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jacklynee
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Posted - Jul 22 2012 : 7:01AM
Hello ,
I am not a swinger or anything like that but i would like to know if their are any real swinger clubs for single male who can go and have fun with females
Not bi or gay just like girls but i have 3some once and it was great 2 guys 1 girl
Thanks
stinkfist
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Posted - Jul 23 2012 : 5:38PM
Are you in the UK.
jacklynee
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Posted - Jul 23 2012 : 6:07PM
USA
Wasn't aware that this forums is from uk
stinkfist
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Posted - Jul 23 2012 : 6:25PM
The forums here at ADT have posters from all over,from Austraila to Scotland :)
dnice
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Posted - Jul 23 2012 : 8:15PM
its called a whore house
 
jacklynee
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Posted - Jul 25 2012 : 3:36PM
I know their are real swinger clubs but I am just un aware of it
Need to find one that all
UrbanDervesh
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Posted - Jul 25 2012 : 6:05PM
Such clubs are usually location specific, so if you provide more color on where you are looking, perhaps I could be of help.
More generally, clubs that accept single men are rare. And those that do so are highly selective. In many instances a single man would need to be introduced to such a club or he would need to have access to an exceptional facility where on location parties can be held or provide a generous donation towards the cost of running the club or hosting a specific part. Essentially, you either need to have VIP privileges thru your network or be able buy your way in... Sad as I is, this is a reality that confronts single make players in the swinging community.
If you are interested in pursuing this further then I would suggest one of two approaches. One, you could sign up for a website like ashleymadison. This would give you access to sexually liberal women who may be open to being in a 'lavender' relationship with you to go to swinger parties as long as you bear all expenses. Two, you could sign up for a swinger site like swappernet, which has info on local gb groups and parties. You may also find yourself enjoying MFM 3sums if you play your cards right.
Let me know if you need more location specific assistance--happy to help out if I can.
jacklynee
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Posted - Jul 25 2012 : 7:32PM
Hi
It seems you know what you talking about so now is their is a way I can sent u personal notes or pm or do you want me to just update this post ? I will give both suggestions so thoughts and get back to you
Thank you
UrbanDervesh
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Posted - Jul 26 2012 : 6:12AM
I don't get private messages here. Long story...
Why don't we exchange thoughts here as it may engender a good discussion and we all may learn from each other. :-)
PS: I type on my iPad so apologies for all the typos.
jacklynee
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Posted - Jul 26 2012 : 11:55AM
Hello UrbanDervesh ,
Thanks for the reply back so, i live in USA , CA , San Diego Area. now for all of us to learn from the fourms we going to need to be more clear here so i will answer all of your questions one by one
More generally, clubs that accept single men are rare ??
Totally agree however the reason i ask for swinger clubs is because it is difficult for me to find a women to be a sex friend a FWB or meet a few womens to have threesome or fun.
I really dont care about nude bars or swinger clubs i just thought Swingers might be an easy way to meet new people
One, you could sign up for a website like ashleymadison ??? Are these sites real ? i know long time ago i paid for Adult sex finder and no luck nothing happens and i paid for dating sites including Plenty of fish nothing happen so unless these sites are real with real women who respond and mybe meet for coffee paying for sites will be useless. i am if anyone know few good sites that actual people meet for sex and fun i am sure all of us will join such sites
Two, you could sign up for a swinger site like swappernet, which has info on local gb groups and parties. You may also find yourself enjoying MFM 3sums if you play your cards right ??? now did anyone actaully sing up with swappernet ?
You may also find yourself enjoying MFM 3sums if you play your cards right ?
so how to do that i am not sure and how to play cards right ? i gues that where is the problems
Thank you

UrbanDervesh
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Posted - Jul 26 2012 : 2:40PM
Ok, please let me begin with a few general thoughts and then I will move to specifics...
Swingers are not necessarily easy lays. Just because this is a group of people who are liberal about their sexuality doesn't mean that you can assume that they will just fuck anything that walks. :) In fact, I would even argue that finding a couple for an MFM is probably harder than finding a single female for sex. Just think about it from a numbers perspective: almost all single adult women have a need for sex, a need that they will most likely satisfy by either finding a steady mate or, perhaps, occasionally a shorter term sexual interaction, e.g., a one night stand, a FWB situation etc, Now compare that to the situation of a couple that is sexually active. They don't have that burning need to fuck coz they are getting it from each other as it is. A small fraction of such couples will allow their sexual need for other partners to be expressed. But again, most of these people are still getting some measure of regular sex so they are not that desperate. Therefore, I think that it would be difficult to convince a couple to make you their 3rd wheel as compared to convincing a single girl who needs sex but is not getting it in the context of a normal relationship.
That said, I have personally tried both the sites I suggested. AM has some bots but there is a way to screen them out, which I will share with you in a later post. Personally, I have had good succes with AM over the past 5 years in finding FBs. I found one in Hawaii for a few weeks--an Oder but super fit blonde realtor who I had the pleasure of introducing to anal sex, a regular FB in Boston who is in a sexless marriage, a woman in NYC who is married to a man who enjoys hearing about her adventures--she even had him on the phone as I came inside her, and several one night stands. Lately I have been fucking an Irani woman who loves to have bareback sex and wants to be dped--we both got tested prior to indulging in bareback play.
As for SN, I am a lifetime member. I have met 9 couples from SN as a single male and 4 as a couple when I was attached. Of the 9, I had at least a one night stand with 8 and had long term relationships with 2. One couple was in Western MA, and enjoyed a vanilla 3sum every month or so. The other one lived near Hartford and was really kinky. They wanted me to have a one on one relationship with the woman, have me hang around their house with family members etc as a friend, but then sneak away and fill her up with my cum so the hubby could get off thinking about how his wife just got fucked while he was watching football with the family. LoL Fun times. ;)
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Posted - Jul 26 2012 : 3:04PM
Now to your point about looking at the swinger community and-or finding a FB, my suggestion would be to become a bit of a player. The 64 thousand dollar question is, how? Well, here are some thoughts...
Workout: I don't know if you are in shape or not, but having a sexy body helps a lot in many ways. For one, you will be more attractive, but also you will actually feel more confident and energized, which most women find sexy. If you are like me and don't like hitting the gym, then I suggest pick up a sport or a martial art and do it at least 3-4 times a week for one hour.
Read a good newspaper: again, i dont know if you do or not, but reading something like the Economist or the NYT over a few months gives one a wealth of knowledge and also equips one with the ability to express ideas. Women love intelligence and awareness, but don't over do it and don't come across as a know it all either.
Dress well: find a buddy or better a buddy's gf or wife to go shopping with you.
Hang around women in a social context: make friends with girls wo any expectation of sex etc. I would even suggest hanging out with female colleagues, friends' wives-gfs, female family members etc. to learn about women, how they think, what is important to them, what are the issues that occupy their minds at different points in their lives, etc. This will also make you confident about dealing with women. A funny story: a super hot female colleague of mine who was engaged at the time invited me to her engagement party. I couldn't go so in response invited her and her fiancé out for dinner. On the dinner night, he couldn't make it so it was just her and myself. After she drank 3 glasses of wine and I had about the same, the conversation somehow turned to massages. She said that her fiancé hated massages and she loved them. I told her I was very good at giving them and would be happy to fill in for him when she needed one. I went to drop her home, and popped in to see the guy for a min. He had not come back yet. She offered to make me coffee as I had a long drive ahead of me. As the coffee was brewing I was standing behind her and began massaging her neck... One thing led to another and later on, during one of our future trysts she told me how she took her fiance's cock into the same pussy that I had fucked just hours before that night. ;)
Other tips, drink lots of water, keep alcohol use-smoking low or nil, use very little but a very high quality cologne on your body every day, keep mints handy, keep your hair and nails clean...
There is a lot more, obviously, that one can say about attitude but in general humility, awareness, empathy, smiles, eye contact etc. are all good. Being too aggressive, cocky, rude, stingy, not so much.
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Posted - Jul 26 2012 : 3:12PM
Should you decide on pursuing the online options, please do reach out. I will be happy to provide you with some approach messages and tips that have worked for me and alert you to what has not.
Finally, I know quite a bit about the NE and mid-West swinger scene, but I don't know much about CA. That said, I am sure others on the board can assist you. And as I said before, SN should open up some possibilities for you in that regard too.
Cheers,
UD
jacklynee
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Posted - Jul 26 2012 : 3:13PM
Hello ,
Understood so i can try which ever methods you recommand and now you know where i am located only thinkg is i am not white or black guy am half india from india and half arabian so mybe that could be a turn off for women ??? i am 32 but i am slim 160 pounds and black hair and brown eye and 5.11 tall
Please advise
Thank you
UrbanDervesh
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Posted - Jul 26 2012 : 3:20PM
Yeah, I am south Asian too, though not from India. (think nuclear neighbors! LoL)
Honestly, just work on improving yourself, being fun, genuinely good, and sex, money, success--all of that will follow.
If I were in your situation, I would may be try to join a tantric yoga group or something where Indians are in a way, expected. I have been on some of these tantric yoga retreats at galiana outside NYC, where the head of sovereign research from a major investment banks just walked up to an Indian guy who was playing the role of Shiva in an earlier puja and just stuck her tongue down his throat. I watched them have sex, er, i mean pray, later that night...;)
Don't worry too much about racism etc. just be cool and constantly try to make ur self as well as the world around u better. Succes in all realms will follow.
 
jacklynee
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Posted - Jul 26 2012 : 3:28PM
Hello
Thanks for the up and help I will try to bring some changes to my self
But it will be hard I Gerneraily find women not interested in me
Now I am not fully Indian only have so Orginally I am Arabic
So their is religion thing where people might not like
Now I don't know how to be fun I am not very good at making people lough
So that could be a nagitive point
Anyway going back to Orginal topic
So for me and other guys who want to try 3somes and meet couples and single female
What will be the next step ?
I am going check meetup.com for yoga and trantic practice
As a start
Thank you
UrbanDervesh
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Posted - Jul 26 2012 : 4:09PM
I am no expert, but based on what has worked for me, I would say pursue things in parallel. Starting working out or martial arts or sports, start making changes to your wardrobe, hang out with female friends, etc. and at he same time, put out an ad on a regular dating site like match.com or something. As I said, it is easier to have a vanilla relationship compared to sex-based FWB type relationship. Try to write meaningful responses to girls who you find attractive and ask them out for coffee or dinner. The over time, once you have your game figured out, go into the swinging arena.
When signing up for match or something like that, make sure you put in pics of yourself doing interesting things...for example, 8 pics that show you: hiking in the desert, playing some sport, In a foreign country doing something different like buying fresh fish but dressed as an American, with mixed male and female friends at a bar, playing chess or some brainy game, playing with a pet, at the beach in sunglasses but with a t shirt, with family including a couple of females...would convey a nice message.
In your self description, try to use few words but make them count. Something like...
I am a fun loving, intellectually curious, liberal and physically active guy into movies, dancing, eating out and traveling. I recently moved to this are and am looking for a sweet and smart girl who wouldn't mind showing me the sights and having some fun. :)
When you search for women, remember that single mothers have a hard time dating so you may want to write to them. But also remember they don't have much time and that there are a million like you writing to them, so to stand out you need to have a nicely written message without grammatical mistakes or typos. Likewise, women who identify themselves as being a few lbs overweight are probably easier lays than the super fit ones for obvious reasons. On the message itself, I would suggest starting with a pre-written bullet points that are well structured but then customizing the message using words from the profile of the girl you are approaching as your message will come across as a bit more familiar to her.
As for your heritage/race, start thinking of it as a unique asset of yours as opposed to a liability. No body cares about your religion if you don't push it down other people's throats. And if some girl is too concerned about that, the forget about her...there are other fish in the pond. there is no need to bring it up, but if it comes up, just be matter of fact about it. No big deal.
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Posted - Jul 26 2012 : 4:19PM
Also, when you swing, try to use a different name, phone number, etc. I even try not to take my hookups to my place. Back in the day, it was easier for me as I had a studio apt and I used to move every 6 months to a year but now it is difficult as I have a house. But I make a lot more money now compared to back then so I can afford a pre-paid cell phone, a rental car here and there if needed, a hotel room, etc.
As a point of reference, the Irani woman I have been fucking doesn't know my real name or where I live. What she knows about my work is a slight variation on what I do, so I can keep it real. I hate lying to her but I feel that is what I need to do in order to protect myself should things go awry.
But of course, a legit gf is a different matter. You want to be honest w her and connect with her at a different deeper level....
The best situation, of course, is when your gf is also your fb and also the mother of your children and your BFF. :) I had that too, but she passed away...anyhow that is a different story,
jacklynee
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Posted - Jul 27 2012 : 1:28AM
Hello ,
ashleymadison.com
Is asking me to pay money to view messages and other stuff and it is all based on credit not fees like other vip sites do
please advise
Thanks
UrbanDervesh
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Posted - Jul 27 2012 : 6:24AM
I always get 200 credits at AM. Their system is weird but your credits don't expire.
Just so you know, when I send messages, I don't select the priority message option as it charges 5 extra credits; neither do I send my key to private pics. I usually add the women I like to my favorites one day as that generates a free message to them telling them that they have an admirer. Then a day or two later, I follow up with a real message using the same method that I described for match.com etc: expand on a core of bullet points using words from the profile of the lady who has piqued your interest.
I have a cool pic of myself swimming underwater that obscures my face naturally as I have a snorkel/mask on, but it shows my body etc as I am in my rash guard (a tight swimming to designed for surfers). In my actual profile, I have other pics that sort of follow the logic I described in an earlier post.
Last point that comes to mind, there are some prostitutes and even bots (fake profiles) on AM. These are usually identified by one or more of the following: always online in terms of presence, have sexy face pics or fullbdy bikini shots w face as their profile pic, identify themselves as single females. Another thing to be careful about on AM is that sometimes bots will write to you and you may not be able to tell that from the message coz it is so well written. The way Id these is that the bot Meg's don't usually respond to specific questions but rather try to collect your info or get you to join other sites. Obviously, you want to avoid all this crap.
In time this will become second nature to u and u will be able use the site very effectively. Hope this helps. Cheers!
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Posted - Jul 27 2012 : 6:34AM
I should've also said that I wait for someone to ask for my key or send it after I have already recd one. I am careful about not using my name and number on AM. If the lady I am interested in, has a key, I definitely ask forit. :)
You can sign up for a google voice number under a new gmail account if u don't want a second phone. Just add the google voice app to ur blackberry, iPhone or android device and u will have a second free number on ur phone. Make sure u learn how to use the app properly to make sure u know how to call from that number and also how to text from it too. It is a bit complex, at least for me :)
jacklynee
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Posted - Jul 27 2012 : 3:24PM
So in reality how much is 200 credit ? And how long can you use it ?
Thanks
UrbanDervesh
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Posted - Jul 27 2012 : 3:49PM
I never check how much they charge me. :)
I dont think they expore.
jacklynee
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Posted - Jul 29 2012 : 12:07PM
Hello.
so you set your account to automatic update or pr paid at 200 credits like sykpee so you have no idea how much in dollars it cost $200 credit ?? just wanted to know if it is 100 usd a month or 29.99
Thanks
Rubberhole
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Posted - Jul 30 2012 : 9:07AM
all this just to get laid...it sucks at times being a guy...
 
UrbanDervesh
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Posted - Jul 30 2012 : 9:48AM
Yes, that is what i normally do.
UrbanDervesh
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Posted - Jul 30 2012 : 9:52AM
LoL, you have a point there!
However, the suggestions provided above also help in making a guy more interesting, fun and self confident. These things normally correlate with success in other dimensions of one's life, which, for a sexually aggressive and liberal single guy, also include getting laid often. Views?
jacklynee
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Posted - Jul 31 2012 : 2:38PM
Hello UrbanDervesh,
so i waited for few days to respond back just to make sure we cover all bases as far this topic goes but i would like to say thank you for so much informations you provided
answe part 1:
Sorgarding approaches One " ashleymadison " so as you know i singup for this site but i am on free account which mean i cant do anything until i pay them first. now i dont mind paying if i can find results but as you pointed out before i dont have good pictures and i dont know how to get some good looking pictures of mine. the second problem is proper writing which i am not good at but i can try. I guess to all other guys who wanna learn about this site make sure you have everything in proper place before you sgin up and pay becaue the clock starts as soon you create your paid accont.
Now i am guessing " ashleymadison " based on what you said: "This would give you access to sexually liberal women who may be open to being in a 'lavender' relationship with you to go to swinger parties as long as you bear all expenses."
so this will be a place to meet women to be friends with or take them to party or hang out based on your discriptions or if i play may cards right i might get lucky with some actions. please correct me if i am wrong ? also what kind of pic i need to post ?

Two, you could sign up for a swinger site like swappernet, which has info on local gb groups and parties. You may also find yourself enjoying MFM 3sums if you play your cards right ??? ok i sign up into this site for free too but they want money too so i guess get money first then pic and then make profile look nice then pay the site and then send messages to other members
i trust you have tried this site also and got luck ?

Why don't we exchange thoughts here as it may engender a good discussion and we all may learn from each other. :-) ?? well that what we are going to do to learn and thank you for help bro

Swingers are not necessarily easy lays ?? True and i agree with you
Just because this is a group of people who are liberal about their sexuality doesn't mean that you can assume that they will just fuck anything that walks. :) In fact, I would even argue that finding a couple for an MFM is probably harder than finding a single female for sex.
At this point both sound like impossible to find couples or single females so it really does not matter i guess

Just think about it from a numbers perspective: almost all single adult women have a need for sex, a need that they will most likely satisfy by either finding a steady mate or, perhaps, occasionally a shorter term sexual interaction, e.g., a one night stand, a FWB situation etc, Now compare that to the situation of a couple that is sexually active. They don't have that burning need to fuck coz they are getting it from each other as it is. A small fraction of such couples will allow their sexual need for other partners to be expressed. But again, most of these people are still getting some measure of regular sex so they are not that desperate. Therefore, I think that it would be difficult to convince a couple to make you their 3rd wheel as compared to convincing a single girl who needs sex but is not getting it in the context of a normal relationship.
You concept is 100 correct that why i am writing this post in this way so i can learn and other too

That said, I have personally tried both the sites I suggested. AM has some bots but there is a way to screen them out, which I will share with you in a later post. Personally, I have had good succes with AM over the past 5 years in finding FBs.
So both sites are paid sites and you got lucky but you have good profile and you have good communications skills but never the less both site are not scam and people are almost real
I found one in Hawaii for a few weeks--an Oder but super fit blonde realtor who I had the pleasure of introducing to anal sex, a regular FB in Boston who is in a sexless marriage, a woman in NYC who is married to a man who enjoys hearing about her adventures--she even had him on the phone as I came inside her, and several one night stands. Lately I have been fucking an Irani woman who loves to have bareback sex and wants to be dped--we both got tested prior to indulging in bareback play.
Based on all stories seems like their is chance to meet woemn in both site or meet couples or even friends to hangout Not like Plenty of Fish or mathmaker or aduld sex finder where you try and try and try and no luck
so question: bareback sex and wants to be dped ??? what is bareback sex ??? and what is dped ??
As for SN, I am a lifetime member. I have met 9 couples from SN as a single male and 4 as a couple when I was attached. Of the 9, I had at least a one night stand with 8 and had long term relationships with 2. One couple was in Western MA, and enjoyed a vanilla 3sum every month or so. The other one lived near Hartford and was really kinky. They wanted me to have a one on one relationship with the woman, have me hang around their house with family members etc as a friend, but then sneak away and fill her up with my cum so the hubby could get off thinking about how his wife just got fucked while he was watching football with the family. LoL Fun times. ;)
so that expain the second questions about singer club site and it works fine for you
my suggestion would be to become a bit of a player. The 64 thousand dollar question is, how? Well, here are some thoughts...
well here is little problem with me personaly and with other guys also .. i am shy , suffer from anty attacks and fear and i feel scared and most of the time i am kinda lost. i am talking theropy now and i just quit smoking so i am not sure if i will be able to be scssfull but i have low self steam propblem and i have this sound in my head saying i will fail and i wont be able to do it. i get nervious around women and i dont know what to say and i dont know what to do.
it is very difficult to make friends forget about girls as friend , i dont even have co-work friends guys so girls for sure wont go out for drink with me ?
In few i will update the rest of the post with my answer

jacklynee
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Posted - Jul 31 2012 : 3:10PM
Hi
So just to be clear the goals here are to make friends
Meet new people , girls and guys and extend my network
So I can have fun and get laid from time to time or meet women's and chill with them and their company
Thanks
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Posted - Aug 1 2012 : 12:57AM
Yeah, just chillax, invest in yourself, be happy and try to make others happy... At the same time, keep up your game and you will be getting laid like no body's business.
Re money, you have to get membership on these sites man. Or others like them, for that matter. But understand that no one wants to see their wife or gf fucked by some bad smelling guy with dirty nails, a pot belly and bad grammar. Bring out the suave and play it cool.
Not sure why, but in your case it seems like a good martial arts school would be a solid starting point. Take it from there.
jacklynee
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Posted - Aug 1 2012 : 1:31AM
Hello,
just trying to quit smoking now and joining a thi chie group in meetup.com
i guess i can get good pictures and then update my profile in thos sites and go from their
while i am still talking theropy some activity will help
Thanks for the advise i will keep trying thanks
jacklynee
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Posted - Aug 1 2012 : 9:28PM
Hello UrbanDervesh,
so regarding those dating sites
1- can i put nude pic ?
2- how can i get a beach pic with do or family or girls if i dont have any friends ?
3- i am going to need someone to help me properly write my profile because my english is every bad
4- do i have to take any of the girls to date or the girls know what i mean and want ??
5- finally how can i sprate spammers and scam and fake and bots from real people in dating sites ??
Please advise
Thank you
jacklynee
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Posted - Aug 2 2012 : 9:19AM
hello everyone,
Time to come clean and be honest with everyone here. it seems this fourm has really nice people so i be honest jack lynee is not my real name nor any other names i use in fourms
i am half Arabic and half Indian from India so it is about 75%/25% kindda as i said before
i am 31 going to 32 in few months i am slim 170 pounds brown eyes , black hair , 5.11 ,, brown color
I do live in san diego CA in USA but i was not bron in usa so i been in us for 10 years but i am citizen
English is my second language or third so my writing skills very trouble and we could say my English speaking is trouble also which i guess is a big NO or a turn off to alot of American women
I am average guy with very low self stream no confident and suffer from fear and anxiety and stay off the reality but i am talking therapy which is helping me a lot actually but it is slow prossces
I am married but i am not in love with my wife , i am not even enjoying her company or sex or anything. i want to devoirce and move on but i am so so scared of what going to happen to her and to me if we spate
i dont want to leave her in street nor want to end up in street because of my fear issue i dont have friends in usa.
i am very poor person and i dont have any family or support in usa so you can say i am alone in this counrty and in my own
i make more money then she do so i pay all the bills and i am worried and scared and full of fear what will happen but in same time i cant live my life like this
in the past i used to go online chat and have webcam sex with girls but it is really not working out and now i am trying to improve my self make real friends and meet women and be good before i can move on but again fear is in my way of dataing or meeting women for sex
so what should i do ??? Any advise
Thank you very much
Breeze
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Posted - Aug 3 2012 : 3:36AM
This is fucked up, dude, you are married, low self esteem. First thing you need to do is work on your self esteem. That is the only advice I can give you.
jacklynee
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Posted - Aug 3 2012 : 8:40AM
Hello,
I know but every body saying work on it but no one saying how to work on self steam or communicate better or how to stop the sound in my head that comes when i am trying to read a book or do a big task ? sound that say you will fail ??
I really dont want to be scared 24/7 and live in fear , shame , proverty and poornes and not be presents
Thank you
 
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Posted - Aug 3 2012 : 9:33AM
I agree with Breeze that this is messed up. If you are married then you may wanna try to spice things up with your wife first. But i dont know enough about your situation to meaningfully comment on this issue.
If you look at the suggestions that I provided earlier, you will note that the strategic approach is to build yourself and find happiness in yourself and whatever you do first, then begin your journey of sensual explorarion. If martial arts, books, good company etc doesnt do that for you then you may consider seeking formal counseling.
jacklynee
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Posted - Aug 3 2012 : 3:08PM
Hello
That why I am been honest with you guys so anyway my married is over
I am with her for right now only but soon I will go in my way
Two people mismatch bad combo but I am working on the advance
Sort guys but really thank you
jacklynee
Member

100 Posts
7/12
Posted - Aug 4 2012 : 1:36AM
Hello,
i am trying to change my motives and meet new people so pls understand my point
anyway in dating site i added alot of new pic's but how do i know which one are real people and which one are fake ?
Thanks
jacklynee
Member

100 Posts
7/12
Posted - Aug 4 2012 : 3:16PM
Hello ,
I sign up for swappernet golden paid service but i am still not sure what i am doing
please advise
Thank you
His Dudeness
All Business

Shut the fuck up, Donny!!
2793 Posts
4/10
Posted - Aug 4 2012 : 8:09PM
+1
shank
Member

119 Posts
2/09
Posted - Aug 5 2012 : 10:31AM
I have a married friend in the merchant navy who had some experience with swingers clubs and he says the women who comes to swingers clubs are usually pressurized by their husbands and have low interest in sex with other guys. Some women desire sex with other women, but not random men. If you are a single guy its tough luck, theres no 'free sex'. Your best bet is to go to escorts.
jacklynee
Member

100 Posts
7/12
Posted - Aug 5 2012 : 11:33AM
Hi
True True but it does not mean their is no hope or luck also i am still not very clear with
1- ashley madison credit system does not make sense + no reply from support
2- Arablounge.com not sure if it worth it or not
3- booty on call is giving a way life time gold membership for $ 60 got it but so far nothing
4- POF Plenty of fish ... Never got lucky
5- adult friend finder same thing had golden account but no actions
6- CL Crigslist in CA no luck
so i guess we all can try right
jacklynee
Member

100 Posts
7/12
Posted - Aug 6 2012 : 1:15AM
No luck so far in dating site or swinger club results are same as pof
alot of people look or view my profile but no response
Thanks
RandomPrecision
Senior Member

Enjoy!
8175 Posts
3/06
Posted - Aug 6 2012 : 9:16PM
I wouldn't bother looking for swingers. They usually don't want anything to do with single males.
jacklynee
Member

100 Posts
7/12
Posted - Aug 7 2012 : 9:12AM
Hello,
well swinger clubs are not working for any single male but also non swinger sites like ashly medison and other kind too
Thanks
Breeze
Member

One Smokin Hot Chic
532 Posts
11/08
Posted - Aug 10 2012 : 1:14AM
I hate to burst your bubble, but I think you should work on your marriage before trying all these sites. The sites you mentioned more than likely work, but you have a total lack of self confidence. If you are just looking for sex check out ..."Behind the Green Door" in Los Vegas. You will get laid there.
jacklynee
Member

100 Posts
7/12
Posted - Aug 22 2012 : 1:12AM
UrbanDervesh,
I am having trouble with Ashly medison site not able to find women and i was hoping if you could help
Thanks
UrbanDervesh
Member

Sextatic
93 Posts
11/11
Posted - Aug 28 2012 : 1:12AM
Sorry, been away. Will try to log in tomorrow and see if I can assist you.
UD
jacklynee
Member

100 Posts
7/12
Posted - Aug 28 2012 : 3:38AM
Hi no worries
Thanks
UrbanDervesh
Member

Sextatic
93 Posts
11/11
Posted - Aug 30 2012 : 6:32AM
Of the sites you listed, I used CL back in the day with good results but since then it is almost all bots. So I didn't go there.
As for AM, it has it's fair share of bots and escorts/prostitutes too, but over time you kinda develop the ability to steer away from those ads. Some things I look for are: I) photos-they shouldn't be there or they should be blurred as no one who is actually cheating wants to ided; II) names like sugarbaby or sugarloaf or Daddyseeker imply arrangement seekers who want money in exchange for sex; iii) ads should be filled out with some detail.
There are other factors but I think I will reserve them for my book, the ultimate guide to cheating. LoL
UD
UrbanDervesh
Member

Sextatic
93 Posts
11/11
Posted - Sep 1 2012 : 11:17AM
On the broader issue of your need to get laid, as Breeze said, work on your confidence and try taking steps along the lines of my earlier posts. That approach will help you improve your life more generally, which will also make you more attractive to women.
I said this before, swingers are not sex starved people looking for just someone to fuck. They are normally highly sexual and one minded individuals who are a bit non-traditional. In fact, you stand a better chance of scoring with a single girl off, say match.com, than to find a couple where the guy will watch you fuck his wife. For reasons, see my earlier posts.
Your best bet is to work on your relationship. If you think that is a no go, then end it and move on. In moving on, develop a strategy that will help you improve yourself overall with sexual needs not as the primary focus but a part of the whole.
Simply put, you kinda need to reinvent yourself. It's as simple as that, but I will say that it is easier said than done!
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