I got my first introduction to anal on a beg from a woman who had a really small clitoris. She explained that her orgasms while having anal were so intense that at times she would nearly pass out. She kept a rolled up towel near her mouth to bite down on while she screamed. She assured me that this was not from pain but from pleasure. It was more like I was just trying to keep up with her desire than anything else. The vaginal was disappointing because she could only get 1 orgasm before she became too sensitive to penetrate. It was our basic routine to hit all bases and then collapse in exhaustion. This was long before I watched porn or knew what the emerging trends were. Low and behold years later I met other women who asked for it and thoroughly enjoyed it. The connecting factor to all of these women is that they were not American .They were Puerto Rican, Mexican, Canadian, Asian and European. This tells me that it may also be a social question you are trying to answer as well as a gender " Why Do Men Like Anal?" question. I think it depends on where you ask the question as well as who you ask the question. The dust from the taboo effect will eventually settle and those that really like it will continue to sing its praises and those that don't will find something they enjoy as well. I would like to hijack the thread by asking "why do people like Anal?" and answer it "For exactly what they get out of it!" It's a reward system that works on whatever level the participants define.
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It's more psychological than physical because on the whole, vaginal sex feels better than anal. Anal is tighter, but it's a "ring" tightness with amorphous warmth behind it whereas a vagina is a velvet glove holding the entire length of your shaft. Psychological reasons: -it's taboo; doing something you're told not to do -it's dirty, best sex is dirty. Think about what anal sex involves: That liquid juice on a cock that is sliding into her ass is a mix of saliva from both partners, sweat from both partners, pre-cum, vaginal lube, ass juice, and synthetic lube. -it's domination/power - even payback for the sexual power that women exert over men because of our hardwiring to want women above anything else in life. There is a power in punishing others sexually, as well as seeing a woman in an uncensored light (society wants them to present themselves as clean, classy, pretty, dolled up, but anal breaks the facade and brings everything back down to earth; we are all flawed and are all dirty when the pretenses are removed). -the kinky thought of re-orienting/re-training a woman's backdoor in reverse of its usual functioning is a hot and mesmerizing process -getting yourself off and her by 'unnatural' means -she's an active participant; she can sleep through vaginal sex but anal requires attention and focus on her part -visually pleasing to see a hard cock into a round hole -intimate factor - she's letting you into her innermost and most private sanctuary; one usually reserved for the toilet only. So for me at least it's 70% - 80% psychological and it's essentially the only porn I watch. Then again, all sex to me is mostly psychological. Edited by - smallcock on 11/18/2008 1:57:26 PM
When butt-fucking my old girlfriend, her ass would very distinctively squeeze while she was coming. I never suspected her of faking orgasms, but with anal, there was no doubt in my mind at all. :-)
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I imagine it's quite flattering to the women too, as you like them so much that even potentially having some of her waste on you is ok, perhaps even part of the enjoyment of it.
Personally, I get tired of watching anal scenes. Most of the time, I just fast forward through them. I'm not into in my sex life but every now and then I meet a woman who is into it. So I aim to please and I tear that ass up. I find it more fun to tease and threaten to fuck a woman in her ass but I rarely carry it out. I LOVE PUSSY! PUSSY, PUSSY, PUSSY! I love watching women fucking in their pussies. Whenever I see Lauren Phoenix or Brianna Love or Sasha Grey riding a cock...in their pussies...I smile. And I applaud women, like Jenni Lee, who says she's not into it. But I do like DP scenes. Go figure.
Watching a gal get analtized is cool, but somehow i don't think i could do it. It doesn't seem clean enough for me. It amazes me to see guys licking and sticking their tongue in a woman's asshole. It looks cool, but i don't see how i can do it. Ed Powers was know to slob all over an asshole. He was into it!!
Yes you're secretly gay if you kiss a woman or get a blow job from a woman too because gays also kiss and give blow jobs. You're secretly gay if you masturbate for two reasons 1)gays masturbate 2)you are a man giving pleasure to a man(yourself). So just to be safe you should only insert your penis into her vagina. Be extremely careful not to ejaculate because gays also ejaculate during sex. Be careful not to touch her or hold her or even talk to her because gays touch each other, talk to each other and hold each other. As a matter of fact I'm even going to stop eating and sleeping because gays eat and sleep too. Then and only then I'll know for sure that I'm not secretly gay. Skyscrapper, Thanks for your brilliant observation. I'll loose my girlfriend and forty pounds but at least I won't be secretly gay. By the way, is "she" secretly gay because she keeps asking for anal? I really need to know.
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Posted - Dec 31 2008 : 1:00PM
Gay isn't what you do... Gay is who you do it with.
For the record, there is nothing on earth that I enjoy more than licking a woman's asshole. As long as she washes with soap and water after she shits, then you have nothing to worry about. Otherwise, a little Listerine should kill the bacteria once you're done. You really should try it: if I could only do one thing for the rest of my life, that would be it.
I think it's just a fascination with ass. I have a fascination with ass too and luvvv anal sex. I've even done the whole ATM thing. loved it. Edited by - kirby on 1/8/2009 3:37:05 PM
Once you've been pumping that ass for 10-15 minutes and it's warm and the juices are flowing, ass tastes fantastic. I'll only tongue my girl if she's cleaned out first because I don't want to get sick. As for the anal thing. I was introduced to it by my bi-girlfriend and her friend when I was 12, and it was weird. I didn't think much about it until I was about 17, then I started using vegetables as I experimented with different sensations. Then in my 20's I dated a dominatrix who chained me down and fucked me hard with progressively bigger strap-ons, and it was just fucking the most incredible sexusal sensation I'd ever had. Now, off and on, I've found girlfriends who are open to sometimes "doing me" and they fun with it. Part of my initial enjoyment was knowing what it felt like and how the cock moved around so I could better please the women I was with. I get more pleasure out of pleasing my partner than her pleasing me. However, during times when I'm not dating, I sometimes use a dildo do enhance the masturbatory experience. Life's too short not to experiment with all possibilities of enjoyment.
Just a note here that I believe the original poster is trying to find out why MEN are fixated on having anal sex with WOMEN and not anal sex as a w(hole). The gay sex angle seems irrelevant. So far we have: The taboo aspect. the variety aspect (3-holer), the pleasure aspect, the initiation aspect, the higher level of intimacy aspect, the lower level of depravity aspect, the birth control aspect and the curiosity aspect. There is still a lot more to it to others so it's fair to say it means more than a handshake. I remember one girl who just put it in there without blinking and I almost lost the thrill because she was too casual about it. So, yes for some guys it is some type of milestone or special event for others something to spice up the relationship.
SunShowers wrote: It seems a lot of men have a fixation with anal sex, something which baffles me. I can understand from a physical standpoint, but it seems like there may be something mental about it. Could anyone help a girl out and explain this? What is it about anal sex that's so thrilling? And do most guys expect it? ronin3 wrote the gay angle seems irrevelant ntfighter wrote It only seems irrelevant.
It seems irrelevant to what the original poster appeared to be asking about. She didn't seem to be talking about the closet, restroom toe tapping, page chasing Senators or the George Micheals of the world.(You can start that post to help you feel better}Posters like Skyscrapper and the others who admitted that they are, were confused by the original question. Her attention span for this post ended a long time ago so it really does not matter that much. The finger pointing sessions are great ego boosters for those who worry about it. So I guess it helped in it's own way. People fixate on toes, calves, breasts, hair, thighs, eyes ,backs, cameltoes, ass, skin, and anything else you can think of Just to put icing on a stale old cake called sex. Whatever floats the boat as they say.....But it's really nothing but procreation. A way of keeping the odds high that the species continues to survive. Edited by - ronin3 on 3/2/2009 11:40:10 AM
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Posted - Mar 2 2009 : 12:04PM
Again... Gay isn't what you do Gay is who you do it with
^I can't believe that the gay angle makes its way into so many threads. To me, there is no legitimate link between male-female anal sex and homosexuality. I agree with the poster above--who you do it with makes all the difference.
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Posted - Mar 9 2009 : 7:20PM
Why do men like anal sex? Because it's GREAT!!! Explanation's been covered but simple really: It feels tighter on the penis, it's a little taboo , it feels naughty (has a kink/voracious factor to it), looks great, and is... a hole! Without that third hole on a lady, that leaves 2. If one can help it and all parties involved were happy to do so, why would you limit your experience? And to echo some of the more level-headed comments above: It's only gay if you specifically want to have anal sex with a man. And if so, what does it matter?
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Posted - Mar 9 2009 : 10:27PM
I agree. I wish that people who held on to that "it's gay!" notion would find other, more rational reasons to justify their dislike of anal sex.
Devil's advocate here. Women have one thing that defines them, a vagina. You are with a women that really turns you on. She has all the attributes that makes women the madding fascinating gift they are. She's great to talk to, fun to be with, and You really really want to fuck her....in the ass. Ignore that which makes her a women?. One more, Beautiful girl passes you on the street, painted on low rider jean, shoes just high enough to get that nice roll in her hips. You take a good long look and think "I'd like to fuck her.... in the ass. Ignore that which makes her female. OK, it's not gay. It's gayish. Edited by - ntfighter on 3/10/2009 12:43:14 AM
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nevermind Edited by - spearmint on 3/10/2009 12:49:52 AM
Interesting take on it - I never thought of it that way. I've been seeing a little less of it in porn - just because of the stuff I've been seeing, I think. I do like to see it a lot though. No interest in doing it quite honestly. But in porn there is that taboo aspect and (I've surely said this before) but how great is it to see a nice ripe juicy pussy out there during anal sex? Who's with me, dammit?
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Posted - Mar 10 2009 : 1:27AM
Devil's advocate or not, there's more that defines a woman than her vagina! If that were the case, your arousal to a woman would be exactly the same as if to a man until she faces you, takes off her undergarments, and shows you some vag. Only then can you be turned on, fuck her in that one hole, to prove you're 100% straight (...???) Sorry matey, that point makes absolutely no sense. A woman is a woman. The things I'd like to do to a woman are that which I wouldn't do to a man; Biologically french kissing a woman is exactly the same as french kissing a man - therefore, soon a guy kissing a girl would be thought of as gay or "gayish". Edited by - Dubious_Leftovers on 3/10/2009 1:30:53 AM
Focusing sexually on the asshole rather than the ass contours is gayish. Asshole are pretty much the same for both genders. It's the gender differences that trigger arousal in straight people, and by definition homosexuals are aroused by members of the same sex; gender similarities. Kissing is not only lips. Ask the porn stars who refuse to kiss in their scenes. Grab a guy and pull him close, lay a big wet one on him and you'll know your kissing a Man. A gay male thinks about fucking his sex partners in the ass. There just is not a lot of choices for him.
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Posted - Mar 10 2009 : 11:38AM
"Women have one thing that defines them" Ya... their MIND Saying that a woman is defined by her sex organs is one of the most misogynist things I've read on this forum... "A gay male thinks about fucking his sex partners in the ass." Gays don't think about anal any more than straights do...
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Posted - Mar 10 2009 : 1:03PM
(Sigh...) Okay, assholes are pretty much the same for both sexes... wanna list all the other physical similarities? what about 2 eyes, arms, legs, hair, teeth... Could be something to do with being human. And I think you fail to see my previous point about kissing; I shan't explain that further because you haven't cottoned on. I will say this though, when I focus on a woman's arsehole it is THE WOMAN'S arsehole I'm focusing on as part of the complete woman package (including contours etc...) Gay men are attracted to male contours, straight men are attracted to female contours. And yes, a gay man thinks about fucking his sex partners in the ass (by default)... and about receiving blowjobs... do you think about receiving blowjobs? Bet you do... why don't you consider that a gay act? And ultimately, what in fuck's name does all this matter??!! Edited by - Dubious_Leftovers on 3/10/2009 1:11:31 PM
notice how when you take this single sentence out of the context of all the other stuff you wrote it makes absolutely no sense? it is neuter. neither gay, straight, nor bi. you fail. give up. return to just being the devil. Edited by - ma meeshka on 3/10/2009 10:52:56 PM
My point is perfectly understandable. Lust that is triggered by a female anus, the asshole only not the body that happens to possess the asshole, will also respond to a male asshole. There are two only genders, it can't be neutral.
It is your own logic that you are trying to defy not ours. first you say that the one unique thing about a woman is her vagina and that is what a man should be attracted to. Then you completely skip over your own point. That therefore to that is the one thing unique about a man is his penis that would attract a man to a man or a woman to a man. Not the un-unique ass but the unique penis. it completely shuts down your argument if you include one unique point but ignore the another. The clearest definition is by not what you can do with your partner, it's by what you cannot do. I don't have a vagina I am completely ruled out of the possibility of being a lesbian. Women do not have penises. They are completely ruled out of the possibility of being gay men. That's why sex with a woman cannot be gay sex. Listen carefully "Sex" between a man and a woman is defined as heterosexual "sex". sex between members of the same gender is defined as gay or lesbian sex. Otherwise it's gay to do anything that they do, even if you comb your friggin hair if you just want to stretch a point. I've been to 3 communities in the world where women believed that requesting head was considered gay or worse. (Though none refused cunnilingus..selfish bit**es). That is the way they see it so I did not argue. On the other hand, I just heard from a girl at work about the growing trend of "bendover" boyfriends and husbands. Now to me this is where the gayish argument might hold water but whatever I think, it's still none of my business to set policy on this. The definitions were written to avoid confusion. Those who are confused should not try to confuse everyone else. You have a right to your opinion. It's only a problem when you try to stuff it down the wrong hole ....and that's kinda gay too if you think about it.
Well in porn I enjoy anal sex because it just seems so submissive and of course dirty as mentioned, the positions just seem really hot and not all women in porn will do it making the ones that do special and I love first times. Both me and my partner have enjoyed anal in our sex life for a little while now, we joked about it a lot until one night she told me she wanted me in her ass. I love it because when we do vaginal sex she's usually only comfortable with positions where she can look at me (pretty much just missionary and cowgirl) but she only wants to be taken from behind when we do anal which is really great for me =) She also doesn't make much noise when we have vaginal sex and she usually doesn't say much, when we have anal though she lets out some whimpers in the beginning which quickly become moans towards the end, a huge turn on for me. As others have mentioned before I usually can't last long and can usually only go for about half as long as I could with vaginal sex.
