It's times like those that I'd like to see some sort of questionaire that both sides have to fill out before the first date...

- Saki

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You might try to bring it up casually, like mentioning a position you saw in a film. Watch something like Boogie Nights or Orgazmo and talk about porn that you've personally seen. With the adult film world as a major focus in the films, it's easy to lead the conversation into porn. Another good way to ease into it is by blending popular culture with porn. Mention how you see Ron Jeremy popping up everywhere like Kid Rock's video, etc. Whatever. The key is to gradually lead the conversation there. You want to get it out but you don't want to look like porn is always on your mind and you feel guilty about it.

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I would have to agree with what others have said. Honesty is the best policy
here. If you are thinking of having a long term relationship, you should tell
her your "secret" now. That way, if she's not cool with it, you can eject from the
relationship before things get too serious.

Be careful in how you approach the subject though. You've already indicated
that she has an interest in stripping. Since it appears you two have had discussions
about sex related topics, you can bring up your porn in a similar fashion. Talk about a
movie you've seen recently, or start up the ever popular "how old were you when
you saw your first film?" discussion. Then gage her response and act accordingly.

FYI, porn has not ruined any of the relationships I've been in. If anything, the women
in my life have always seemed fascinated by it, and the responses have been mostly
positive.

Good luck.

Edited by - JS on May 22 2001

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Give her a softcore stripping video as a surprise random gift (women love suprise gifts :) That would be a good lead in.

I've probably said this 1000 times, but you get to hear it again. As long as she knows you think she's beautiful, that she's the one you want, then she won't care about your porn hobby. Make sure to have a good couples movie on hand in case she wants to check one out when you tell her.

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If she knows that you like strippers, and wants to be one herself, she's gotta know that porno goes hand-in-hand, or hand-on-cock, with strippin.

SPLOOJ!

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