This situation is a lot of fun for me but it's physically and emotionally draining...keeping both girls happy.
Yesterday I was talking about what I want to do in the future with my life and she started crying again ( and I swear I never slapped her this time ), I asked her why she was crying, you know what she said...."you're like the wind....I can feel you but I can't hold you".
Fuck me, if it wasn't for the leather in my pants, I would have dropped to my knees.
She clearly wants more, I can see she wants a future where she isn't 'the other woman'. She's also begging me to make love to her and being the bastard I am, I'm making her wait.
Not sure how this compares with the US, but in this community being "in a relationship" seems to be a critical necessity. Social life revolves around couples, and truly single people get excluded from many social events. Someone without a partner is often seen to be undesirable or a failure.
Because of this, both men and women seem to hang on desperately (and dishonestly) to their "old" relationship until the new one is successfully established.
So I guess nearly everyone around here is a "poacher".
So what happened after 13 years?Did he break up with his girlfriend for the co worker?Did he continue the relationship with his girlfriend and he got married.Or he has children now and no wife?
This is one of the reasons for me to have porn in my life. I have my wife, we've been together for 12 years NON-STOP. If my mind starts giving me ideas I don't consider to be fair game with her, I'll jerk off to a bit of porn and all is well.
That said, I believe you shouldn't keep your GF in the dark AND you have the right to try the new girl if she rocks you this much. Just man up and break up with the GF, that's life!