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| DavidWroe Member 7 Posts 2/12 |  Posted - Feb 20 2012 : 3:33AMThis is question for all but I would also appreciate any insight an actress in the industry could share. I have been seriously dating a wonderful lady who was a porn actress but got out of the business about 2-3 years ago. She was in it for about 4-5 years. I knew this when we started dating, but not the extent of her scenes. Only later did I find out that her performances involved nearly the entire gamut of types of sex listed below. As we have gotten closer what used to not really matter to me early in our relationship has begun to bother me at times. And not I am not exactly sure why. The knowledge of her past in the porn industry has led to various concerns and I am not sure whether they are valid or not. I want to be clear that I still care for her and think no less of her for working in the industry. My concerns are mainly centered around whether her extensive experience could negatively affect our sex life. She has experiences that the vast majority of women will never have, not just in quantity but in quality. E.g. sex with guys with big cocks, vaginal and anal, dp, and multiple guys at once. I will say that we have a good sex life and she tells me that I am a wonderful lover and giver, and I do enjoy all aspects of it. But sometimes I wonder if she is settling for a less thrilling sex life. I mean there is no way i can provide her with the kind of experiences that she was fairly accustomed to on camera. I realize that my concerns may sound like insecurity, and I am sure there is some of that, but maybe somebody could give me a little healthy perspective of all this. Thanks, Dave Topic Moved by - Jonny Jay on Feb 20 2012 [Link] |
| matchmaker Senior Member 24910 Posts 4/05 | Posted - Feb 20 2012 : 4:00AM [Link] |
| Cuddly Wombat Senior Member Just another bare bum in the shiower 1739 Posts 12/04 | Posted - Feb 20 2012 : 5:28AM [Link] |
| slacker2002 Member 725 Posts 6/06 | Posted - Feb 20 2012 : 7:56AM [Link] |
Jacco  All-Star Member "liable to deprave and corrupt" 2673 Posts 5/04 | Posted - Feb 20 2012 : 8:12AM |
| DavidWroe Member 7 Posts 2/12 | Posted - Feb 20 2012 : 8:49AM Actually, she was not into the party scene and did not hang out with other people in the industry. And she is probably one of the least materialistic persons I have ever met. She is great person - thoughtful, kind, and generous. [Link] |
| loveporn Member 186 Posts 5/07 | Posted - Feb 20 2012 : 9:16AM [Link] |
| Hardware All-Star Member Your other left 14595 Posts 3/02 | Posted - Feb 20 2012 : 9:18AM Second, porn is not sex, porn is performance. If your lady is not a fool then worries about her confusing the two are groundless. [Link] |
| Rod Member 908 Posts 8/10 | Posted - Feb 20 2012 : 9:26AM One more thought. I shot several scenes with a couple. The F had previously worked in the industry before she met and married the M. They decided to work with me to make several videos. It was her/their way of sort of leveling the playing field so they could both have the porn experience and have it together. Just a thought, it's not too late to share it together. I've actually done this with more than one couple. It would give you a better appreciation for what not to worry about. [Link] |
| Rubberhole Deactivated User 256 Posts 2/10 | Posted - Feb 20 2012 : 9:57AM [Link] |
| Kimi Lixx Senior Member 2012 Posts 6/01 | Posted - Feb 20 2012 : 10:24AM Yes, I miss the sexual variety my previous professional life allowed me to have. So what. He's so much more important to me than any of that ever was. Not just emotionally, either. I always want him - HIM. Not some random penis of whatever dimension. I want HIS cock. It's wonderful. Everything he does to me is great. Would I like it better if he'd roll me over and shove it up my ass or down my throat now and then. Well. Yes. Yes, I would. Oh well, it gives me fantasy material. And who knows, maybe someday he will. I did get the anal once... You are undoubtedly more hung up on this than she is. [Link] |
| DavidWroe Member 7 Posts 2/12 | Posted - Feb 20 2012 : 2:29PM [Link] |
| DavidWroe Member 7 Posts 2/12 | Posted - Feb 20 2012 : 2:48PM [Link] |
| BAS Member 343 Posts 9/08 | Posted - Feb 20 2012 : 3:04PM [Link] |
| His Dudeness All Business Shut the fuck up, Donny!! 2793 Posts 4/10 | Posted - Feb 20 2012 : 3:27PM [Link] |
| jayo All-Star Member 2117 Posts 7/04 | Posted - Feb 20 2012 : 5:24PM It's like what Kimi said above. What was missing in the Work part was the love/relationship component. That's something only you bring to the table. It's easier said than done, but quit feeling inadequate. She chose you, so you're obviously giving her something important and rare. If anything, you should feel like a stud. [Link] |
| DavidWroe Member 7 Posts 2/12 | Posted - Feb 21 2012 : 12:56AM It is interesting that when I first met her and things were more casual, she talked more freely about her time in the industry and what it was like, why and how she got into it. I have rarely brought it up and when I do now, she says it hurts to talk about and that she wishes she had not gotten into the industry. I'm not sure why the change in her feelings or whether before she was just not up front about the negative aspects of the porn biz. Mostly this refers to how some the guys treat the girls and the pressure to perform and not say no. I want to talk to her more about this but want to be sensitive about her not wanting to talk about it much. Thanks Kimi for your input and I would appreciate other comments from female performers. [Link] |
| christianx Senior Member 1883 Posts 9/04 | Posted - Feb 21 2012 : 5:56AM [Link] |
| Cuddly Wombat Senior Member Just another bare bum in the shiower 1739 Posts 12/04 | Posted - Feb 21 2012 : 9:11AM [Link] |
| Seijuro Senior Member 1389 Posts 12/09 | Posted - Feb 21 2012 : 1:57PM Christian, you totally fu*ked up the fantasy! That story made me feel like a kid waiting to get a picture with Santa at the mall and you walked right up and yanked his beard off! lol [Link] |
| His Dudeness All Business Shut the fuck up, Donny!! 2793 Posts 4/10 | Posted - Feb 21 2012 : 2:18PM [Link] |
| David Cop-a-feel Deactivated User Trust me, honey, it gets better 323 Posts 10/10 | Posted - Feb 21 2012 : 8:49PM [Link] |
| Rosco Fuji Deactivated User On the licking stick, Mr. Magic Dick! 3309 Posts 2/09 | Posted - Feb 21 2012 : 11:57PM Secondly: Why are you asking for relationship advice about dating a porn star on this site? There was a thread here recently and the majority of people responding said they wouldn't date or marry an actress. [Link] |
| Rubberhole Deactivated User 256 Posts 2/10 | Posted - Feb 22 2012 : 9:30AM [Link] |
| loveporn Member 186 Posts 5/07 | Posted - Feb 22 2012 : 11:26AM [Link] |
| cross Senior Member I Love Beef Curtains! 1072 Posts 6/05 | Posted - Feb 23 2012 : 9:14PM As long as you can see it just as acting you should be sweet, its not liked she loved 100s of guys before you. Thank your lucky stars man Edited by - cross on 2/23/2012 9:15:59 PM [Link] |
| His Dudeness All Business Shut the fuck up, Donny!! 2793 Posts 4/10 | Posted - Feb 23 2012 : 9:44PM [Link] |
| budtugley Senior Member One man's trash can be the next man's treasure. 1187 Posts 1/04 | Posted - Feb 27 2012 : 5:17PM The best way I can put it is this. Porn gals fuck. Some guys they fuck, some they have sex with, but only their lovers do they make love to. It's the emotional/mental/spiritual intimacy they share with their lovers. On the porn set, it's sex. Pure, plain, simple. The gals more or less block out the emotional/mental/ and spiritual facet of the physical interaction. Some guys they might be paired with several times, it can go from fucking to having sex if they have at least some warm feeling for them. But it's not love. The important thing is does she love you and do you love her. If the porn past interferes with your ability to love her, you need to find a different flower. Linda Eastman, who married Paul McCartney, had been a groupie for rock musicians and Hollywood actors. Paul had boned his share of the finest females on the planet. When they married, they slept together every night for 30 years minus a couple of days Paul spent in jail for marijuana possession. They loved each other and they each put their pasts behind them. If you can't do that, it's hopeless. It isn't easy, insecurity could be an issue with you, she's had guys with larger boners, multiple men, things you can't duplicate. If you feel less than qualified to be her lover, end it, move on. If you do love her, realize she makes love with you, she doesn't fuck you, she doesn't have sex with you, she love makes with you. Hopefully, that's all you need. [Link] |
| Rod Member 908 Posts 8/10 | Posted - Feb 28 2012 : 7:58AM [Link] |
| Joey Starr Senior Member Still wanking after all these years. 8082 Posts 10/00 | Posted - Feb 28 2012 : 8:45AM [Link] |
| scorpiusdeus Member Nice thing about tattoos, I'm spending much less on porn now. 225 Posts 9/11 | Posted - Mar 15 2012 : 3:49PM Now, don't get me wrong, it was fun. Had a great time... But it does not compare to having great sex with a woman you are madly and crazy in love with. I would guess that this is even more so for females. You don't have to be the biggest, or even the best, just the one she loves. In all honesty, in my wild days it was like drugs. The more you do the more you want. Always more, bigger, better. Pretty soon you get bored and there's nothing new to look forward too. You become jaded. That all goes out the window when you truly fall in love. When you reach a certain level of intimacy and honesty. Don't worry, just make her feel more loved than she ever has been and you're golden. [Link] |
| scorpiusdeus Member Nice thing about tattoos, I'm spending much less on porn now. 225 Posts 9/11 | Posted - Mar 15 2012 : 3:57PM [Link] |
| Opium Deactivated User 300 Posts 3/12 | Posted - Apr 2 2012 : 9:44PM [Link] |
| His Dudeness All Business Shut the fuck up, Donny!! 2793 Posts 4/10 | Posted - Apr 3 2012 : 11:16AM [Link] |
| Macster Member 42 Posts 10/10 | Posted - Apr 3 2012 : 5:11PM Somehow, I'd very much doubt you are capable of any kind of intimacy with meaning with a woman anyway, although maybe that develops in later teens.......... [Link] |
| His Dudeness All Business Shut the fuck up, Donny!! 2793 Posts 4/10 | Posted - Apr 3 2012 : 7:39PM I don't have that false belief of being all in love and having "intimacy" like you do. It's ok you usually grow out of that after your teens.... [Link] |
| Hardware All-Star Member Your other left 14595 Posts 3/02 | Posted - Apr 3 2012 : 8:26PM [Link] |
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