tool and Bone Thugs N Harmony, they're both very "sexy" sounding to me and I do get turned on when listening to them. Don't play cheesy romantic shit unless if its your wedding night or something, its just creepy. Definetly no R. Kelly, especially not "Having a Baby"
Leya, bad news then. Most of the men (and women) in the porn biz prefer Frank Sinatra and Perry Como to Thugs and Harmony (actually never heard of them but I know what kind of rap crap comes from thugs). Barbra Streisand and Melissa Manchester are favorites as well. Celtic Woman is a favorite of most of the Kink.com crowd (they want to fuck Chloe and Mairead after tying them up and flogging their asses cherry red) and Bobbi Starr prefers Beethoven and Bach (she played in a symphony before starting out in porn). Princess Donna and Lorelei Lee prefer Conway Twitty and Hank Williams Sr. The last time someone tried to play rap in the Armory, Peter and Madeline (another Bach lover) personally threw her and her iPod out a second story window onto the Mission St. sidewalk. I would still like to get my Leya thrills going but will have to remember not to play any music on set (chances of me being male talent are slim but you never know).
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Posted - Feb 12 2013 : 4:09AM
whoa mharris dont disrespect bone thugs like that E.1999 is a classic, just cuz u dont like rap and would rather listen to old ass liquor enthused swoon music doesnt mean it isnt good......plus she was talking about music "personally" anyway Edited by - kingdarius on 2/12/2013 4:10:44 AM
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^^ You should do a little research before saying Bone Thugs-N-Harmony is "rap crap" musik! They won a Grammy award in 1997 and sold over 30 millions albums! Plus, you should be ashamed to say this to Leya on her own thread! Do your homework @mharris127 before speaking! SMH
If I spoke out of turn I apologize. Just because they sold over 30 million albums doesn't mean they are any good. Also, if you didn't notice I was trying to be funny with my post. I thought that was clear when I quipped that Peter and Madeline threw an woman out a second story window. Everyone knows that no one would be thrown out of a window at Kink! Leya, I wish you the best with your career and hope to see you perform soon. Maybe even take Jack Hammer's dick up your ass with Madeline fucking your pussy with a strap-on, train style. You can be blowing James Deen and swallowing his load as well while suspended from the ceiling. I know I am dreaming but I may as well dream big! Edited by - mharris127 on 2/12/2013 9:08:12 AM
exactly!! I hate most rap but LOVE BTNH...and since when is Tool considered rap? I was asked what music I suggest to fuck to so I gave the music that I personally fuck to, I am not going to tell you to go fuck to Justin Beiber when I wouldn't personally do it. I am sticking to my suggesting of Bone Thugs n Harmony and Tool, yes there are other artists I fuck to but those are the main ones.
^ That is two of us that don't like Justin Bieber. I do really get everyone's point. I forget that Leya (and most female porn performers) is at least 30 years younger than I am when I post sometimes. I will try to take more care when I think I am funny in the future. I wonder if Kink or Intersec are hiring sixty year old male doms to direct their sites. If they are I really should apply. I do really think Leya should get dommed again along with a few others (Maitresse Madeline being one). Sister Dee from Intersec is also really cute and I would like to dom her as well. I think I would call myself "the Professor of Kink". I guess I can dream and fortunately that isn't illegal.
As far as butt plugs go, do you prefer them small, medium or of a large size? Have you ever tried the Hitachi wand, which is supposed to be a favorite among women, and if so, what kind of one to ten rating would you give it?
Seriously wolvie667? Are you too lazy to look for the threads? Wahine already told you where to find the answers. This was a question posted ages ago that I replied to. It's pretty much the advice I always gave at the shop and it's what works for me. I've had a lot of customers thank me later after they took this advice so apparently it worked for them too. Question
My boyfriend has been wanting me to try doing anal for a long time, and I don't really feel pressured because I also would like to do it, but I've always chickened out..
Now I decided to stop being such a coward and I've bought a realistic dildo the same size as my bf's dick, around 7 inches, and I want to start doing some anal training, but I need advice from someone experienced. Like, I've never had anything bigger than a finger in my ass, can someone guide me how to go from that to a 7 inch dildo, and then to a real dick?
I've been doing one finger for a while and getting a bit eager to try out the dildo. Can it cause any damage if I lube up like crazy and try to take the dildo without being used to more than one finger? It's one of those with a suction cup that I can stick on the wall, so I thought about backing up on it doggystyle on the bed. Would that be a bad first position?
My reply;
First of all to answer your concern about damage.
Yes, it can do damage called anal fissures. They are tiny tears in the skin. Rectal abrasions are places inside the rectum where the mucosal lining has been rubbed raw. They can both become very painful and are sometimes hard to treat. There are also cases where people have damaged the sphincter muscles but that's usually from hard core unnecessary roughness as in cases of anal rape. So the odds of that happening are low.
You are brave girl but you need to work your way up to penis. Seriously. Start out with some fun little butt toys and a decent lube. I'm a big fan of Wet Synergy for anal sex/play. Just make sure your toy isn't silicone or the Synergy will destroy it. Doc Johnson makes nice little plugs from Sil-a-gel which is a phtalate and cadmium free PVC vinyl. They are squishy, safe with silicone lube and easy to clean. They're also cheap- under $20. I also love Pipedreams Icicle No.2. The versatility of the No.2 alone, is enough to make it worth it's weight in gold. But it should only set you back about $30 at the most.
I DO NOT reccommend desensitizing (aka numbing) lubes such as Anal Ease because the medication can sometimes be too strong. When that happens you may not feel when something is wrong and wind up being butt sore...literally. That's when those pesky anal fissures and rectal abrasions can happen.
The more you play with your ass (or let him play with your ass) the less likely you are to clench up when something knocks on the back door. I would say your partner can do things to distract you until you get used to someone playing with your ass. But since you've already been fingered, you probably won't need that. If you do, have him give you some oral or vaginal fingering and when your good and relaxed let him finger your butt. If you climax from that, you then associate the O with the anal play and the fear factor is reduced greatly.
Doggy is sometimes too much for anal novices until they learn control. When you're ready for that dildo or a penis, laying sideways (spoon position) is a good place to start because you can totally relax. It's also a good position for first time penile penetration because his thrusts won't be so deep they hurt. As you become more confident, he can lift your leg and go deeper. Later on, when you both learn how much pressure, depth, thrusting strength and duration you can take, doggy and reverse cowgirl are also fun anal positions.
My personal favorite is, forearms on the mattress, hugging a pillow with my ass at his hip level. In that position, I go into my "zone" or what a submissive might describe as "subspace" when the pleasure and any remaining discomfort become one, giving you an entirely different sensation. Your endorphins kick in and you're in your own little world.
There are three kinds of anal sex pain.
1) The sharp stabbing pain. This is caused from stretching the sphincters too far too fast.
2) The crampy I-gotta-poop-now pain. This is caused then the bowel muscles are stretched because they are not used to something moving in reverse order.
3)The gradual irritating carpet- burn- in- your- ass type pain. This is caused from friction because rectums do not self-lube like vaginas.
All of this can be avoided by taking your time and being patient with yourself and your partner.
The first type goes away from practice and working up to size. You can also bear down slightly which will help open those muscles.
The second goes away with frequency. The more you engage in anal play/sex the less you will have the gotta poop sensation. Sometimes bearing down just a little as he enters can help this too, especially when you first try it. Anal flexibility can also tighten back up if you don't stay in practice. So if it's something you enjoy, stay in practice with anal play.
The third type of pain is just common sense...knowing when you've had enough and using a good lube.
I'm not even going to go into enemas. I'm not a fan and as long as you take a good poop an hour or two beforehand, wash your ass really well and use lube, they aren't necessary. In all the years I've engaged in anal sex, I've only had a couple accidents. And by accident, I mean a little smear here or there. Nothing to get grossed out over. If you're worried, keep some baby wipes or a wash cloth handy.
Never ever go ass to pussy or ass to mouth. If you do, use a condom. I always reccommend comdoms when you are playing with someone you are not blood bonded with and also to help prevent bacterial infections for both partners.
Lastly,relax...it's just sex and the anal O's are totally worth it.
After some time, you almost become addicted. I've been an anal fuck junkie for so long now, that at first penetration, I feel very full, I actually feel the hair on my arms stand on end and feel my nipples tighten hard enough to cut glass. That's part of the turn on for me. Good luck!
not every woman like vibrations, I am one that vibrations don't do much for me so I would rate a Hitachi a 2 only because if its the cordless one I can turn it around and fuck my pussy with it (as you can see in my first scene ever on bang bros) . I prefer large butt plugs because if you're going to stretch out your ass hole you might as well go all the way.
if you don't mind dirty butt sex then don't bother prepping but if you want clean butt sex, take time to clean out your ass holes (I discussed how to before either in this thread or another one) . Figure out what you guys both want, do you want to start slow or go all out? Starting out slow I would say anal beads as they aren't too stretching but they still feel nice and you can work up to dildos and plugs in whatever size you would like. Use a good amount of lube or spit, relax and have fun!!
Leya, since you obviously love dirty talk and sucking cock, how are you with sharing cock w/other girls or doing a lot of dirty talk during a g/g/guy blowjob scene ? Personally, I have this thing (fantasy) about girls fighting over or competing w/each other when sharing a cock...it just is so incredibly hot (imho)...have you experieced this in any of your scenes or personal life for that matter or would that turn you on ? ..really enjoyed reading your advice in this forum so far :)
There is a nice video on how to do an enema on Behind Kink (www.behindkink.com). It is many pages back now but Ariel does demonstrate the process nicely.
Peeing should not affect squirting. The fluids are different and produced in different organs, they just come out of the same hole so most can't distinguish between them unless they are up close and personal.
On camera, its all nifty. In my personal life, it is good sometimes to share but I don't always want to share the person I am with. It really depends on my mood
^ Dragon, you may want to look at the advice here in this thread as it may answer other questions you may have. As for getting your wife to suck your cock unfortunately if she won't do so you may need to get another wife. In my experience about 95 per cent of civilian women don't give condomless blowjobs. As cum is sort of gross I don't blame them. I have had limited success in using flavored condoms and flavored lubes to get a woman to give me a BJ, usually after she has had a few drinks as well. I tell friends and family that if they find a woman who likes to give blow jobs and gives them often that they better marry that woman (assuming they like blow jobs). If you ever find such a woman (other than Leya -- she has said here that she prefers other things), you may want to learn how to eat a woman's cunt out. I always have had a rule -- what is good for the goose is good enough for the gander. If she is blowing you, you should reciprocate and blow her. I hope you find that way to get your wife to suck your dick, I hate to see marriages end in divorce. Unfortunately you are probably out of luck and will have to choose between your wife and blow jobs.
^ Or the wrong state. Michigan is known as the most conservative, backwater hick state in the Union. I guess I should have wrote a disclaimer -- the women that seemed to be attracted to me were the more conservative women as I was a professional white-collar person all of my adult life and I tend to like more "cultured" things such as opera and the symphony. We have already established that I hate rap and hard rock music (nothing wrong with people that like that kind of entertainment, that kind of music just isn't for me) in this thread, maybe that crowd gives more blow jobs. I didn't even necessarily seek out the "upper middle class or rich" women, they just were the women attracted to me from high school (when I started dating) on through my life. Edited by - mharris127 on 3/15/2013 10:40:55 PM
COMMUNICATION! Tell her what you would like, ask what she would like. Relationships are all about communicating and if both of you communicate your desires and they don't get fulfilled and you can't come up with a compromise where you will both be happy then one of two things needs to happen: either reevaluate and adjust your needs to line up with your parters and compromise or find a new partner. You should never settle for less than what you want but with that being said if everything else is damn near perfect and she doesn't do certain things then you either accept it and realize that life isn't all about blow jobs (wow! Did I just say that??) Or take it as a dealbreaker and move on.
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Posted - Mar 19 2013 : 6:17PM
This is a fascinating thread. Other than wanting to spend a week with three hot women worshiping me and begging me to fuck them more I don't really need any advice, but there is a lot of good info here. I an surprised about the kissing Leya. Do you know why you feel that way? Is this just professionally or in your personal life as well? My first thought was that it would be hot to have a woman who just wants to get fucked silly with no romance or kissing, but alas, I must confess, I love to kiss. As long as I'm confessing, and it IS the season for confession, I am absolutely in mad lust with Jodie Arias. I mean sure, I'd have to pat her down for weapons first, but that girl is my kinda freak. I'm just saying.
Now I didn't go that far. I was just making an observation. A woman is not necessarily trash because she gives head, giving head is not even a factor in the trashiness of a woman. Besides, what is necessarily wrong with "trashy" women?
You were OK until the "Upper middle class" comment. Come on! Plenty of women in all stata of society are wild sexually just as there are those who are very sexually reserved.
^ Apologies, then Janine. I meant no harm, I was just explaining why possibly my experience was different than the other poster's. It is weird how a woman will let you hang her from the ceiling hogtied and cane her silly but once swallowing cum is involved forget it. I will reiterate -- there is nothing trashy or wrong with a woman sucking dick and swallowing every last drop of cum IMO. In fact, to prove it I will let Leya give me a blow job and have someone take a picture of the act (in Ohio of course -- don't want to do life for fornication). Edited by - mharris127 on 3/23/2013 12:36:49 AM
it is like that in my personal life as well, kissing is VERY intimate and special to me and I don't share it with just any guy (girls are a different story) . Fucking to me is nothing but a grand old time and isn't really all that intimate to me, its just animalistic and fun. For me to share my intimate side with someone it takes a whole lot and a very special person.
Seriously I am not Leya but being a gentleman until you get into the bedroom would probably help a lot. Also not expecting her to pay for the date would likely help. Use a breath mint before french kissing her. An actual seduction would probably help once you get her in the bedroom, don't just tear your clothes off and don't immediately slap a pair of cuffs on her and jam your dick up her ass sans lube without caressing her and telling her how hot she is for a bit first, playing with her tits and ass while seducing her. Remember that breath mint for kissing. If she is a woman that prefers to take an enema before anal, assisting her with that while telling her how hot she is and how much you want to tie her up and make her night might be nice. You know, be a gentleman and treat her right. If you do that she may even take you on a second date. Also, be clean -- especially in the crotch region since she would probably be having her mouth down there. If you are doing BDSM role-play remember that RED means stop and YELLOW means check-in and find out what is wrong. Have that pair of safety shears in your back pocket if you are doing rope bondage or the key to the handcuffs if you are using those (I tie a shoe-lace to my key so I can easily find it and wrap it around the cuffs after use).
