Reviewers Recommend So Extra - review by Sean DPS Director: Mike Quasar Starring: Tommy Pistol, Ryan Keely, Seth Gamble, Isiah Maxwell, Robby Apples, Kay Lovely, Melissa Stratton, Chanel Camryn. Read review
I do Hardware, my home is more of a getaway from life for girls. When they come over there are no kids, no noise, just relaxation, good food and fun. I give them what they are missing in their lives which is fun and excitement. They can't give me that back. They all want a monogamous relationship with me which I told them isn't gonna happen so they try harder and get pissed off when it doesn't happen. Way off topic here. /
No, we're not off topic. Let me suggest that what you claim these young women are missing from their lives and what they believe they are missing from their lives are two different things. From the quote in my previous, you want them to care for you, yet you will not acknowledge the association such affection has in their minds with the nature of the relationship. In short, the way to gain the care and affection of a woman is the path that you refuse to take.
Which is committing to a monogamous relationship which I told them I wouldn't do? I just think that is honest and women respect that honesty but it doesn't stop them from wanting to be the girl that gets me to commit to them. I have gone off the chain lately with my dating and I am involved with one of the women I date, crazy stuff. The girl who I am involved with, we click on a mental level but not a sexual level. To top it off, she is a nympho but only likes sex in the missionary position which doesn't always do it for me.
and----------------------------- Applying Hardware's advice, Breeze, let's reimagine your post in two different yet complementary ways: "And what Breeze doesn't get is that it isn't all about sex. I want Breeze to call me or text me about how my day is going. Maybe tell me that he'll have dinner ready for me after work. I want him actually to care about me." or "I, Breeze, am going to show each of them that it isn't all about sex for me. I'm going to call them and text them about how their days are going. I'll have dinner ready for them after work. I want them to feel and know, on a deep level, that I actually care about them and that, for me, it isn't all about having sex. I will demonstrate to them, in ways that are clear and meaningful, that sex is a way for me to mentally bond with them and that I really, really want to bond with them more than anything else." None of this requires monogamy on your part.
Bob, you make me sound so callous. Maybe I am, I have come to grips with myself that I am selfish and don't always take other people's feelings into consideration. I try. It is still a two way street. I think that people that want a FWB status want more.
^^^ It wasn't my intention to make you feel like a cad. I thought you missed the point of Hardware's (very good) advice, and I wanted to concretize it.
And what is Hardware's good advice? Lead by example? I do text and call the girls I am involved with, I am done with cheating and am being honest with people. I am seeing like 6 girls now and out of them, 5 want a monogamous relationship but are cool being fwb's with me. I am in love with the one girl who doesn't want a monogamous relationship, go figure. I tell them all I date other girls. Crazy stuff feelings are. Just because a girl is a fwb doesn't mean I don't have feelings for her. Good friends are hard to find. It is really kinda weird, cuz the girls who open up to me and are fwb's want a monogamous relationship but not a bullshit relationship.
So Extra - review by Sean DPS
Posted - Oct 23 2011 : 11:28PM