As for your questions, the best way to give a lady oral sex is to act like you are truly enjoying yourself and pay attention to her body language and vocalizations. If she's moaning, squirming and telling you that it feels good, believe her and keep doing what you're doing.

Actual technique will vary from woman to woman but just being enthusiastic and willing to please her goes a long way.

Regarding missionary fucking, I like to be teased and penetrated slowly at first. Having the cock brushed up against my clit and seeing the head part my lips is great. After a little bit of this, I like a nice hard thrust to get me going and then nice and fast from then on with some slow, grinding motions mixed in from time to time.

I love it when I'm about to cum and my partner just slams it in as hard and deep as he can, even better if he cums with me and shoots a huge, hot load deep inside.

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We'll be here.

Enjoy things while you can.

BSD

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When she seems to be the most into it, keep doing exactly what you are doing. The number one frustration is when the guy hits it perfect, dead on, great rhythm and pace and exactly the right pressure crossing right to left across the clit, just perfect, but changes to something else. If she's moaning and leaning up into it, stay on it a bit. Don't escalate. In a minute or so, you can try escalating or some new thing. I'm not sure what to do if a woman is the silent, passive type.

If you are going to ask what she likes, be sexy about it. Don't talk like it's a big discussion. "You want it slow, baby?" is fine, with a twinkle in your eye.

If you just want some ideas, fodder for your imagination, for variety -- [invalid URL removed]this book is reasonably good (though I like her book for women better -- it has some very cool techniques). There are also a lot of newer books out there that I haven't seen.

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It depends.

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ADT GOLD TRADER - and about to go platinum by the sounds of it. Begsy first dibs if there's any Marc Dorcels.

Z.

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And what you said about: "Do you want it slow, baby?" with a twinkle in your eye. That's great advice , lazenby.

Coming from a man who loves to make a woman come with his mouth and hands, I would just add "that just means relax and have fun, dude" for clarification. It's less about doing this for six seconds and that for ten while doing this other thing with your thumb and timing the .. fuck all that.

Empathy for what's going on in her body and mind will lead you both to the best orgasms. Knowing, seeing, and feeling that what you're doing is making her go apeshit is going to give you the confidence to do it better (and turn you on all the more, too, a nice bonus).

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Edited by - lindi on 10/4/2006 11:25:31 AM

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the 2nd question was one of those questions you can anwers with "everyone is different" sorta rules you just learn with experience-

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