Ok, we all know how hard it is to satisfy woman...haha. Ok, just kidding.
I have been married for 11 years now. I have to say that sex between my wife and I is getting better and better each year. I never knew how this was possible but it is true. As we grow together we learn more about each other and how to satisfy each other.
My question is this. I am at the point where I can ensure that my wife has atleast 3-5 (sometimes more) orgasms before I finish. This really seems to satisfy her.
I know that everyone is different but on average...would this be satisfying enough for most women?
I ask this because you always here about how much sex others are having (and I feel its always stretched abit). but what I dont hear is how many orgasms the woman is having each time they do have sex with their partner.
Damn. By my standards, your marital relations are great! If your wife is consistently having 3-5 orgasms per lovemaking session, she's probably very satisfied. Sounds like you two are doing everything right.
When we first were together I was rather selfish. I was also inexperienced. So while i tried to make her satisfied, I often finished first and that was it. But then I found out how to prolong myself while ensure enough time for her to orgasm multiple times. Once I have been able to satisfy her, I am able to let go and have one myself.
Our sessions require time since she can not come quickly, however, they are fulfilling.
Yes, I can be completely satisfied without having an orgasm. Sometimes I don't even care if I have one. I just want to please him, and when he gets off, I'm satisfied. Other times I'm greedy and want an orgasm or four. If that's the case, I make sure I reach orgasm, by whatever means I see fit. As long as I share the experience with him, we're both happy. After 11 years of marriage, we don't pressure each other or ourselves about sex anymore. We both refuse to worry about our performance because orgasm isn't the finish-line for us anymore. It's hard to explain. The quality of the closeness and intimacy is sometimes matters more than the number for physical climaxes.
Seriously, I don't have any mini orgasms, it's all or nothing.
Orgasm isn't the be-all-end-all of my sexual life. Sometimes, making my partner feel good gives me such a high I'm way beyond satisfied. I had a 9 month long relationship once during which I never permitted my partner to perform any sexual act on me, but I was all over her every chance I got. It was fantastic sex.How many orgasms do you need to feel satisfied?
That stuff about women being satisfied without one (which I see all the time in books and articles) -- that women can be perfectly happy with just cuddly-bunny stuff -- doesn't apply to me.
Posted - Oct 8 2006 : 6:21PM