She doesn't get why people are into it. She thinks it's gross, wrong, and bad for your health if you receive it. She also jokingly accuses me of being gay because I'm into it. Could you guys help me out by breaking down why people might be into it in a psychological way. Also, maybe explain how it can not be gross or bad for health. Basically, I guess I'm looking for fellow anal enthusiasts to defend why anal sex is normal and fun if done properly. I'm looking for serious opinions and info only please. Men, women, whoever wants to speak up about it, its fine with me. Thanks ahead of time.
Some women don't want to do anal because they're embarrassed about you pulling it out and smelling shit or seeing her shit on your dick. Some women don't want to do it because they're worried that it could possibly cause them pain or even rip their anus. Some women may be worried because it's much easier for them to catch an STD if you ejaculate in their ass as opposed to ejaculating in their pussy. These are all valid concerns, so you have to acknowledge them if she brings it up and find ways to convince her that maybe there are some things you both could do to calm her fears. First, she could (and definitely should) enema thoroughly before anal sex. It doesn't guarantee that you won't smell any shit, but it really helps. Second, work your way into actually putting your dick in her ass. Shower together, and after she's cleaned off her ass, gently rub her rim. The next time, tell her you'd like to only put the first two inches of your finger in. The third time, put the finger all the way in. By the fourth time, she'll probably let you put your dick in her ass. It's best to work your way into it gradually, because if you try to do to much too soon, it will be a bad experience for her and she'll never want to do it again. Realize that there are some women who are dead-set against anal and will resist trying it no matter what you try to do to convince her. If your girlfriend feels that way, you have to decide for yourself if that's a dealbreaker.
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Not Lucy Lee (Fake Account) Deactivated User
Liberté, Egalité, Sexualité! 355 Posts 9/14
Posted - Jan 14 2015 : 10:07AM
some people think anal is dirty but if you are clean and use good lube, no problem. To wash and clean before and after use your fingers, water and soap...or enemas and condoms if you like. To get ready use lube, oil, fingers, tongue, soft dildos, anal plugs. Dont fuck her ass if anus is not ready and your dick is not very hard because you hurt her. May be she is ass virgin because she thinks anal is dirty and hurts, but if you do it good she loves it.
It takes time for some women to be comfortable with their butt - especially if they are worried they are going to shit themselves, and it's going to be dirty. It takes lots of reassurance, and build up to get there. Start with licking one time, then a finger another session etc, and slowly work your way up. Hopefully she will loosen up eventually!
Sometimes you just have to accept that your significant other isn't into something. If she's that emphatic about not wanting to do it, you should just drop it.
Because guys have assholes too right? Next time she says this, ask her why she likes kissing. Women have lips too - do this mean she is 'being a lesbian'? ;)
Then tell her help you be a raging fucking homo and this will help you get over it and through it. Kablammo! Just remember just put the helmet at the opening and let her dictate everything else. Otherwise she's just going to hate it all.
It's one of those things that you probably have to accept. My ex GF would not let me go near it (even my tongue) let along my rod. Her mind was set on no anal. Eventually I had to reflect and accept that I would never go there. We ended up parting ways due to various reasons, but part of it me wants to think I fell out of love due to her lack of experimentation and effort to allow me to at least try anal on her. It psychologically played a part as I wanted to find a life partner that also liked what I liked. Currently, my fiancee LOVES anal. I mean, we still have vaginal intercourse but we do have a lot of anal and she loves a getting rimmed. We understand each other. We push each other's limits and we both are comfortable with each other. We are open and trust is 100% there- our sex life is more than I could ask for, and we are discussing to start group sessions soon too. If you are THAT into anal, maybe could hire an escort to get it out of your system, but trust me...once you pop it's difficult to turn back. Good luck, let us know your progress!
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stoneblade Deactivated User
450 Posts 7/16
Posted - Oct 18 2016 : 7:49PM
My kind of girl, I dislike anal too. But my wife insists on at least rim play. I just find it disgusting, even though she's always extra clean down there.
