I've never heard of a guy that doesn't like receiving oral.
Several girls I've dated (and the one that I married) don't like receiving oral. The strange thing is that they all give/gave AMAZING blowjobs (and are Catholic).
Is this a "shame" thing? (oh, that's gross, I don't like to kiss you afterwards- I'm not a lesbian, etc) Would welcome input from "les femmes".
well from my point of view, I LOVE getting oral. My man does an amazing job using both tongue and fingers...so I find myself day dreaming about it, LOL.. BUT im my past experiences, Ive encountered guys who "think" they are experienced but honestly, they suck at going down on a girl. Even if a woman guides his head, they just cant grasp the concept of finding that little man in the boat, lol.. so after a while I get frustruated and just said forget it.. just fuck me.
If a guy knows how to "go down" properly..mmmmmmmmm.. theres nothing like it!
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Posted - Mar 23 2005 : 3:04PM
Though I can be very tolerant at times my pussy fixation wouldn't allow me to be with such a girl. Don't want to offend you or your wife. Some guys would be relieved not having to eat pussy. But at least me and a nice guy from down under (no pun intended) would have a not too little problem with it.
In a general way I like oral sex performed on me just fine. Other than a few extraordinary situations it's the only thing that gets me off besides masturbating.
That being said. I hate unskilled oral sex. I would much rather have no oral sex than bad oral sex. I really mean I would MUCH MUCH MUCH TOTALY AND UTTERLY FAR BEYOND ANYTHING ELSE have no oral sex than bad oral sex. Bad oral sex is grounds for kick-him-in-the-head-and-throw-him-out-of-bed and don't let him touch anything else ever again. I'm serious here, it feels awful.
First let me say that just because *I* do or don't like something doesn't mean it holds true for every woman. Men like different things done to them, and so do women.
That being said, some things I hate: 1) teeth - nibbling does not feel good, holding my clit, hood, labia or any other dangling bit between teeth does not feel good, I don't care if you think you're teasing and gentle, it does not feel good, scraping your teeth along any bit is just as bad as biting down, my bits are soft, teeth are hard, it does not feel good 2) rubbing your chin, cheeks or other facial parts into my area, ESPECIALLY if you're a shaver, no matter how closely you have shaved, nor how recently, it feels like sandpaper, a bearded man can sometimes get away with this without causing actual pain, but the sensation is not pleasant - it's just neutral 3) licking, or poking the tongue into my urethra - DEAR GOD IN HEAVEN!! THAT FUCKING HURTS!! not only does it hurt at the moment, but if it's done repeatedly I end up with an irritated urethra and have to take the Uristat for a day or two until it heals 4) furiously fast licking - what the hell? that's just going to make me overstimulated and probably sore 5) air licking - the object is to actually make contact with the clit 6) pulling my hood back and directly stimulating the clit - this can SOMETIMES be done if there has been previous stimulation, but when it's done first thing or too early on it just hurts, generally speaking it's not a good move 7) too much slobber - if it's dripping down my buttcrack and distracting me, it's just gonna gross me out, it's not adding to the experience 8) sucking - a LITTLE suction pressure is good - MORE IS NOT! 9) blowing into the vagina - I have no idea why this is ever done, it's not a balloon.
Other things that are sometimes done during oral sex that aren't actually oral sex that I don't like: fingering - a little gentle touching and shallow insertion is okay (vag or anal), and sometimes can add to the experience, pounding away at my pussy(or ass) as if you think your fingers are a penis(or a jackhammer) is just horrible titty pinching - squeezing the whole titty feels nice, pinching my nipples off and twisting them like a radio tuning knob is just horrible thigh squeezing - gripping the outter thigh to hang on is good, Klingon nerve pinches on the inside of the thigh are BAD
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Posted - Mar 26 2005 : 9:19PM
That's good to know, Kimi. Other girls may have other preferences and no-no's but what you said sounds very plausible. I'd say if a girl e.g. wants me to lick her or pound her with my fingers like there's no tomorrow she's free to tell me so but otherwise I'd be gentle.
Many thanks Kimi. It's always good to be aware of these things.
I will add one more from my own experience - sometimes a woman's clitoris becomes extremely sensitive right after she has had an orgasm. Even the lightest brush with the tip of the tongue can be really painful for her. Guys, if she pushes your head away from her in this situation, she really means it and you should stop.
What about gentle (or even not so gentle) steady pressure with the lower lip while the tongue is busy further up? No rubbing, just pressure. That usually goes down a storm.
Oral sex isn't the be all, end all for me either. My husband is very good at it, so that is not the issue. It's just that oral sex mainly stimulates the clitoral and pudendal nerves--which isn't the type of stimulation that sends me over the edge.
About the shame thing, I did know this woman, who was really grossed out by kissing a man after he'd gone down on her (I guess it's not so shocking when you read the full-scale freak outs about guys tasting their own jizz!) I can't relate though because I have never had any sort of issue with kissing afterward or doing "PTM".
Also, even for a woman who loves to give blowjobs, sometimes I don't want to do the whole "I'll do you, You do me, then we'll fuck" scenario. Sometimes, it's like, "Yes, you do me, then we'll fuck", or "I'll do you, then we'll fuck".
Well, those were my two cents on this.
Kimi, your list was very good, probably one of the best set of pointers I've seen on this subject!
Thanks Kimi! I am always trying to pick up tips and these I have not heard....if one more person recommends the "alphabet method" I am getting a shotgun.
I'm not sure I'm getting your description. Lower lip is putting pressure on what? Tongue is busy higher up where?I find this to be generally true, also. The multiple orgasm thing might be there for some women, and maybe even all women sometimes, but I need a distinct break from stimulation after orgasm, and the women I have known in the past did, too.Not just one, it's happened several times.Yep! I could cope!As you should, that's stupid advice anyway.You know I love you, right?
Lower lip applying a steady pressure to the area around the urethra, and the tongue licking the clit. No rubbing, moving around, or trying to penetrate. The lip should be smooth and lubricated to make sure there no friction.
Kimi, that was a great list and great advice. I wish we could publish that somewhere and all men had to read it before they even ATTEMPTED to go down on a woman. One thing I would add though, is that it is a definite NO-NO when guys don't listen when a woman tells them something about how he's eating her out. I had one guy biting my hood and labia. Really Hard. So hard that he couldn't talk because his teeth were so tightly wrapped around my nether-parts. I kept telling him to stop because it fucking hurt, and he couldn't understand why it hurt. He actually told me, " You don't want me to stop!" As if it felt good! I couldn't even squirm away because to do so would have made him rip my labia off into his mouth. Men, you don't have to understand our instructions, you just have to listen! Every woman is different. The point of eating me out is to give me an orgasm, so if a woman tells you to stop doing something, or keep doing something the guy should listen. Needless to say my pussy was sore and purple for a few days, and I never talked to the guy again.
However if the licker acknowledges the instruction that you'd prefer if they stopped biting your pussy and continues to do so, I for one believe the only course of action is self preservation -- engage their head in the patented and immobilising Excruciating Thigh Clamp Crusher Hold and maintain significant pressure until life appears extinguished.This may take a few minutes but persist. There's nothing else for it, but to do it. Pacifism be damned.
(You know, Loraine, if you grab us by our ears we steer more easily than a new Volkswagen).
Yeah, seriously, as a guy I freakin' hate listening to other guys talk about what great "bushmen of the Kalahari" they are -- and what Kimi and Nicole describe is just more stupid male ego ruining a potentially smokin' hookup.
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Posted - Apr 3 2005 : 9:13PM
I heard blowing into the pussy can even be dangerous for the woman. But I think, breathing "h"es through the panties is okay, right? Just don't breathe "f"s.
No one has ever tried that one on me though it certainly doesn't sound appealing.
I like oral sex but I kind of understand why some women don't. Lots of women are self conscious about their vaginal area and men constantly spreading that rumor about women smelling/tasting/looking bad does not help.
As far as the guilt thing, I think the act of performing oral sex is easier on the conscience then receiving it. The sin of giving oral sex is slightly vindicated by the fact that you are doing it for someone else's pleasure, whereas in receiving you are just a wanton hedonist lying their and making a man perform for you. Nothing selfless or giving about that.
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Posted - Apr 3 2005 : 10:42PM
There are guys out there that don't like the scent of a woman. There are some who don't stand in awe before the beauty of the pussy. There are some that don't get any pleasure out of eating pussy or at least not so much as the girl. I even heard of some who prefer fucking to eating pussy. And under no circumstances they would pay for it. For everything else there's Vincent Van Gauge.
I would like to add: Women, you're all different. Don't expect the guy to know how you like it at first. Speak up!I beg to differ. +1 Wanton pussy licking.
You can always give lots of cooing encouragements.
And if you're really worried you're not being giving enough, position yourself so you can fold you hands behind his neck and pull back to give you good strong leverage for some truly selfless grinding.
For women that get dripping wet, nothing shows off your generous inner nature better than grinding all over his face. Pussy juice is ever so good for the male complexion.
If your selflessness knows no bounds, you should tell him, that because he did so well, he may do it again.
Those of you, that get a bit too sensitive after cumming, might want to consider cleaning your backside in preparation for some oral attention there. That way he has something to do to pass the time while waiting for you to get ready for the next round. Truly an act of selfless giving on your part worthy of a saint.
Posted - Mar 21 2005 : 12:45PM