(unhurried, fun, pleasurable for both partners, with a more romantic vibe), as opposed to the frenetic, aggressive, angry anal (wherein the girl is perpetually being tested, challenged, borderline abused more than anything else).
nice examples would be the totally blissful AND totally out-of-place interlude between uber-hottie Shy Love and Steve Hooper in Anal Trainer 7, or spectacular-assed America and Michal Stefano's slow grind of a chemistry lesson from Feeling Black 8. yes -- the guys put their penises in play, but ultimately the girls dictate the action as much as the guys, and everyone (including the viewer) reaps the bounteous rewards. these are near perfect scenes sex in my book, and they clearly demonstrate that tremendous heat and intensity can be forged without speed, flailing and wailing, and brute force.