Foreplay: Again it depends on the woman. If she is enjoying what you are doing then it really can't go on too long. If you are slowly building her up to a shattering orgasm then I doubt if she is going to start complaining . If however she sighs heavily, rolls over with her ass in the air, & grumbles "Just stick it in me already" then you've probably gone on too long .

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Edited by - Recoil Therapy on 2/1/2005 1:10:39 PM

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As far as how long foreplay should last before the girl is bored -- hopefully she is expressive, and you can see her expressions, and she talks or coos or something. You just have to watch her and listen to her and feel how she moves and observe what she likes. Hopefully she is not too timid, and will take some initiative to move things along when that's what she wants. Observing the other person's reactions is a major part of the whole deal.

Edited by - lindi on 2/3/2005 2:09:42 PM

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If she likes being tickled, that's a different technique.

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2) Foreplay should last as long as you both want it... There are no rules and there's definitely no rush when you're between the sheets. Honestly, is there something you'd rather be doing than giving and receiving pleasure?

"Sorry I was late boss, I was licking my girlfriend's ass and I must have lost track of the time. I got here as soon as I could, I didn't even have time to brush my teeth."

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lindi, what do you mean by "you can fuck them (armpits)"? Is there a way to do that? Also, I didn't really understand your technique for minimising ticklishness for the woman. Would you mind elaborating a little for me?

Lastly, during foreplay with someone for the very first time, is there anything strictly taboo? Is there any act that women are known to dislike in bed, especially for someone new at sex? Also, I've read that fingering a woman's G-spot might cause squirting. Is squirting a real orgasm, or just a side-effect?

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When you WANT somebody to be ticklish, you get humorous and giggly, every touch is all sneaky and spidery-light, maybe you are wrestling. To minimize ticklishness, just avoid that sort of thing and do the opposite. Don't cultivate a sad mood, of course, just a very serious, sensual, mood. Re-read my other post, you'll get what I mean. It's hard to tickle anybody with a rock-solid, heavy, slow touch. And when somebody is already aroused, they are not in a mind-frame to perceive a steady, solid touch as tickling.

For fucking the armpit, think booby-fucking -- you have to create a tight area. She can draw her arm tight against her body. Then you just snug in a penis. It doesn't matter how you line it up -- it's less awkward with her sitting on the edge of a bed than with her laying on her back -- you just work it out. If she's smooth shaven, you're gonna need some lube.

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As to being ticklish. I used to be extremely so - a back rub would leave me helpless on the ground. Eventually I got desensitized enough to enjoy them. As Lindi said, it takes a firm touch at first so as not to tickle them. Once they have grown used to your touch/desensitized a bit then you can lighten up on your strokes.

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I know if I take enough care and time with foreplay to get my wife extremely turned on she'll do things she normally wouldn't... or at least consider them before she says "are you fucking crazy?"

It really comes down to silent mutual decisions... but don't be afraid to ask and encourage her to do the same. The real talent comes when knowing you don't have to ask (or be told) and you can spontaneously fulfill her fantasies

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I remember my first attempt at foreplay, I was so tense! But I had the luck that the girl that I was with sorta controlled the tempo and encouraged me to put my head near places I'd never seen before from that close.

After that experience, I took the lead in the next foreplay sessions. For me, it had all to do with being assertive and adventurous.

''The unexamined life is not worth living''

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(I'm not talking about "pitlingus", more like oral or other mainstream sex)

It's usually a good bet to go slow. If you two click there will have plenty of time to explore fetishes and become bored with them later.

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It's important to listen to her. Not just her words, but "listen" to the reactions of her body too. Everyone's likes and dislikes are different.

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