Well it would be a big deal if people who wanted to work with you started to cancel because they were afraid it would have negative ramifications for their careers. There are plenty of men and women I have no interest in working in, that was never the problem for me. The problem is that people who do work with me are terrified it will end their career. There is a pervasive culture of hatred when it comes to trans and bi performers. I'm sorry comparing people not wanting to work with you because you are BBW is very different, nobody is going to blacklist people who work with you because they are afraid of HIV.
If you don't break the rules, you'll never have any fun! 717 Posts 10/06
Posted - Nov 18 2009 : 3:13PM
^^ I was not making that comparison. As I mentioned early in my post, I noted there was a near hatred of men who were Bi or Bi-Curious within the swing lifestyle. Maybe I did not present myself well there..I was trying to say I saw no reason for it. And again, I said that people will eventually work with who they want to. Now with that said, I'd be happy to work with you. XO Mindee
That's cool. It is so easy to misinterpret what someone writes on the internet. Whenever I try and interact with people from the het site of the industry I feel like a cat with its hair standing on end ready to bare my claws at any moment.
Who cares about hypocrisy anyway? Hypocrisy is among the least significant moral failings on the planet. Focus on something more important, like cruelty or injustice.
pornography wasn't sex but fantasies of an impossibly hospitable world 12377 Posts 9/07
Posted - Nov 19 2009 : 12:44AM
Yeah, but lesbianism is outright encouraged. Just one reason I never was too impressed with many of those in the 'swingers' lifestyle, on the surface a lot of those involved pretend to be 'radical' but underneath it they are far more conservative than they will admit.
If you don't break the rules, you'll never have any fun! 717 Posts 10/06
Posted - Nov 19 2009 : 8:36AM
^^^ I fully agree, and another thing I found out, is that despite all their loud protestations to the contrary, they practiced safe sex as diligently as my kid practiced the piano!
How could your parents castrate you at a young age? How did they know you will be ok with that once you become an adult? Doesn't being castrated mean that you can't achieve erection or cum anymore? From what I heard you fuck girls too, so how do you manage to get that erection?
Some girls refused to work with him at the beginning but he doesn't find it hard to get work anymore. It seems like everybody is ok with him now. There aren't that many popular girls who haven't fucked him. He is a solid performer.
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lack100 Deactivated User
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Posted - Dec 6 2009 : 9:25PM
^^^No there are plenty of women who still refuse to work with him and he will tell you.
Yeah but there are those that do. He's not lacking for work, just look at his blog from last year. It balances itself out it seems. Anyway i'm sure there are other guys on a lot of no lists, its just CXXX puts his business out there. ----Dread----
Who do you guys think will break the record for being on the most "No lists" ? It's more likely some old, dorky and ugly dude. On the other hand I doubt Manuel and Peter North are on anybody's no list. Edited by - Blicky25 on 12/6/2009 10:04:31 PM
Not a shred of evidence exists in favor of the idea that life is serious - Brendan Gill 723 Posts 4/09
Posted - Dec 7 2009 : 11:59AM
Why is it that everybody, including us, here on ADT, gets to do pretty much what we like, when we like, with whom we like, and for whatever reason we like (within the law, of course}, and wouldn't stand for having to explain our choices, but people in the porn business get criticized, called hypocrites, and worse because they won't fuck guys who fuck guys, or they won't do IR or don't do anal, or won't get a tattoo or I don't know what all? In this case, what girl in her right mind WOULD fuck a guy who did gay stuff? People in porn do not 'get tested all the time.' They get tested mandatorily once a month, which means there is a period between tests of from about 19 to thirty days during which they could become infected and infect others before they tested positive. Add to this AIM's less than exemplary record for accuracy and candor, and a statistically significant prevalence of HIV infection among gay males, and it's not hypocisy, it just good sense. But all this aside, what the hell business is it of ours what porn actors choose to do, any more than it's their business what we choose to do? Fucking on camera doesn't obligate them to explain or justify anything to anybody.
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LLvladk Deactivated User
121 Posts 10/09
Posted - Dec 7 2009 : 12:29PM
That is what happens when you become a public figure Do you think if a regular person cheats on his wife and crashes his SUV while being chased by her...that will become a story? That is a private matter but when you put yourself in the public, people will get in your business. Any pornstar who has some restrictions and doesn't expect her fans to question her is VERY NAIVE...it's also her god given right NOT TO ANSWER. I personally don't care if someone does Christianx or not. I'm sure Christianx doesn't care if someone has restrictions based on race and Lex also doesn't care who has restrictions based on sexual orientations. Fans come in all size and shape...the ones who love anal will ask why their favorite girls don't do anal, those who love IR will ask why their favorites won't do it. The same goes with Dp, facial, and others. That is just how it's. I don't think this will ever change. Edited by - Llvladk on 12/7/2009 12:38:24 PM
^^ I think anybody concerned about social justice questions human motive, including their own - this doesn't mean attacking individuals, but it does mean considering choices people make, stereotypes, assumptions about certain groups of people etc., why we think the way we do, and how to try to resolve some of these issues.
Two women getting it on is awesome, two guys getting it on is gross. In fact, they should ban any porn that has more than one guy in it, period. Gangbangs (or any other porn scene with more than one guy) make my skin crawl.
Not a shred of evidence exists in favor of the idea that life is serious - Brendan Gill 723 Posts 4/09
Posted - Dec 9 2009 : 10:33AM
Why should they be punished? Pitied, maybe, puzzled over, okay. But their prefernces aren't hurting anybody, as if they were pedophiles or rapists. If we start punishing people for sexual fantasies, everybody's in trouble
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Clam Digger Deactivated User
Many a man fails as an original thinker simply because his memory is too good. 2268 Posts 1/05
Posted - Dec 9 2009 : 12:23PM
Are female performers, who refuse to do scat scenes guilty of discriminating against shit heads?
Sorry, that was a bit vague on my part. My parents didn't castrate me, a doctor did, and legally I was an adult, looking back I feel I was pretty young when I made the decision to do it. I'm glad I did, but I was just in a really different place in my life at the time. Castration is removal of the testes, which does not keep me from getting wood. It does mean that my body is not producing significant amounts of testosterone. How I manage to get a boner, is I get turned on, or if I'm not turned on I have help from Pfizer.
Agreed, I have no interest in attacking anyone individually for their stance on the issue. I just wish people would stop perpetuating stereotypes that are not true. My AIM test is just as valid as anyone elses and my lifestyle is no riskier than anyone else in the porn industry (unless you count driving at exceptionally high speeds up and down I5) Its been fun, but this convo is going in circles. Enjoy your winter everyone.
Not a shred of evidence exists in favor of the idea that life is serious - Brendan Gill 723 Posts 4/09
Posted - Dec 10 2009 : 4:38PM
Making personal choices or having preferences does not make you a hypocrite. Hypocrisy consists of saying one thing while you do something else, e.g. the evangelist that condemns homosexuals and has a gay lover, or the politician who condemns government run health care whose own health insurance is funded by the government. A porn actress who doesn't want to risk performing with men who do gay scenes is not a hypocrite, unless she were to condemn another actress for making the same choice. Becoming a porn actor does not mean one must do whatever porn one is asked to do. Buying porn doesn't give us the right to dictate to some actress what she must do, and because an actress doesn't go in for your particular kind of turn on, doesn't give you the right to call her names: hypocite or anything else.
Posted - Nov 18 2009 : 1:50PM
