after college, i moved home w/ my parents for a while and got no action. of course i used porn to satisfy myself during this dry spell. months ago i moved out to a big city and really got back in the game again, meeting all types of girls. i realized i had a problem when i found it difficult to get turned on by regular girls b/c they arent as hot as tera patrick or krystal steal or whoever. in addition, it seems that i am having trouble getting excited with my current girlfriend because i have conditioned myself to only get excited by watching porn. i get hard immediatly when i turn on a xxx movie but barely get excited from my girlfriend on top of me. is there a way to reverse this? does anyone else suffer from this as well?
Surely it's great if you don't need to rely on a gf for sexual satisfaction - it means you can choose someone you actually like and respect and not have to care about looks?
You are probably just burned out or exausted from too much stimuli. Try not to watch Porn for awhile and don't jack off or have sex with your girl for some time.
Seriously? You go soft when your girlfriend's on top of you? Then you have some serious issues indeed.
I found that porn affects my expectations regarding sex. I'm speaking for myself, but I'm sure I'm not alone here. Many of us are not as big or last as long as the porn guys, while our girlfriends or wives might not look as hot or do certain acts as well as porn girls. So it is perhaps understandable that when you're faced with a regular-looking partner, you might be slightly less excitable or aroused, maybe even disappointed.
What the others say here is true. Stay off porn for a while, and readjust your body and mind to the "real" world. You can start acting out your fantasies after you're back to "normal". Just be glad that you can still get your girlfriend to like you.
1. Relax 2. Closed your eyes 3. Think of a hot scene featuring Tiffany Mynx, Monica Sweetheart, or any of your other fav. stars. 4. Instant Erection... (hopefully)
Hey krusty - I've got a recommendation for you that you might want to try.
As everyone else has said - lay off of the porn dude . Do it for a week. Then make a bee-line for your bird and see what happens. If you manage to find yourself in a state of arousal - bingo! If not, then you might well be with the wrong girl mate.
(Oh, and be really strict with yourself about abstention. NO WANKING ALLOWED....NONE AT ALL.)
I have definitely experienced that. When girls aren't as hot as I expected I would get real turned off. For instance, me and this girl were going to hit it off but once she dropped her clothes I was dissapointed and totally turned off by all the fat specially in her stomach area. Out of respect I tried to have sex with her and she began to blow my donkee but it wouldn't respond to any stimulation. The mind has a direct link to your penis and if you're turn off you won't get hard.
thats exactly my point. we watch these gorgous woman with perfect tits and asses fuck like champions in these movies. how can one be expected to go back to their regular girlfriends/wives? not that i dont love watching porn but for me it has created a false sense of reality. my girlfriend is hot but she is no Sylvia Saint. I wish i could handle it but my brain isnt wired like that. I have not orgasmed for about 4 days now, and not watched porn for about a week. so far i think things are going to work out, and i thank everyone for their input.
Kicker, suggestion for next time, turn off the frigging lights and use your imagination! If it's daylight, close the curtains, keep your eyes closed and use your imagination!!
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Posted - Apr 14 2005 : 8:11PM
Depends on whether you mean a long or a short while...
I'm sorry, I'm not much of a help here. IF I had a girl I'd probably ask how much porn I have to watch until my girl can actually undress completely BEFORE I already cum like crazy. An average looking girl that gets naked in order to have sex with ME would turn me on much more than the hottest porn star performing on screen, I think. But don't be envious, you don't want my non-existent sex life. Hey, you don't even want my explanation.
Trying to be at least a little bit helpful: No sexual activities of any kind for 40 days and 40 nights. As an exception sex with your girlfriend is allowed, but not before day 10. Side effect: Being involved in a lawsuit because of cutting The Gemologist's diamonds with your cock.
I can see how porn can in a way 'desensitise' you to ordinary looking girls. I watch a lot of porn, and sometimes I feel a little bored by some of the stuff I've seen. After all, there's only so many ways you can perform sex/oral/anal.
Generally though, when I'm with a girl, porn doesn't really play on my mind too much. If anything, it boosts my sex drive even if I'm not with a girl who looks like Dani Woodward or Tera Patrick.
Porn for me, is a source of great entertainment and sexual satisfaction/motivation. That's the only advice I can really give on this matter. To use porn as a springboard for what you might want to try with your girlfriend.
How about slowly easing your girlfriend into more kinky things. Bring home a "feature movie", sex toy, sexy lingerie etc. Ask her to talk dirty, or say certain things to you. This may help.
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Posted - Apr 1 2005 : 3:40PM