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smallone
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Posted - Nov 27 2001 : 11:06PM
I have an incredible hang up with my penis. It's too small. I'm not joking either. I used to feel comfortable with my body until the past few years. I was always a bit of an exhibitionist so I found a web site that has amateur nude male models for women. I submitted some snapshots. The site includes my email address for anyone to write to me with comments about my pictures. Well, I've received a lot of negative comments about my penis being way too small. I never really paid much attention to size until someone told me mine was small. Then I started noticing guys at the gym locker room and mine sure does seem to be smaller than everyone else's. I've measured it soft from 2.5" to 3.5" and hard between 4.8" and 5.1". It's not thick either. How do I get over my obsession with size? I have heard of people going through hypnosis for things like this. Anyone else have this problem?
ookz
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251 Posts
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Posted - Nov 28 2001 : 3:46AM
hi smallone,

I think penis diameter is more important than
penis length.

Asian's penis is shorten than 5".

But, better you consult with doctor.

PS. There are penis enlargement program, but I've never tried before since my girl is satisfied with this one.

Janitor
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Posted - Nov 28 2001 : 11:33AM
smallone - the problem is in your head (the one on your neck), not in your penis. there are a lot of immature brats who run around the internet posting rude comments and sending people rude emails. do not pay attention to them. spend 5 minutes in a yahoo chat room and you'll see the idiots i speak of. these kids are incredibly insecure and have to put down other people to feel better.

think about life and love in a grander sense. what the hell does penis size matter? do you care about the size of a girl's tits? or any other singular body part? do you want to be with someone who cares about your parts rather than your whole being?

i know a lot of guys think the world revolves around the penis, but it doesn't.

dexplorer
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442 Posts
8/01
Posted - Nov 28 2001 : 3:15PM
Smallone --

First of all, the size of your flaccid penis is absolutely irrelevant to the sexual satisfaction of your mate. There is vastly more variation in flaccid size than in erect size, and the former is a poor predictor of the later. (Some large flacid penises only fill out, and don't get much longer for example, when hard.) Your erect size is solidly within the average group (5 to 6"), rather than being below that, much less WAY below that as you imagine. I think I recall the US median as being 5-3/4, measured on the top side.

Secondly, the vast majority of sexologists and women report that unless the erect penis is REALLY small (like in the 3" area or so), it is vastly more important how well the man uses it than it's size. In fact most report no sensation advantage from larger size. Since all of a woman's sensation is on and around her clitoris, or within less than an inch of her opening pussy wall, esp. at the upper part of her vagina (the "G" spot), this makes perfect sense anatomically.

Further, there really are a lot more women who complain that excessively long or thick penises hurt them, or make them uncomfortable, than complain about ones too small to feel enough from. That discomfort range doesn't just occur with monster cocks either. Many seem to find 7" too big, or certainly 8". Really. Our own highly sexy blondie has said 7" makes her uncomfortable for example, and she prefers around 5". And not too thick either. (Like her beloved Sybian. <gg>)

I realize you would NEVER hear or perceive any of this from watching porn, or reading most written male oriented pornography, That doesn't mean it isn't true. Porn caters to male envy and fear as well as male excitement. It's vastly easier and more lucrative to go with the urban legend flow, that to try to counteract it.

However, if we are going to be completely honest, I do think there is a subset of women who DO lust after really hung guys. A minority, and a fairly small one, but they do exist.

I think in 90% or more of these cases this is almost entirely psych. Big is better because they think it is, and feel overwhelmed by it. Often these women like being sexually overwhelmed and dominated. Plenty of others who don't particularly share their big cock hang up do as well. Most ways of being overwhelmed don't necessarily involve monster cocks. There's the overall personality of the guy. And sometimes his overall size. His forcefulness and magnetism. Most of all his confidence. (Which isn't helped by dwelling on the size of what he thinks is a small prick.) But for some they've become conditioned to the idea that a big cock is more overwhelming and dominating. I imagine that visual porn often plays a big role in this conditioning, either directly or through her friends, or both.

The truth is, if that is the way you want to go, learning something about D/s game and other playing and emotions will take you MUCH further. It still might not get you there with everyone, but it will for a whole lot of the "overwhelm me" crowd.

And anyway, that's only a small subset of sexual interaction modes, at least taken to any far extent.

My $0.02.

BIGmike
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2335 Posts
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Posted - Nov 28 2001 : 8:31PM
smallone,

It's not the size of the wave, it's how you ride it. Or something along those lines.

Don't let this get to you, all that matters is that you feel good about yourself, and be HAPPY with what you were born with!

Watching too much porn will fuck with your mind. This used to be an obsession of mine as well, but I got over the hang up. Because I know that size DOESN'T matter!

Just feel good that you've got what you got, and know that you don't need a big penis to feel secure:

A guy with a big dick, could turn out to be just that a "BIG DICK"

Edited by - BIGmike on Nov 28 2001

 
Kimi Lixx
Senior Member

2012 Posts
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Posted - Nov 29 2001 : 2:48PM
Okay, for just a minute let's think about all those sexy stories and or movies you've ever listened to, read or watched. How about all those women screaming and yelling and orgasming and squirting and whatever from guys fingering them? Hmmm?

Is your penis as big as your finger? - Then why worry?

Kimi - prefers Lixx anyway

Dr. Evil
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98 Posts
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Posted - Nov 29 2001 : 6:53PM
I'll give you the same advice I'd give to a 1 minute man. Get her all warmed up first. Foreplay plays a huge part. If she's right on the edge just before you penetrate her she wont care how big or small you really are all shell care about is gettin off. And she'll think your a better lover for it.



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