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| SunShowers Member  333 Posts 4/08 |  Posted - Sep 18 2008 : 8:25PMIt seems a lot of men have a fixation with anal sex, something which baffles me. I can understand from a physical standpoint, but it seems like there may be something mental about it. Could anyone help a girl out and explain this? What is it about anal sex that's so thrilling? And do most guys expect it? [Link] |
| blowfish Member 874 Posts 1/08 | Posted - Sep 18 2008 : 8:30PM [Link] |
jayo  All-Star Member 2117 Posts 7/04 | Posted - Sep 18 2008 : 9:37PM But if I never had anal sex in my life, I'm not going to sigh about it on my deathbed. [Link] |
| EatOut Member 38 Posts 5/08 | Posted - Sep 18 2008 : 10:30PM Edited by - EatOut on 9/18/2008 10:39:47 PM [Link] |
| EatOut Member 38 Posts 5/08 | Posted - Sep 18 2008 : 10:36PM |
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| EatOut Member 38 Posts 5/08 | Posted - Sep 18 2008 : 10:37PM [Link] |
| Macko69 Senior Member Gone for a walk. 1985 Posts 5/08 | Posted - Sep 18 2008 : 11:02PM First of all, to me, it doesn't feel as good as a vagina. Secondly, unless you wash/enema thoroughly, the smell is AWFUL! A girl I was with long ago liked to have anal. Once when we were doing it, I pulled out to change positions and out of habit, I grabbed my dick and tugged it a few times. Then once we got settled in the next position, I scratched an itch on my nose with the same hand and the smell was NASTY! I went limp and couldn't finish the job. I don't mind a little bit of the doo-doo smell (like when I'm in a 69), but when it's "full strength", the odor is just overwhelming. I certainly wouldn't expect it from a woman. A lot of women don't like anal, and I understand. I don't particularly like things put into my rectum. My wife gave me a prostate massage once and I didn't enjoy it. I don't mind being rimmed a bit, but my wife isn't into it, and that's ok with me. [Link] |
| Hardware All-Star Member Your other left 14594 Posts 3/02 | Posted - Sep 18 2008 : 11:26PM As to why men like it, with the caveat that not all of us do, there are probably several reasons. For one thing, it's a taboo, which adds spice when sex starts to become routine. For another, it's a form of sub/dom play. I'm sure there are other reasons, but doing it just because you saw it in porn is probably not a good one. For me, porn is a visual and selfish experience, while sex is much more of a tactile and sharing experience, so I don't bring the same expectations to both. Since it isn't a topic of conversation around here, I can't tell you whether men expect it or not. The only thing that I expect is for my partner to participate. I know some guys like to toss women around like a sack of flour but I hate doing all the work. I want to be met halfway. PS - If you told me I could either get great blowjobs or great anal sex, but not both, I'd pick the blowjobs. Of course, being human, I'd probably end up fixated on anal, lol. [Link] |
| RandomPrecision Senior Member Enjoy! 8175 Posts 3/06 | Posted - Sep 18 2008 : 11:43PM Some men might also prefer it because there's this whole psychological thing about pregnancy. A lot of men are in no hurry to be fathers. [Link] |
| brasilfan Member 130 Posts 2/03 | Posted - Sep 20 2008 : 1:31AM However, I would never expect it from a girl and never demand it, if it is against her will. I get it from my wife though and I must say this has actually reduced the number of times I want it. Not because it is not good but because I know I can get it, if I want it. Nobody said that guys are less complicated than girls, or did they? [Link] |
| jackthetreacleeater Senior Member Shame on you! 2003 Posts 10/06 | Posted - Sep 20 2008 : 7:51AM Ultimately anal is much more pleasurable for the guy than the average girl. It's very rare to find a non-porn girl that has a preference for anal over vaginal. Nothing says romance like anal sex. [Link] |
| James7373 New Member 2 Posts 9/08 | Posted - Sep 20 2008 : 11:00PM I think a big part of the male fixation on anal sex is due to the fact that it's in almost all porn these days. Guys see it in porn and want to try it out. [Link] |
| assloving1 Member 37 Posts 10/04 | Posted - Sep 22 2008 : 10:55AM Now this isn't going to be a popular opinion but I think the root for the mental fixation comes from the familiarity. Men have no idea what vaginal penetration feels like for the woman but... Oh and no one expects it, which makes all the more exciting whne it hapens. [Link] |
| Hardware All-Star Member Your other left 14594 Posts 3/02 | Posted - Sep 22 2008 : 8:28PM [Link] |
| JohnW Senior Member 1351 Posts 6/08 | Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 5:17PM In porn, I suppose I am not as interested in anal as most other people. It's ok to watch, but I prefer vaginal/oral. And I do not like A2M, I just don't get it, it is too "dirty" and I don't like watching that cock going from a smelly ass to a mouth. [Link] |
| kataboom master blaster ad astra per aspera 995 Posts 6/03 | Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 10:48PM [Link] |
| SJOriginal Member I'm not bad, I'm just drawn that way 158 Posts 9/08 | Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 1:24AM Anal; the girl is really fucking, not just on a physical level, but mental and emotional. Having a man inside your ass is counter mount to being grabbed by your spine and thrown against the bare floor. It's unmistakable; the sounds, the deep throttle groans, the look in her face, ahh! ... and the initial wince while pain is endured before endorphins begin to rage through the veins. She's no other place but ... right there in the moment. Isn't that the essence of all great sexual experiences? Sarah Jane x [Link] |
| RandomPrecision Senior Member Enjoy! 8175 Posts 3/06 | Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 4:25AM "Yeeeeeeeeeeeesssss! Looooooooooook! LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOK! Can see inside!" [Link] |
| Kimi Lixx Senior Member 2012 Posts 6/01 | Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 10:29AM Second, your statement is just rubbish. It might be true for you that you can't fake it when you're a little uncomfortable with some anal action, but that certainly isn't true for all women, or, I suspect, even for most women. I find no easier time for faking than when I'm uncomfortable, an unpleasant sensation disconnects me from the sexual experience faster than anything besides a baby screaming in the next room. Third, if the point of your post was to indicate that men like anal because they figure their partner is giving a more honest response than during other permutations of sex, you have no further to look than the millions of lousy porn vids for proof that "honest anal" is just as much a fantasy as "honest vaginal" or "honest oral" or any other non-faking-it experience. As for the topic question, some men like anal, some men don't. They like it for a variety of reasons, and they dislike it for an equal variety of reasons. Some men have a partner with a tighter anus than pussy, some men don't. Some men like a tighter feel, some men don't. Some men like dirty sex (imagined or actual), some men don't. Some men like the view from behind, some men like to see their partner's face. The list is as endless as the possible answers. Most men I've encountered wanted anal because they couldn't get it and they had it hyped up in their mind because they saw too much porn and read too many Penthouse letters. Once they could get it on a regular basis, they didn't want it anymore. It would seem the novelty wears off fast. [Link] |
| Bob All-Star Member 5516 Posts 3/03 | Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 12:51PM It's nice to see you back, Kimi. And to read you, again. [Link] |
| SJOriginal Member I'm not bad, I'm just drawn that way 158 Posts 9/08 | Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 5:53PM |
| Kimi Lixx Senior Member 2012 Posts 6/01 | Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 6:44PM You did not voice your opinion about anal sex, you made a statement that "the girl is really fucking", not that you, yourself, are really involved when you're doing anal. I feel no compunction whatsoever about calling out someone's false statement. I rarely attack opinions, because they are subjective and mine is no more, or less, valid than anyone's. Everyone else in this thread made an "I statement", that is, they voiced their personal perspective, i.e. opinion. I didn't object to any of them. [Link] |
| Bob All-Star Member 5516 Posts 3/03 | Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 7:00PM I love it when a woman's nipples get erect during a scene. Aside from being a bit of a nipple fetishist and enjoying it for that reason, it also makes me think that the performer is aroused. Your thoughts? [Link] |
| blowfish Member 874 Posts 1/08 | Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 7:02PM [Link] |
| lindi Senior Member 12345 3205 Posts 9/02 | Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 7:52PM [Link] |
| Kimi Lixx Senior Member 2012 Posts 6/01 | Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 8:29PM My nipples respond (become erect) to direct stimulation, even if I dislike it (they become erect when bitten - I DON'T like being bitten on the nipple AT ALL!). Before I had implants they tended to respond to changes in temperature (a warm breath in a cool room, or a chilly breeze on a warm day), since the implants they don't seem to notice that as much. My nipples may, or may not, be erect when I am aroused. I have no idea why they are when they are, and why they aren't when they aren't. Sometimes one side is up and the other side is down at the same time. I would never assume a woman is aroused because her nipples were hard. It's a nice thing to see, though, no matter what the reason. [Link] |
| Bob All-Star Member 5516 Posts 3/03 | Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 8:49PM Seriously. But also, [wink]. [Link] |
| Bob All-Star Member 5516 Posts 3/03 | Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 8:54PM Anyway, I appreciate your candid answer. Thanks! [Link] |
| SJOriginal Member I'm not bad, I'm just drawn that way 158 Posts 9/08 | Posted - Sep 25 2008 : 12:31AM [/quote] Okay Kimi - if we are going to really argue semantics, then yes, I shall proceed this statement and all statements thereafter with "I". "I" was hoping that this being a forum of opinions mostly, one would have figured that my statement was an opinion and not a factual statement written in stone and forever carved into the books of history. You and "I" are both of a mature and intelligent age to know better; that this is nonsense and arguing semantics can be tiresome and counterproductive. My dear ...... my statement is not false. The constant attack on my beliefs, no matter how minor, are beginning to become a little irksome. I am not lying, baring false witness or speaking "rubbish", because this is how I truly feel on this subject. This is my opinion about anal sex, the joy, the difficulty and truth ... according to me. It is not "rubbish", "false", "incorrect" or any other word alluding to "lies". Also, because you are a mere 3 years older then myself, do not presume to lecture me on the rights and wrongs of sex, life, anal pleasure, or anything else. I respect your opinion, your age and wisdom, and would not talk down to you; please afford me the same courtesy ... and for the love of God, can we please move on? Or ... we can go back and forth like high school girls; the ball and discretion is in your court. Lastly, I was masturbating at the age of 4, before I really knew what masturbation was. Now, is this a competition, or can we agree that we are both of similar age, experience and knowledge of all things carnal? Thank you for listening Sarah Jane Hamilton PS To anyone reading this thread, "I" 100% stand by my initial comments and opinion, which are based on my life's experience and sexual endeavours. You and all that read this, are completely entitled to your own, and I look forward to reading your opinions without bias or judgement. [Link] |
| RandomPrecision Senior Member Enjoy! 8175 Posts 3/06 | Posted - Sep 25 2008 : 5:30AM [Link] |
| JohnW Senior Member 1351 Posts 6/08 | Posted - Sep 25 2008 : 8:00AM [Link] |
| ma meeshka Iconoclastic Member 3939 Posts 4/06 | Posted - Sep 25 2008 : 8:22AM kimi's post = [/thread] Edited by - ma meeshka on 9/25/2008 8:23:15 AM [Link] |
| Bornyo Deactivated Member 803 Posts 12/04 | Posted - Sep 25 2008 : 3:10PM [Link] |
| Bob All-Star Member 5516 Posts 3/03 | Posted - Sep 25 2008 : 4:44PM [Link] |
| Clam Digger Deactivated User Many a man fails as an original thinker simply because his memory is too good. 2268 Posts 1/05 | Posted - Sep 25 2008 : 7:44PM I guess lots of closet analists abound. Edited by - Clam Digger on 9/25/2008 7:50:13 PM [Link] |
| Bob All-Star Member 5516 Posts 3/03 | Posted - Sep 25 2008 : 7:48PM I'll speak up. I love anal, but I don't know why. [Link] |
| ma meeshka Iconoclastic Member 3939 Posts 4/06 | Posted - Sep 25 2008 : 9:23PM [Link] |
| LubeNLuv Senior Member 1854 Posts 3/06 | Posted - Sep 26 2008 : 12:24AM But honestly, I do it more because she gets off on it than do I. It's too tight for me back there and the feeling, once I'm inside, isn't near as stimulating to me as her pussy or mouth. Plus with all the lube it's just too slick. So it's a novelty I guess, but I can relate to what makes it a turnon for many men. I will also add, however, that the "taboo" thing wears off pretty fast once you've done it a few times. And I do think porn fixates far too many men on that one aspect of sex. There's more to a woman than her asshole and backside. We've only done it WITH some prep (usually just a simple enema/douche) and so the smell wasn't an issue and no surprises were waiting for me inside. And in our case, the cleansing is part of the D/s roleplay anyways so it has it's own attraction. But I will say that it has made it far more enjoyable to me to know she's got a clean(er) ass before sticking my dick inside. [Link] |
| Bob All-Star Member 5516 Posts 3/03 | Posted - Sep 26 2008 : 2:29AM [Link] |
| ma meeshka Iconoclastic Member 3939 Posts 4/06 | Posted - Sep 26 2008 : 8:32AM [Link] |
| ma meeshka Iconoclastic Member 3939 Posts 4/06 | Posted - Sep 26 2008 : 8:34AM [Link] |
| buttguy Member Belly Down Anal- All Anal and Only ANAL!!! 518 Posts 7/02 | Posted - Sep 26 2008 : 5:43PM [Link] |
| SunShowers Member 333 Posts 4/08 | Posted - Oct 2 2008 : 10:21AM [Link] |
| SexyHard Member 673 Posts 6/07 | Posted - Oct 2 2008 : 10:53AM In porn, I love it: 1) The girls generally clean up. I would never ask my girlfriend to have an enema for my pleasure. 2) I love looking at spread pussies. I love watching people fuck. Anal in porn lets me have my cake and eat it too. [Link] |
| Bob All-Star Member 5516 Posts 3/03 | Posted - Oct 2 2008 : 2:19PM Your answer speaks for me, too -- in part, at least. ------------------ [typos] Edited by - bob on 10/2/2008 2:19:46 PM [Link] |
| DAF1740 Member 305 Posts 9/06 | Posted - Oct 4 2008 : 9:14AM On a physical level, I think the person receiving anal sex gets more pleasure than the person penetrating. Years ago, I didn't want to fuck a girl in the ass without having first tried it on myself, and, well, my own anal dildo has become by far my favorite sex toy. My wife absolutely loves getting anal, too: the way I do it, there's no pain at all, it just feels great for both of us. And we both love having a finger up there when we're getting oral. I'm also obsessed with ass, and love licking it and fingering it, and when I'm in the vagina my mind is always focused on its neighbor. I think the greatest physical pleasure comes from doing doggie vaginal and sticking a finger in her butt so it presses against my cock, with oral probably coming in second, so, for me, much of the pleasure in anal sex is mental and emotional. As far as cleanliness is concerned, if you're careful it's almost never dirty (much to my chagrin). I kind of wish it would get a little messy, and I'm turned on by a bit of stink coming from a woman's ass (it must go back to some primitive instinct when people didn't bathe), but my wife is just so clean that that never happens. No enema is required: just make sure you have a bowel movement sometime before you do it, and then wash with soap and water afterward and you're all set to go. Edited by - DAF1740 on 10/4/2008 9:17:03 AM [Link] |
| Wind Member My Kinda Girl 28 Posts 9/08 | Posted - Oct 8 2008 : 4:18AM Someone beat me up for using Anal Eaze? I am an anal gourmet, I'll lick that ass until it begs for a fucking cock, hands down. I'll stick my fingers up there while I lick and suck the clit, hitting the g-spot with my finger from the ass. Once I get a girl comfortable enough to take my needle dick in the ass I can make her cum harder by fucking her in the ass than I can by fucking her in the pussy. The right position is everything. I like anal sex over vaginal sex because it IS dirty and wrong, but hey, if I can make a girl cum harder by fucking her in the ass and PROVE it, I have accomplished something. And there is NO better feeling for me than feeling a woman squirt out of her pussy while I am fucking her in the ass. That is a totally great feeling and just ONE reason I like fucking women in the ass. [Link] |
| Tech Member Make me a bicycle Clown !!! 35 Posts 4/08 | Posted - Oct 9 2008 : 2:58PM "You should've never trusted hollywood..." [Link] |
| typvgs Member 46 Posts 9/05 | Posted - Oct 10 2008 : 11:07PM Looks like you got a lot of good responses. I guess it's the kind of thing where everyone has a different view. If it's worth anything, here's mine: Basically, experiencing the beauty of a woman makes all the difference. If I had a plastic cast of a pussy, versus an anus, I'd fuck the plastic pussy, becuase I like the pussy sensation better. But, an anus is beautiful thing, and if it's on a beautiful woman, my cock wants to go there. Same thing with titty fucking. It works the other way, too. My wife loves fingering my anus and rimming. It feels nice, but honestly I think she likes it even more than I do. My wife has beautiful eyes. If she looks up at me during a blow job, it makes the blow job that much better. Same with her anus. It's beautiful, and I just follow my cock. Think of anal sex as appeciating beauty from another angle :-) [Link] |
| Captain Cock Member NL 172 Posts 2/05 | Posted - Oct 20 2008 : 5:56PM I like anal for a variety of reasons. - It's more intimate. Vaginal sex is pretty straightforward. Anal requires more trust, communication, preparation and subtlety. In my life at least, judging from porn, you can allways just dive in shouting 'geronimo' without warning. - It feels good. Like a soft but firm grip by a silken glove, gently and rhytmically milking my dick. - I like having been a 'first' to someone. I guess it's in my genes, like how explorers in the old days liked to be somewhere first, be it the North Pole like Robert Peary, the top of the mount Everest, like Edmund Hillary, like Columbus trying to be first to reach Asia via the West, or Barentz tried via the North, I like being the first one in a girls ass. It's not something I liked to do often though. I come pretty fast from it and I dont allways like the interuption to clean up afterwards before trying anything else in either the same or follow up session. Short answer (as a mountaineer once replied to why he climbed mountains): 'Because they're there'. [Link] |
| HeyNow Oblivious Gold Star Hey! 5965 Posts 1/03 | Posted - Oct 20 2008 : 10:24PM Probably the best answer yet. [Link] |
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