Are you asking for a psychological diagnosis of what components create a "pervert?"

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Are you asking how to get a person to develope a taste for kinkier sex?

If that's the case, communication is key.

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the question:

How - by psychology - we can change someone to be pervert?
How to make someone who hates sadism to love that kind of perversion?
How to make a woman who hates lesbian acts to love doing sex with girls?
How to make a woman who hates wearing naked clothes, how to let her like wearing tight or naker clothes?
All that by psychology

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So go ask a preacher or a Rabbi or an Iman and you might just get the answer you're looking for.

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The only way that I know of to change a person's psychological makeup is through force and longterm abuse.

Anything against a person's will should be considered immoral.

If a woman is deadset against doing certain things sexually or behaving in a particular way, that is her right and should be respected as such.

Like I said, communication is the key.

If you are with a girl who you want to expose to new things, talk about them with her, but most importantly, listen to her responses.

That she gives the impression that she "hates" certain things makes it VERY unlikely that you will change her.
She obviously has her own very good reasons for feeling so adamantly.

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But I'm with absynth, both forms of coercion are morally rephrensible

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I would suggest having your friend concentrate his reading on the principles of social proof, liking, and consistency. Also, be advised that since your friend has already exposed himself of his intentions, it'll be even more challenging to change his wife's frame of mind. Most likely, he'll have to use a combination of several techniques from different principles as well as immersing her in an environment/culture where it is not only acceptable to dress in a sexual way, but it is encouraged as well. Keep in mind that the success rate depends on subtlety, delivery methods, consistency, and adaptability to situations.

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Here's a thought... how about an open conversation between husband and wife, no false pretenses or ulterior motives?

Seriously, quacks who write that kind of pseudo intellectual babble should have very bad things done to them....

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While it may be possible to coerce someone into doing what you want them to do, it isn't something I would recommend even trying.

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Perhaps the wife was told by her mother that showing herself off is bad. Perhaps the wife was an ugly duckling when she was younger and people made fun of her. Whatever the case, the fact that she's uncomfortable with the subject means that any attempt to focus on it is just going to make her recall the reason she's uncomfortable. That is counter-productive.

If the husband wants to pursue this, I would suggest he abandon the subject of wearing tight outfits in public and spend his time telling his wife, and showing his wife, that she's a beautiful woman.

Depending on how well they get along, he may be able to introduce sexy clothing into the bedroom as part of sex play. This would be a good way for his wife to be daring in private, and another opportunity to praise her good looks.

However, there's no prescription here that doesn't boil down to know thy wife. If he puts the focus on her wants and needs, he may find that his reward is a happy, confident wife who enjoys wearing sexy clothes in public for his pleasure.

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- kingofbutts, where are you from? I'm just curious cuz you type with an accent. If your native language is not English, I think everyone should disregard the use of the words pervert/perversion. Clearly a language barrier. (Of course, if English is your first tongue, you may wish to check out The Elements of Style by William Strunk, Jr.)

-psychological manipulation is, more often than not, enforced through negative stimulus. However, it very much can be consensual.

Consider a person brought up believing that being left-handed was not only wrong, but a sign of possession by the devil, and, further, that he/she wholeheartedly and unquestioningly believes this assertion. He/she would then be open to just about anything designed to make him/her right-handed, including physical and/or emotional pain.

People with phobias often pay their doctors to help (cure?) them, and many are treated with exposure therapies. They voluntarily put themselves in situations where their phobia is tested. Heights is met with step-stools, ladders, elevators. Snakes is met with ... well, snakes. Etc.

- kingofbutts, my personal suggestion agrees with the others already mentioned. Communication! They need to talk.

Where I disagree with some others here is what they need to discuss. If this woman has a severe mental or emotional block/issue, discussing it with her husband - a man who seems to understand very little of the human psyche - will do little good. What they need to discuss first is whether or not the woman sees her reluctance to express herself sexually as a problem. If she doesn't, all conversations need to stop right there. You cannot convince someone to change if they don't see anything wrong.

If she isn't ok with her sexual expression, then the discussion between her and her husband needs to be about where they are going to look for help. (This needs to be professional help, in person, not advice from a forum.)

And for God's sake, tell your friend not to force anything on this poor woman. These decisions need to come from her and from her alone. Yes, she may want to change to please him, but if she isn't pleasing herself, the chage won't take, and resentment will grow.

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thanks all for the interest.

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Edited by - Endless Loop on 9/25/2006 3:43:18 AM

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That said, what Random says about "thinking more about that before he married her" is easier said than done. His wife showed a side that appealed to him early on, but somewhere in the relationship (I know not exactly), she went all Jesus-freak on him. Their home is decorated with various religious signs/items, much to his dismay. And furthermore, it's how she is raising their child.

I agree with Hardware, do the honest thing, tell her she's beautiful and make her feel it (but dammit, MEAN IT!!)...so much perhaps that she's finally comfortable showing some of it off, if that is indeed the case.

Edited by - Eric381 on 10/2/2006 11:56:08 PM

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I was afraid to feel pleasure. we are taught to be proper young ladies. make her feel HOT- lingerie, the admiration of men.. make her feel sexy and she will open up.
or-- ((evil grin))
ship her to Canada and master & I will train her, we'll send her back in 1 piece ;) i promise!!

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