Sex with a person who has a physical disability?

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ShelbyGordan Deactivated User 422 Posts 6/20	Posted - Oct 12 2020 : 12:42AM Alright so this is a question for those who are pretty promiscuous and aren't too picky on who they have sex with as long as they're all safe and comfortable with each other. Would you have sex with someone who has physical disability???? For example myself I have a physical disability called spina bifida and I walk with a limp. I had spine and nerve damage on my lower back. It is and L5 spine injury and that affects the control of my bowel and bladder movements which I don't have full control of those things. So would that bother some of you that aren't to picky about who they fuck? I can we get hard and have sex but I don't have much sex and I think it's because people can see info have a physical disability and it might seem weird to some people? Let's talk about it would you have sex with a person like myself who has this kind of problem? [Link]
Simple Simon Senior Member 12302 Posts 2/15	Posted - Oct 12 2020 : 1:24AM Interestingly, where I am, I often hear men with disabilities saying that they are entitled to sex. And so the government should fund payment to sex workers for them. One such man said that in some European countries, the government does actually subsidies sex worker costs for men with disabilities. (And yes, this does assume that someone with a disability wants to see a sex worker. Someone with a disability might not want to see a sex worker for the same reasons someone without a disability may not want to see a sex worker.) [Link]
mykranili Member 49 Posts 10/20	Posted - Oct 12 2020 : 1:57AM Its all about chemistry. How many impossible sexual pairings have we all witnessed over the years? Couples that are screwing that boggle the mind and topple all sense and logic. Why? Because we can't help who we're attracted to, and this would apply to potential partners with a disability. On paper, most of us would say NO to having sex with a handicapped woman, but in the real world, where animals, emotion and feelings run free, anything is possible... [Link]
ShelbyGordan Deactivated User 422 Posts 6/20	Posted - Oct 12 2020 : 9:05AM Simple Simon wrote: Interestingly, where I am, I often hear men with disabilities saying that they are entitled to sex. And so the government should fund payment to sex workers for them. One such man said that in some European countries, the government does actually subsidies sex worker costs for men with disabilities. (And yes, this does assume that someone with a disability wants to see a sex worker. Someone with a disability might not want to see a sex worker for the same reasons someone without a disability may not want to see a sex worker.) Click to expand Ok thanks for you feedback, but I wasn't asking for someone to pay for sex workers for me..no disrespect. Yes I've researched and found out in some countries the government pays for sex work for those with disabilities. I am all for that unfortunately here in the USA I don't have that option. I was asking the question I asked based really on like amateur everyday people who have multiple partners they has sex with. With money not being involved whatsoever, just people who enjoy having sex without the need for someone to pay them. [Link]
AngryPirate Senior Member 3210 Posts 8/17	Posted - Oct 12 2020 : 9:07AM I have had sex with a woman who happens to be a wheelchair user. We had really good chemistry and her weakened lower body mobility didn't get in the way of it. [Link]

ShelbyGordan Deactivated User 422 Posts 6/20	Posted - Oct 12 2020 : 9:09AM mykranili wrote: Its all about chemistry. How many impossible sexual pairings have we all witnessed over the years? Couples that are screwing that boggle the mind and topple all sense and logic. Why? Because we can't help who we're attracted to, and this would apply to potential partners with a disability. On paper, most of us would say NO to having sex with a handicapped woman, but in the real world, where animals, emotion and feelings run free, anything is possible... Click to expand Well in the real world it is super hard to find someone to have sex with me. And I know it's because of my disability I've even had a close friend of mine who said "not to offend you but I didn't know if I could fuck you and it is because of your disability " We both were drinking one night and that's what came out of their mouth. [Link]
ShelbyGordan Deactivated User 422 Posts 6/20	Posted - Oct 12 2020 : 9:10AM AngryPirate wrote: I have had sex with a woman who happens to be a wheelchair user. We had really good chemistry and her weakened lower body mobility didn't get in the way of it. Click to expand That's cool [Link]
AngryPirate Senior Member 3210 Posts 8/17	Posted - Oct 12 2020 : 1:11PM ^^ Sorry for opening old wounds but did he clarify if that was because of your disability in itself or because he was worried what others would think of him having sex with a physically disabled person? [Link]
ShelbyGordan Deactivated User 422 Posts 6/20	Posted - Oct 12 2020 : 1:19PM AngryPirate wrote: ^^ Sorry for opening old wounds but did he clarify if that was because of your disability in itself or because he was worried what others would think of him having sex with a physically disabled person? Click to expand No it was a she that told me that. I don't think she clarified if it was either or, when someone says that to a person who has a physical disability it is pretty clear that having a disability is looked at in a negative light. [Link]
AngryPirate Senior Member 3210 Posts 8/17	Posted - Oct 12 2020 : 7:58PM ^ Apologies for my presumption of gender. I definitely wasn't trying to put a positive spin on their refusal. I just wondered if it was their "preference" or a concern of what others would think. As harsh as it sounds, I don't envy those with physical disabilities, especially those who have limited mobility. They're a marginalized group treated as if they're incapable of making adult decisions or unworthy being treated as adults. [Link]
Simple Simon Senior Member 12302 Posts 2/15	Posted - Oct 12 2020 : 9:32PM mykranili wrote: Its all about chemistry. Click to expand Chemistry [Link]
Simple Simon Senior Member 12302 Posts 2/15	Posted - Oct 12 2020 : 9:44PM ShelbyGordan wrote: unfortunately here in the USA I don't have that [sex worker] option. Click to expand Pardon my ignorance, but is sex work illegal in the United States? I was asking the question I asked based really on like amateur everyday people who have multiple partners they has sex with. With money not being involved whatsoever, just people who enjoy having sex without the need for someone to pay them. Click to expand Just because someone doesn't have a disability, doesn't automatically mean they are or can be having sex with multiple people whenever they like. [Link]
ShelbyGordan Deactivated User 422 Posts 6/20	Posted - Oct 12 2020 : 10:15PM AngryPirate wrote: ^ Apologies for my presumption of gender. I definitely wasn't trying to put a positive spin on their refusal. I just wondered if it was their "preference" or a concern of what others would think. As harsh as it sounds, I don't envy those with physical disabilities, especially those who have limited mobility. They're a marginalized group treated as if they're incapable of making adult decisions or unworthy being treated as adults. Click to expand It's all good I'm not offended at all. [Link]
ShelbyGordan Deactivated User 422 Posts 6/20	Posted - Oct 12 2020 : 10:18PM Simple Simon wrote: ShelbyGordan wrote: unfortunately here in the USA I don't have that [sex worker] option. Click to expand Pardon my ignorance, but is sex work illegal in the United States? I was asking the question I asked based really on like amateur everyday people who have multiple partners they has sex with. With money not being involved whatsoever, just people who enjoy having sex without the need for someone to pay them. Click to expand Just because someone doesn't have a disability, doesn't automatically mean they are or can be having sex with multiple people whenever they like. Click to expand Sex work is legal in only a few states and I live in a state where it is illegal. I'm not saying they can or are having sex with multiple people. I'm wanting to bring awareness to how hard it is for some with a disability to be looked at as humans when it comes to sex. People with disabilities are often looked over when it comes to sex. [Link]
Simple Simon Senior Member 12302 Posts 2/15	Posted - Oct 14 2020 : 2:01AM ^ With all due respect, I think most people are already aware of this. Life as a sex worker for people with disabilities People With Disability Have The Right To Sex "We argue that every adult, with a disability or not, has a human right to seek consensual sexual expression. Non-disabled people can masturbate, or find sexual partners, but for some people with disability, they don't have the same opportunities without access to sex work services. For too long the issue of disability and sexuality has been a taboo topic that was kept shrouded in a veil of secrecy or denial." I don't know about this. No one has a right to sex. [Link]

AngryPirate Senior Member 3210 Posts 8/17	Posted - Oct 14 2020 : 8:57AM ^ Yeah, that headline is suspect. It should have an asterisk with a footnote clarifying that by "sex" they mean being able to seek consensual sexual expression as PWD detailed in the rest of the article. A "right" to have sex sounds like affirmative consent from both/all parties is irrelevant. [Link]
ShelbyGordan Deactivated User 422 Posts 6/20	Posted - Oct 14 2020 : 10:25AM AngryPirate wrote: ^ Yeah, that headline is suspect. It should have an asterisk with a footnote clarifying that by "sex" they mean being able to seek consensual sexual expression as PWD detailed in the rest of the article. A "right" to have sex sounds like affirmative consent from both/all parties is irrelevant. Click to expand You are missing the point this is why I don't talk about this much. I'm asking those of you have are in open relationships or those who are single and don't mind having sex with men, women, or even transgender. Would you have sex with a person with a physical disability? So basically I'm saying those who don't really care or aren't picky about having sex with people as long as it safe sex and consensual would you have sex with a physically disabled person? That's what I'm asking!!!!! I'm not asking if you would do it for money I'm asking would you do it because you thought the person was attractive enough to have sex with and you really enjoy sex and can look past the disability and you also enjoy making people feel good sexually. [Link]
ShelbyGordan Deactivated User 422 Posts 6/20	Posted - Oct 14 2020 : 10:27AM I am not saying it is a human right for a person with a disability! You all are missing the point this is why I don't talk about this much. I'm asking those of you who are in open relationships or those who are single and don't mind having sex with men, women, or even transgender. Would you have sex with a person with a physical disability? So basically I'm saying those who don't really care or aren't picky about having sex with people as long as it safe sex and consensual would you have sex with a physically disabled person? That's what I'm asking!!!!! I'm not asking if you would do it for money I'm asking would you do it because you thought the person was attractive enough to have sex with and you really enjoy sex and can look past the disability and you also enjoy making people feel good sexually. [Link]
AngryPirate Senior Member 3210 Posts 8/17	Posted - Oct 14 2020 : 5:58PM Wow, who pissed in your corn flakes? I didn't miss the point. I responded to Simple Simon's comment agreeing that sex is a privilege between consenting adults, not a right as that clumsy headline was worded. Perhaps it's not clear but having given a previous affirmative answer that I have had an enjoyable sexual encounter with a woman who happened to use a wheelchair, I don't see a physical disability as a deal-breaker in itself. I prefer to look at the merits of the individual and her comfort in her own skin. If she's got major insecurities about her disability or the limitations it may place on her, that's more likely to put me off than her condition itself. [Link]
ShelbyGordan Deactivated User 422 Posts 6/20	Posted - Oct 14 2020 : 7:33PM AngryPirate wrote: Wow, who pissed in your corn flakes? I didn't miss the point. I responded to Simple Simon's comment agreeing that sex is a privilege between consenting adults, not a right as that clumsy headline was worded. Perhaps it's not clear but having given a previous affirmative answer that I have had an enjoyable sexual encounter with a woman who happened to use a wheelchair, I don't see a physical disability as a deal-breaker in itself. I prefer to look at the merits of the individual and her comfort in her own skin. If she's got major insecurities about her disability or the limitations it may place on her, that's more likely to put me off than her condition itself. Click to expand Sure [Link]
NymphGamerAddict Deactivated User 25 Posts 1/21	Posted - Jan 11 2021 : 4:25AM You'd be surprised to find out some woman have a fetish for this. Like blowing a guy in a wheelchair or hospital bed or riding a paraplegic. [Link]
ShelbyGordan Deactivated User 422 Posts 6/20	Posted - Jan 11 2021 : 1:21PM NymphGamerAddict wrote: You'd be surprised to find out some woman have a fetish for this. Like blowing a guy in a wheelchair or hospital bed or riding a paraplegic. Click to expand Well for one I am not a wheelchair user. I walk independently without assistance. I have a disability called spina bifida which I have a limp when I walk. Secondly I wouldn't want a woman to fuck because it's her fetish I would like her to fuck me because I'm attractive enough human being to have sex with. Living with a disability is such a disadvantage when it comes to sex and as well as dating. [Link]
AngryPirate Senior Member 3210 Posts 8/17	Posted - Jan 11 2021 : 2:15PM ^ I could be wrong but I thought that previous reply was only citing an example, not specifically limiting physical disability to wheelchair users. [Link]
Simple Simon Senior Member 12302 Posts 2/15	Posted - Jan 12 2021 : 12:27AM ShelbyGordan wrote: I'm wanting to bring awareness to how hard it is for some with a disability to be looked at as humans when it comes to sex. People with disabilities are often looked over when it comes to sex. Click to expand Living with a disability is such a disadvantage when it comes to sex and as well as dating. Click to expand ShelbyGordon, with utmost respect, I think most people are well aware of this. Along with being fully-abled, in modern western society there's a perception that only young, attractive and middle-class plus people are sexual. I find it amusing that porn is often blamed for this. When I was in high-school, the idea that an old, or unattractive, or fat, or poor person was sexual was hilarious. [Link]
NymphGamerAddict Deactivated User 25 Posts 1/21	Posted - Jan 12 2021 : 9:29AM ^^^ Sorry didn't mean to offend, was just saying that I knew of woman who really like this particular fetish. In fact old aged homes are another fetish for somegirls. [Link]

Simple Simon Senior Member 12302 Posts 2/15	Posted - Feb 3 2021 : 3:15AM Government plans to ban sexual services from (National Disability Insurance Scheme) Government Services Minister Stuart Robert plans to prevent NDIS funds being used on sexual therapy, which was not explicitly banned under the taxpayer-funded scheme. Mr Robert said the amendment would limit the definition of "reasonable and necessary" services to exclude specialised sex work. "The Commonwealth has never paid for prostitutes, it has never used taxpayers' money and nor have the states and territories," Click to expand [ACT Health Minister wrote:]"We recognise that sex and intimacy are part of an 'ordinary life' and reject the view that people with disability should not be entitled to enjoy this aspect of life." Click to expand [Link]
Zingerbrook Member 580 Posts 3/17	Posted - Feb 4 2021 : 9:29PM I've never met a woman with a physical disability before. If we clicked in a chemistry sort of way, yes I'd be in. If we didn't click in that way but we were friends, and if she asked me, and explained the challenges...yes...but I would want to sort out the potential emotions first. [Link]
Simple Simon Senior Member 12302 Posts 2/15	Posted - Mar 24 2021 : 5:37PM 'Dating with a disability is like entering a lottery that you know you'll never win.' "Lucky for me though, the only sort of men that seem to 'accept' my photos showing my disability, are overtly creepy. To these men, I seem to be an exotic animal. I am sure it isn't a surprise to you that I'm not thrilled to be treated like a piece of meat. I quickly get that ick feeling in my stomach. My head and heart are on the same page. BLOCK HIM. When the photos of your disability only seem to attract creeps on the internet, finding a nice 'normal' guy seems impossible." [Link]