I would marry an ex-porn star, but if she was currently in one, I would encourage her to explore another profession, something with more longevity, and I would support that all the way - help pay for school, etc. It's a very unhealthy business, physically and emotionally. Seems like most women in porn are either not educated (by that I mean no college degree) and the ones that have a degree that are in porn are just really into exhibitionism. Of course, there are also the ones that hop in the business for a few months to make some quick cash a split. I would never judge a woman for being in porn, but I'm sure every woman in porn has a talent in something else that she's been ignoring. And in regards to escorting, I would see that differently. First off, it's illegal and second, the men she was with were not tested, unlike the men in porn where they're tested monthly.
I would date one, but Marry......I don't think we would mix together to well. Then again, anything can happen. Well almost anything. *****The Dr. of Nasty*****
Me marrying a porn star is a hypothetical would i ? yes i would with the right person i with out a doubt and i would have no issues with her continuing her work if that is what she wanted to do i feel if you knew what she was doing before hand then why should she quit for you unless that is her choice and she wants to get out then more power to her. now reality sets in and the real question is would a porn star marry me no i doubt it so its fun to dream lol lol lol
I will never marry anyone because I despise the construction which has no place in secular society. But if I was positive towards the whole crazy thing then yes I wouldn't care if she's a pornstar.
I don't trust men who don't like big tits. 1067 Posts 12/04
Posted - Aug 8 2009 : 8:19PM
^^^What duke said. I couldn't handle it. And sometimes I'd be wondering if people recognized her and the comments and judgments they'd make. Douchebag fans coming up to us in public and saying how much they enjoy jacking off to her and such. I'd probably get into a lot of fights. BUT if I did?....It would be Gianna I'd marry.
Absolutely 100%! Also be proud to see her enjoying her work and support her to the max. Taking the step of marriage is mainly one of commitment, loyalty and honesty. Don't recall anything about restriction of employment practices in the small print! As huge porn lover, I'd take an enormous amount of pride in her if she was successful and happy in her chosen career...just as I would if she was in any other business. Mutual respect is the key and I happen to respect porn industry people as much as anyone else. Besides, I currently have a german girlfriend, Julia, of 2 years who is doing part-time amateur porn here in Germany (something she was doing before we met) and would love to step up to doing pro one day soon with a view to doing IR shoots in particular (we both love this genre of porn and she adores black men! I am a mixed race Brit by the way who's been in Germany for 8 years). She wants to finish her beautician course first so she has a side profession to fall back on. If she takes the step up to pro porn, we'd try our luck in the US as IR is much bigger scene there. Not so many black guys here! Oh and we would almost certainly get married too to give us an even more solid base to take on the future together. I've already seen so many guys 'work' (i.e. have sex) with Julia and know its purely sexual pleasure, exploring her fantasies and an inherent exhibitionism driving her, not the pursuit of another relationship. You have to have that security in yourself to be with a beautiful, sexy, independent woman let alone marry her. If anything its made us even stronger as she really appreciates I can separate the sex she enjoys on camera as a hobby from our own private physical relationship. Her doing private amateur shoots has always been fun for both of us as she fully involves me and I have attended all but a handful. I feel very lucky to have such a gf! For us its no big deal at all but I guess its what you get used to! Surprised by some of the negative comments on here when you consider its the biggest most open-minded porn forum and all the girls we discuss and not only fabulous porn performers but also (usually!) wonderful human beings too!!!! Edited by - purplemushroom on 8/9/2009 7:31:34 AM
IMO, what is the point of getting married if you are going to allow her or him to be with other people sexually?! Why not just continue to be bf/gf in a relationship, etc?! I remember hearing of the days when marraige used to mean something. It used to be sacred. Some of these point of views kind of explain why the divorce rate/% is as ridiculously high as it is. *****The Dr. of Nasty***** Edited by - Dr. Nasty on 8/9/2009 3:19:13 PM
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Posted - Aug 9 2009 : 4:47PM
i have to much self respect to marry a pornstar.. i mean i dont care if shes former one or current one or escort. Hell, i wouldnt marry a stripper. who would wanna put there kids in that situation, when his friends found out about mom..juz terrible.
For us, the point isn't about if we're allowing the other to have sex outside of the marriage or not; it's about committing to a lifetime together. You're asserting a mistaken expectation that for marriage to mean something, it must mean monogamy. In reality, the only meaning of consequence is the meaning between the two people getting married. For us, that means a partnership that includes purchasing a house together, having children, investing in our short and long term futures, and supporting each other to a far greater degree than a 'live in girlfriend.' Certainly, marriage isn't absolutely necessary in our case, but I'd suggest that marriage isn't absolutely necessary in anyone's case. In my experiences, divorce comes directly from two people engaging in a marriage without having been completely honest. In fact, I'd suggest that most Americans are taught not to be honest about their desires with their partners. This actually is part of the fuel on the fire for porn; if every man and every woman were obligated to share all of their deepest desires, fetishes, and intimate fantasies, I imagine there'd be a lot of breakups, but the marriages that ultimately go forward are done on a bedrock of honesty instead of delusion. John
If you're both performing in porn, then I can see how the question of sex outside marriage may not be as important. However, when you have a boring desk job while your wife is banging hot guys.. well, somehow it doesn't seem fair.
I think the church and the law would beg to differ. Marriage is a sign of lifelong love, commitment, dedication and monogamy to another in the eyes of god and law. If you could just have sex with anyone you wanted when you were married terms like "cheating" and "adultery" would not exist. Hell you would even be able to have more than one significant other. But you can't. These days people seem to put a spin on what marriage is to try to mold it to their own image. People's perceptions of marraige is far from what it used to be and what it should be. Again, Why even bother getting married if you are going to have sex with other people anyway. You might as well stay unmarried until the desire for your previous lifestyle subsides. I'm not buying too much into the last half of your paragraph either, because millions of people do all of those things you mentioned together and are not married. It may be your point of view/opinion which is cool but to say "us" as if to speak for the majority is a little bold. Everyone has their own reasons for marrying another. Doeesn't mean they are right. Doesn't mean they are bad. It does mean they are wrong a lot of the time.......if they are following the traditional standards of Marriage that is, which I'm guessing is the case since almost everyone goes to get married in a church, by a religious official, with a ceremony, and a marriage certificate, etc, etc. *****The Dr. of Nasty***** Edited by - Dr. Nasty on 8/9/2009 8:14:07 PM Edited by - Dr. Nasty on 8/9/2009 8:27:05 PM
Traditional marriage is a business transaction. If Edie Mae marries Buford, we triple the size of our family farm. All this religious/lifelong romance schlock is a relatively new development. Stepping out of the US, some cultures don't think it's a big deal for spouses to have outside lovers. In fact, it probably is a relief to some wives. Americans get it wrong when they get this idea that the husband needs to leave their wife and three young children to shack up with their 20-something mistress permanently. Be a real man. Respect relationship boundaries. Support both households. :)
For clarification, every time I used the term 'us' I referred specifically to Charlotte, my fiance, who's also a performer and occasional poster on this board. First off, there's no religious requirement for marriage. Two atheists may be married by a Justice of the Peace. Charlotte and I have plans to get married on board a ship. While we're both very spiritual people, neither of us are Christian; the assumption that religion implies Christianity is a bit presumptive. Indeed, there are many faiths that permit more than one spouse, or 'significant other' as you termed it. We've happily incorporated another woman in our relationship for several months at a time. Cheating, specifically, has nothing to do with sex outside of marriage. Cheating is about breaking boundaries and promises of fidelity. Charlotte and I are faithful to each other, in so much as the boundaries and promises we've made, we keep. This, to me, is the essence of marriage. "Why get married if you're going to sleep with other people?" Because I do want children, because I do enjoy the stability of a woman to come home to, because I do want to share a house with her. At 32, I'm quite comfortable with my lifestyle, and have no expectation that some day I'll 'get over' my desires to live this way. It's not right for you, and I'd hardly advocate you should live in a way that isn't satisfying or comfortable for you. I'm saying there's no reason that my girl and I shouldn't be at liberty to live, love, and marry in the manner of our choice. You clearly have strong beliefs about what marriage represents, to you. That's great. Why not accord the same respect I offer you, to live your life as you wish, to others who live their lives as they wish, so long as they aren't directly infringing on you? John
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Taylor Von Bailey Deactivated User
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Posted - Aug 10 2009 : 2:26AM
I'd marry Amy Reid, Audrey Bitoni, Cassandra Calogera, Claire Dames, Holly West, Mindy Main, Priya Rai, Sativa Rose, Taryn Thomas or Taylor St. Claire but only if they were still shooting porn and they would marry me too. It's hard to marry somebody if they won't marry you back. Unfortunately, most of these ladies are taken and far from thinking about marrying me, but I'm pretty sure I'd marry each and every one if they proposed.
Well that clears things up. Now that I know you were referring to yourself and your partner. While you are right, there is no religious requirement for marriage, that does not mean it(along with law) isn't one of the main reasons people wed, hence me saying "almost everyone" as opposed to "everyone" in my previous post. As far as Christianity goes......I don't even know why that has come into the picture. I have said nothing about religious preference. So I am missing your point on that. I am also going by the....."standard" of marriage set in the USA. I'm guessing you are American as well. I mean we can sit here and talk about other religions and laws around the world all day. The fact remains that here, in America by law when you are married you are bound to one other person in everything you do. I mean I could delve deeper into it but its a porn forum. To be honest. I'm as liberal as you can get. I don't really care why other people get married. Its their own reasons that either help their marriage flourish or cause it to wither away. But again, just because a person has a reason to marry someone, doesn't mean that reason is true or right. *****The Dr. of Nasty***** Edited by - Dr. Nasty on 8/10/2009 8:20:26 AM
The hypocrisy astounds. The same persons going "She should do double anal" and other similar comments are the same ones who are going, "I would never marry a porn star." What are these people to you...a sideshow attraction? "Look! The freaks are playing again!" They are people - plain and simple. You should treat them with respect until they give you some reason not to do so. I'll make it easier for you: If you would not marry someone just because they were a porn star...no problem. I doubt seriously they would've married you. Irish Caraway
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Taylor Von Bailey Deactivated User
2116 Posts 8/06
Posted - Aug 10 2009 : 10:01PM
I'm glad your flattered Holly but chivalry is not dead. I try to be as honorable and lovely as possible. I just wouldn't feel comfortable proposing to somebody who I thought would say "No way", so if they'd propose to me I'd be in. You know what I mean. Ask me to marry you and I'm all yours. That would be sweet to be proposed to by one of my favorite stars. All the girls I mentioned just rock the cock and are all cute little lovemakers. All have great personalities too, as far as I can tell. What better wife can you ask for? I'd be extremely content about having any one of these babes my spouse but only if they were equally interested of course.
In reply to Zoid: We have an open relationship of sorts but so far its Julia who is enjoying herself with other men on her occasional amateur porn shoots. We do attend swing parties here in Germany (or a few times a year in Holland), she too tends to be very popular and very active if there are horny black guys there. I just like to be there to make sure she's safe. Always a source of pride when any guys she been with give me compliments and I genuinely get so much pride to see her happy. We got a strong relationship at home and that is what allows her to explore her freaky side.
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Fortune presents gifts not according to the book. 43 Posts 8/09
The Best things In Life Are Chocolate 732 Posts 11/05
Posted - Aug 11 2009 : 7:57PM
I probabaly wouldn't keep up with her sexually. I'd be spent and would miss work because of it too much and then the bills would never be paid on time LOL
Good point here even if said in jest! Fair to say my baby has an abnormally high sex drive which is why she's always wanted to get into porn plus she has the time to explore her boundaries as she is a student and part-time worker. She's 23, I'm 42! I on the other hand have a normal sex drive for a red blooded mail my age and have a very intense busy job where I am traveling lots and work long hours. So we came to an arrangement shortly after we met that she could have sex with other men in a safe environment and so we visit swing clubs/parties when we have time and she has been doing amateur porn shoots since late 2007 with my blessing. I consider porn the perfect fit for her as she can fulfill her sexual needs and maybe make decent money too, all in a controlled, safe environment. Makes total sense to me.
An active porn star? No way. I have yet to see a non-mongamous relationship go the distance. A former porn star? Absolutely. It would be a non-issue. I was in a relationship several years back with someone who, while never exactly a "porn star", had been in a couple of porn films. She had been working behind the scenes as a writer in the adult periodical industry and, when offered small parts in a pair of films, jumped at the chance for the sake of curiosity and adventure. Although the relationship fizzled ultimately (we're still great friends), her past in porn had nothing to do with it.
I don't understand why you wouldn't marry a pornstar. I've never known, dated, fucked or lived with a pornstar. If I met a pornstar that I knew was a pornstar I would take whatever I could get, let alone her and I being married. Hello, my name is D_____ E___, and this is my wife, Sadie West. Sounds good to me. At the very least you would get to hear about some interesting things. I think pornstars are interesting. I read the interviews. Some of the girls are fucking smart. Ashli Orion. So is Ashlynn Brooke. Dana Dearmond. Why would you not want to marry a young, cool, sexy girl? It doesn't make any sense. I mean, in the long run, yes, the relationship is going to end, but all of them end, and almost none of them involve a woman who knows how to fuck. Companionship can be overrated sometimes.
I'm happily married, so this question is twice-times hypothetical for me. I wouldn't marry a working pornstar under any circumstances. I'd marry a former pornstar under the same circumstances as I'd marry any other woman.
I'd be willing to give it a chance, wouldn't actually know how it would go until it REALLY happens (i can dream though haha). I'd support and respect her for her career, i wouldn't want to be seen as controlling..... but i would try to work out what she would want to do vs what i feel more comfortable with. I wouldn't necessarily demand that she stop outright, but depending on how she was before hand.... i would like to see her slow down (if only a little).
Hey I would love to visit Australia....Fuck sign me up! And hell, I would even stay with you (only if you let me) then we could get married. I am just a normal girl living in an odd world and all I do is have my sex life on camera, which I love! Alright when do you want me to fly out sweetie? LOL! XOXO AJ Morgann
Well AJ, Its summer here now and getting really hot. You dont have to explain to me, i understand . its just the way some things are in terms of your sex life on cam... I dont think its to expensive to fly out for a visit:-) Your more than welcome..:-)
Oh hell yeah I would! I came close to marrying a stripper from Tampa, we dated for several years when I was working on my bachelors degree. And hell she was getting off multiple guys a night grinding her ass and doing extras, ya'll that frequented the Tampa strip bars back in the 90s know what I'm talking about! So I'm quite comfortable with dating someone who works in the sex industry, no normal guy can handle it thats for sure. Now I wouldnt marry just any porn star, but if she was cool and we connected and had the love thing going hell yeah.
everyone has banged someone anymore. i personally found a virgin and married her but it wasnt cause she was a virgin. tho it was why i dated her. anyway looks dont last 4ever and being in love with a woman is great. Marriage is beyond physical need or wants. It steps above our nature and raises us to a diffrent level than just sex. Im a dog. I watch porn,flirt and whatnot but when I need someone to trust or to help me with my emotions/mind, i turn to my wife. i tell her everything. If she was a pornstar i would marry her in a heart beat. If you cant get passed certain things its not about the female talent its about you really and your own insecurities.
Pornstar or not, I'm not the marry-kind-of-guy. I'm on the same page as Gene Simmons (of the legendary rockband KISS) : he's with Shannon Tweed for over 20 years, has kids, never got married, and still has a harem ;-) But IF I would ever considering marrying a woman (pornstar), then I'd make her quit her job once she gets pregnant. It's as simple as that. But if you think about it, the kid you're getting will prolly get picked at a lot for being a son/daughter of a pornstar.....and what about the dads at parentmeetings at school: guess, they wud think they cud score easily with my then wife, rofl. Hmmm, I'm still on the fence, I guess.....
It's my duty to please that booty! 1399 Posts 10/06
Posted - Nov 6 2009 : 10:24PM
In 1993, I was talking to an ex-porn star & we were getting real chummy! It could've been serious but she wanted more of a "Sugar Daddy" than a husband. DVS D
Posted - Aug 5 2009 : 11:28AM
