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Posted - Jan 9 2005 : 4:55PM
Hi there
Anyone here who experienced first time sex with a prostitute? Perhaps even a girl who had first time sex with a call-boy? Just curious because I think about it myself. I was brought up with the thought that "true love waits" and was taught to keep away from girls. They were always in another world I couldn't reach, just dream of. Now I really want to throw that first time away, I don't care what it feels like, just want to get that damn thing over.
I really hope I am alone with that feeling, but probably I'm not. If anyone did it: How did you feel afterwards? Frustrated, ashamed, relieved or even satisfied?
That's a tough question Vincent. I didn't go to one for my first time, but I've been to some since.
Many people find sex to be a real non-event on their first time. It can be disappointing even if you are with a girlfriend who you really like. You might cum too soon or not at all. It can be awkward just fitting the bits together. In my case, I knew nothing about how to please my girfriend, and she didn't have much fun.
If you go to a professional for your first time, I can think of both good and bad things that might apply.
Advantages : She's likely to be clean and friendly and understanding. She will probably be willing to teach you anything you want to know. She won't be judgemental about what you like or don't like. She will know a lot more about it than you do. She won't be upset if you have difficulties.
Disadvantages: Watching the clock can really spoil sex. She may not be interested. Sometimes a prostitute will just lie there like a starfish and wait for you to shoot and leave. She won't want to be your girlfriend afterwards. You get up and leave (or she does) - finish. Some guys feel very sad when this happens.
Suggestions to help make a happy experience if you go this way.
Don't get drunk first - it makes your dick limp and spoils the fun.
Book her for at least two hours, preferably three. This way you can forget about the clock for a while and just relax and have fun. It's more like a date, but one where the sex is guaranteed to happen.
Choose a girl who claims to offer "the girlfriend experience" (GFE) This basically means she will act as if she likes you and wants to be with you. Don't be shy about choosing a woman who is a few years older than you are.
Talk to her first, before you book. Explain it is your first time and ask her if she would like to teach you. The way she answers will help you to decide if she is the one you want. Maybe you will find a lady who is willing to teach you how to give her an orgasm. It's worth knowing, I promise
Choose a comfortable place where you won't be disturbed, like a motel room or a legal brothel if you have them in your town. If she is coming to you, make sure you have things on hand that she might need - clean towels, tissues, condoms, lube.
Forgive me if this is obvious, but before you meet her, make sure you shower, wash your hair, shave and brush your teeth. She will appreciate it, and you'll both have a better time. Treat her like a lady. Considerate politeness and respect will make you stand out from the crowd and she will enjoy your company.
Sorry, this is not really an answer to the exact question that you asked, but I hope it will help to make the event a success if you decide to do it. Good luck.
not much to tell really. i could have had sex with a girl, about a year before i slept with a prostitute, but i wasn't ready for some reason. just wasn't ready. anyway, i lost it a year latter, when i was 17 and that's it really. not much to write home about, horrible sex, absolute nightmare. and i didn't feel any emotions you listed. wasn't really bothered either way. just something you do.
licker, I don't know what it is like in Australia, but for the landlocked among us sex with a starfish is an unusual experience. Not the greatest reference point.
VVG, no I haven't. As licker said, one problem with sex for the first time is the awkwardness. You don't know what you are doing and your head is filled with expectations from TV, movies (mainstream and porn), and locker room talk. One advantage is that she knows what she is doing. Another one, potentially, is the lack of emotional connection (and please don't form one afterwards). I know it sounds bad, but you aren't as concerned about getting her off. Less pressure = more fun.
Guilt depends on your beliefs and how you were raised.
Disadvantage - It is a buisness transaction and you know it. Try to get this out of your mind. No emotional connection - well sex can be better for it. Then again I've had hot sex with women I didn't particularly like.
Sorry. For those who have not had the opportunity to observe the behaviour of a starfish here is what I meant. A starfish spends most of its time lying flat on the sea bed, with its arms and legs spread wide, not moving, but looking essentially cold, clammy and unappealing.
While I have not had sex with a starfish, I did once find a woman who managed to give a pretty good imitation. I can assure you that I was not inspired to return.
My first time was when I was 21, and I paid for it. I had read on a site that you could have sex with a woman really cheap down in Tijuana. I didn't even have a car, so I got a rental car and headed down to the border. Then I took a cab to a club called Adelita's, a renowned club in Tijuana where sex girls lounge around, waiting to be picked up. I spotted an attractive one and we went off to the motel rooms which were conveniently located right next to the club. Paid $12 for the room, and $60 for the sex. I was a little disappointed with how loose she was (I could tell even though it was my first time). But she let me kiss her (which a lot of escorts don't do) so I really enjoyed doing that a lot. Overall, the sex was pretty good, as she was very attractive, but the room was very ghetto-looking. My next 4 sexual encounters over the years (one with a shemale) were all paid for as well. Not particularly ashamed of it, I guess.
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Posted - Jan 10 2005 : 2:13PM
@all Thank you for your posts! (Don't stop writing, though )
licker, thanks alot for your post! Since I realised before that you share many of my opinions it's really helpful to read your post. The advantages you mentioned are probably the main reasons why I think about visiting a professional, only I wasn't so sure about her being clean, so I thought, cunnilingus wouldn't be safe (and I don't think I would enjoy to wrap a condom around my tongue). That would be a disadvantage for you know I'm very much into it and it's probably the only way for me to bring her to orgasm. And I'm concerned about that because there's nothing better for self-consciousness that being able to make a girl cum. I learned to control my orgasms when masturbating and could go on hours and hours without cumming, but with a women I could only control the physical part, not the mental part which is much more effective in my case. (When I first read (there were no pics at all) about a women experiencing female ejaculation I couldn't prevent from cumming anymore though I didn't touch my dick and wasn't even naked.) So I'm really not sure if I'd cum after 30 seconds of penetration or even when she got rid of her panties. Maybe that's the most important point why I'm afraid of non-paid sex because a girl will probably expect a little more sexual experience in a man who turns to be 27 years soon.
For me showering and so on is obvious but thanks for mentioning it anyway. Though I know that woman won't have any feelings for me I want to have sex with a woman, not with an object, and I don't want to be a turn-off to her. You don't need to be dirty to do dirty things.
I think I'd have to pay per hour, not per position or achieved orgasms or something, right? Well, I would hate watching the clock all the time, so I thougt about booking a women for an entire night. Hope that won't cost me 1000$ or something...
vaka, I'm sorry about that. Hope you experienced a lot of much better sex since then, but I'm quite sure about that. Thanks for telling your experience. There's something we have in common: I had an opportunity to have sex, too. It would have cost me about 15 $ and she was obviously addicted to hard drugs. And then it was one day before my first date with the love of my life. (Unfortunaly it was also one day before I knew that I'll never be the love of her life.)
croy Thank you! I think you share my opinion in that issue except for the point that I really want to bring the woman to orgasm. But I think that's one of the main reasons why I think about visiting a professional because I'd feel a bit less bad not reaching this goal than with a woman who expects me to make her cum. My bringing-up was built on very strong Christian belief... but probably I won't feel guilty because I went that way as long as I could and didn't leave it before suicide would have been the only alternative. (That doesn't mean that I have anti-christian feelings now... but I feel free about which rules make sense in my opinion and which ones do not.)
assluvr69 Thank you, that sounds like a quite positive experience. Having good sex with kissing (and no feelings of guilt) for 60 $ is almost unbelievable for a Swiss guy. If you get more than one porn DVD for 60 $ in a Swiss store you can call yourself lucky (unless you expect some quality). That's why I listen to the advice of Bruce Springsteen and buy my "porn in the USA".
All you girls out there who may think I just take the easy way out: I'm not even sure if I manage visiting a prostitute. Some of you don't know how difficult it can be to talk to the most beautiful creatures you are. If you feel attracted to somebody make it a little easier on him, expect a little less and accept a little more faults, for we are only human, too. Oh, by the way, nature didn't create absolutely perfect bodies because perfection is not attractive, so don't try to be perfect, too. There's nothing better than an all natural girl, except two of them. Amen.
Unprotected cunnilingus is definitely regarded as unsafe. You certainly can catch STIs in your mouth that way. This is true with any untested partner. This is probably the main reason I don't see prostitutes very often.
Sorry, there is no good answer here. The only way to avoid the risk is not to do it.
The rules seem to vary wherever you go. Some places it's all over as soon as you cum, regardless of the time you have paid for. You need to discuss the details before you pay.
Where I live the nicer places charge about $150 to $200 for an hour. The "hour" is actually about 45 to 50 minutes long, since the overheads of counting money, tidying the room afterwards etc all come out of the time. Sometimes there may be extra charges for some things - kissing, for example.
A friend of mine went to the Philippines for his first time. The rate there is about $50 for all night. He definitely came home very happy and satisfied after a couple of weeks.
I had sex for the first time at 17 though not with a hooker. I've had 2 serious relationships in my life, one of which was a marriage and I was devastated both times when they ended. I now have sex exclusively with prostitutes, I've had sex with several hundred of them. I'm deliberatly avoiding another relationship though I fear I'll end up trapped in one again one day. The bottom line is, sex and love really don't have much at all to do with each other. You can certainly have great sex without being in love.Sex is a simple biological function ment to perpetuate the species. Love is much more complex, there are different types of love. Love is how you feel about someone. Even bacteria have sex, but aren't capable of love.
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Posted - Jan 11 2005 : 10:52AM
I had to pay for my first transsexual experience, it was worth every damn penny. Had one more encounter with a(nother) tranny afterwards, then I noticed that both experiences costed me dearly.
I played with the thought of hooking up with a tranny in those days, but before I could make that decision I met a girl....my current gf.
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Posted - Jan 11 2005 : 6:29PM
licker, maybe these are the reasons I didn't already visit a professional. I don't want to pay 200$ per hour and then have to go after 5 minutes just because I came. I think an hour is enough time for multiple orgasms even for a man, at least if he doesn't have sex twice a day. And if not I still could give her head. So thank you for mentioning these negative points. Now I can make up my mind how much I want to risk. If I knew exactly the day I'll die it would be a little more easier. I'd prefer dying as a direct cause of having sex (and cunnilingus) at the age of 30 to dying as a virgin at the age of 70. But if I knew I have 70 years to live I wouldn't risk it. Since I don't know, maybe I will. Thanks also for the hint... unfortunately the Philippines are not so close to Switzerland as to Australia, but since everything is so expensive here maybe it's still the easiest way.
whoremonger, I think I know what you mean... there nothing that can tear your heart out like love. I'd like to say don't give up... but then that'd not be reliable out of my mouth cause I gave up myself. Just wish you the best.
Valentino, though trannies are not my fetish at all and I'd miss that lovely thing called pussy badly I like your open-mindedness a lot, and it's interesting what fetishes other people are into so much they are willing to pay a fortune for it. But since money can give you nothing except you spend it, maybe this is natural. I'd give all my money if that keeps me from dying as a virgin. And afterwards I'd sell a lot of my property for a night with a squirter.
You might like to read some of the trip reports on the Angeles City Forum. Even if you don't want to go there, some of these field reports are as good as watching porn. There's a members photo gallery too. I think you have to register, but there is no charge.
I didn't pay for my first time (I was 13 and she was 17) but I ain't too ashamed to admit I've paid for pussy many times during my life. As far as I'm concerned, there is nothing wrong with consenting adults selling their bodies for sex and I've long been of the opinion that prostitution should be legalized here in the US.
I almost started a new thread on this same thing, instead i will post in here, saves starting a new one.
I have decided to go and have sex, for the first time now.
I am 26 (27 next week) and i have never really had a girlfriend, hell!, I haven't had many friends over the years....
I watch porn more of less everday now, i love watching it and of couse wishing I was there too.
I came close yesterday, when this girl loves me to bits, wants to go out with me, but i don't want a relationship, i basically said about sex, and she was like, "of course i will go out with you, i will do it all" she said (but that wasen't what i asked her) and today she said no
so i have now had enough!
I want sex as soon as possible, i want to experience sex for the first time, and as some one said, "It will be hard your first time, but when you get used to it and relax more, you will start enjoing it more, it will become natural"
Question is, where do I look ? I heard its cheaper and better abroad, but how whould i find the places ?
I am in the UK, if you didn't know and i would like some advice/guidlines or whatever, that would be much appriciated.
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Have a look at this web site - punternet. Look in the field reports section, and search for reviews of ladies in your area of the UK. You will be able to read about others' experiences and get an idea if there is someone you'd like to see.
Check the dates on the reviews. Some are a few years old and may not be accurate any more.
I'm not in the UK myself, so I haven't any personal experience to offer, but these reviews are quite detailed. They include prices and contact information.
Enjoy .
P.S. I don't know what the legality situation is in the UK, sorry.
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Posted - Jan 27 2005 : 7:46PM
I can offer nothing than tons of understanding. And some sort of respect of you seeing it through while I don't seem to be able to get it done. Good luck and have fun!
As I understand European geography, the Netherlands are across the Engish channel and a bit to the north. You can always take a weekend trip and go hog wild. The Red Light district is just a short walk from the train station that leads to Shipol (sp?). There are some low cost (but clean & safe) hostels & hotels within a couple mile walk.
I think i will try and book something today, for next week (got the week off)
But this is disturbing - In the star crossed fourm NeilUK say (and i quote):
but most of the sites i goto are through punternet, i read the reviews and check there websites, of both the model and the agency. If people are reviewing girls, surelly the pics on her site ARE her ?
if thats true, then i guess if there arent any reviews, except a completelly different womean when you arrive
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Bait and switch is the way of the world. When there is a horny customer who probably doesn't want to make a scene it is easy to do. This is why Amsterdam makes sense. You can window shop and get what you ordered. If you have more cash, some of the European porn stars escort and travel.
As for the review, I assume it gave you a link to the agencies Mel and Hannah used. If they posted a review for themselves on their own site, I have my doubts.
Why goto all the trouble of getting pictures on their site of a particular girl and she gets a few reviews about her. and put her up for an escort, if it's not her at all, nothing like her ?
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I have only once visited a lady who had her picture on a website. When I got there it was definitely her. The only difference was she was not as tall as I had imagined. (That was not a problem for me.)
You should be able to meet her before you hand over your money. If they insist on taking your money before you see her, just leave. If you meet and she is not as you expected, just politely say so and leave.
Once you part with your money, all negotiation is over, so don't pay until you have both agreed who does what and for how long.
You don't get any guarantees, and in the end only you can decide if the enjoyment was worth the price. Still, that's true of almost anything you do in life. Best of luck and I hope it goes really well.
what i will do is email her first (cant use my mums phone as it will be suspect)
and explain to her what i want, and what you said as well, meaning that i want to make sure it IS her before i part with any money, i will try and see if I can pop down there for 5 mins, just to see her at the door, so i know it definatlly is her.
i will write an email later on, before i send it, i will post it here and i want your thoughts and oppinions and such, if you think i shoulld change bits, say so.
hopefully they will be polite, and hopefully they will agree to my terms, but as you said, i could just book it and go and see her, and explain everything before i part with any money.
Thanks for your tips
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You may find this is a problem. Here in Australia, many girls will refuse to take a booking without a valid phone number for the customer. This is because a lot of guys waste their time, make bookings and never show up.
here we go, this is an email i will write, i want all your honest oppinions and such like. If it needs chaging, say so.
This email will be sent to a lot of agencies without altering this in anyway really, only a few bits will be chaged from escort agency to escort agency.
anyway here it is :
Thanks
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I found the reviews for Milena though 2004 was the latest and only 1 that year if any 1 is helping me here, the heres the link : http://www.punternet.com/frs/fr_search_results.php?mode=results&searchlady=on&soe=1&ladytext=Melina&searchloc=on&soe2=1&loctext=Milton%20Keynes&limit=1000&sortorder=reports.num&ascdesc=desc&button=Do+Search
I am not really sure which one i will choose at the moment. im still thinking of a due
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Pay and take your chances. Just keep your money in your pocket until you see a girl you like. Weigh apparent kindness ahead of looks, so she doesn't eat you alive. After you get into the room with her, let her know it's your first time.
LOL. Amazing how Lindi was able to take a seemingly long and complicated thread and simplify it down to a few sentences. Shi, I would go with her advice. I know the first time can be daunting and you don't want to part with money you don't have much of, but there's no need to overcomplicate things. Also, there will be more opportunities in the future, so don't expect this one and first encounter to go perfect.
Lindi, how come you do not frequent the chatroom anymore?
No need for an email, just go there. Keep it simple, relaxed and friendly. You don't have to explain yourself.
One more thing. Your draft email sounds almost as if you expect them to deceive or cheat you. Try to avoid giving that attitude, either on the phone or in person.
There's no need to mention "false advertising" or anything that sounds like a suspicious accusation. Just meet her, say hello, and see if you like her.
I said to her that i am new to all this, and she said I needn't worry and she will soon take car of that
so then "VincentVanGauge" booked one yet ?
and licker this one has a GFE experience too, and she cooks! so if i get really pekish i could ask for dinner!
for 3 hours it will be £300
most people charge about £120 an hour (or the first hour) then drop to £100 an hour when you want 3 hours or so. I have seen some people charge £300 an hour!! either thats expensive or she REALLY is good. but as long as she looks really nice, thats fine with me
Let you know how it goes
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Have a good time. I think you'll enjoy it most if you don't expect any particular type of scenario, just relax and get your dick wet. Sink the pink, count it as a done deal, and enjoy whatever happens.
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Posted - Jan 31 2005 : 5:43PM
Have a good time ShiWarrior. And maybe you'll tell us how it was, afterwards.
I wish I could do it, too, but I'm way too shy even for this. Girls just like bad guys and ignore or hurt those who want to make them happy. I'm too afraid of them even though I adore their looks. Somehow I hope I'll get raped by a woman but that's quite an unlikely scenario.
Do what i did. 1) I watch porn and search on the net anyway.. so all you have to do is convert that and go and look at escort sites instead. look for one you like the look of, and you will say, "oh i like her..." then read her description and if it all sounds fine, give her an email saying something like : Hi, I am new to this genre, i would like to book an appointment with you. Thank You"
then wait, once you get that reply your off the mark.. and you will be able to book it with no problems, it is just that first hurdle you need to get over. and that is finding one you like the sound of.
why don't you wait untill you hear about my first experience, then you can go ahead and look for a girl.
good luck and thanks every one
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Interesting topic, my first time was with a prostitute. And I fucked her in a graveyard on top of that. I was 18 I think and tired of waiting, and took the chance when it showed up. It wasn't a great experience really, cause she wasn't too good looking or into it. But you gotta start somewhere!
I was hoping to reply tonight with a review but my car broke last night, so i couldn't get there today I might not even see her tommorow as the car is going into the garage first thing. I've been chatting to her on the phone for quite a while now, and already i feel comftable and not nervous.
can't wait to see her in the flesh!!
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Posted - Apr 18 2005 : 4:18PM
Can someone please tell me on which planet we are and in which century? I went out today... a girl of my village came to talk to me... rather private questions these were... then she said she can bring me a woman who'd fuck me if she gets 10% of what that woman would get. I told her "you're pulling my leg" several times but she would always say no, she'd do it. I'm very confused now... did I already say that girl is 14 years old?
