There has been a lot of discussion in the general porn forum about "rough sex", sparked in part by the release of Brandon Iron's "I LOVE IT ROUGH". To me, it's an interesting topic in the realm of actual sex, as well as in porn viewing. lindi wrote a very thoughtful piece on the subject, which can accessed by clicking here.

In the column referenced above, lindi focused primarily on various aspects of the psychological appeal of rough sex. In connection with other dialogue in this forum about the origin of sexual preferences, I also believe that there are certain largely physical elements, which vary from person to person, that also play a pivotal role in influencing the appeal (or negative appeal) of rough sex.

I’m thinking primarily here of people’s differing sensitivities to physical stimuli, and whether a particular person’s body “interprets” or “experiences” those stimuli as pleasure-filled, painful, neither, or a mixture of the two (in varying degrees). I myself have a fairly high pain threshold, and I generally find rougher sexual contact – such as having my nipples pinched and pulled hard – extremely enjoyable on a purely sensory level, all connotations of passion aside. My wife, on the other hand, has a relatively low pain threshold; for instance, sometimes she finds someone else brushing her hair to be painful. As a consequence, she has always experienced rougher sex-play as uncomfortable at best, and downright unpleasant at worst (so it’s not something that we’ve engaged in much and, even then, quite a while ago). Although my wife is perfectly willing to indulge my desire for rough nipple stimulation during gentle intercourse, rough intercourse is quite literally outside of her comfort zone.

I’m interested in hearing about other people’s experiences with “rough sex” in their personal lives, if anyone cares to share.