I would nonetheless go into great lenghts to make sure she knows what she's getting into and to provide her enough (financial) backup to rule out desperation for money as her reason for doing it.
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| TeganLovesSara Deactivated User Are you smoking yet? 252 Posts 12/09 |  Posted - Dec 28 2009 : 5:32PMyou were a shitty parent? Or would you think you where? What say you? *note this thread is meant for mature discusion, if you want to flame me.....email me* [Link] |
| posthum Member 349 Posts 12/09 | Posted - Dec 28 2009 : 5:38PM I would nonetheless go into great lenghts to make sure she knows what she's getting into and to provide her enough (financial) backup to rule out desperation for money as her reason for doing it. [Link] |
| TeganLovesSara Deactivated User Are you smoking yet? 252 Posts 12/09 | Posted - Dec 28 2009 : 5:43PM why are people considered bigots, if they don't agree with pornography? Curious though.If your daughter came to said she was thinking of entering the industry. you would be for it? you wouldn't think she was selling herself short, taking the easy way out, or (seriously)maybe sinning(if you are a religous person)? Edited by - TeganLovesSara on 12/28/2009 5:45:06 PM [Link] |
| a9nostic Senior Member 1056 Posts 8/08 | Posted - Dec 28 2009 : 5:54PM [Link] |
| posthum Member 349 Posts 12/09 | Posted - Dec 28 2009 : 5:54PM I don't think she'd be doing anything wrong, no. Would I be *for* it? I'd be concerned about her working with some of the more harmful people. For as long as she's not desperate for money, she'll have the option to turn their bookings down, so that shouldn't be an issue. What do you mean, 'taking the easy way out'? Out of what? Selling herself short, definately not. Maybe it's because I'm from a country where even prostitution is at least not illegal, but working in porn has no stigma in my opinion. *edited for typos* Edited by - posthum on 12/28/2009 5:58:35 PM [Link] |
| RandomPrecision Senior Member Enjoy! 8175 Posts 3/06 | Posted - Dec 28 2009 : 6:05PM Porn, in and of itself, does not have to be some terrible thing and I think a girl would be more likely to have a bad time if her family rejected her or disowned her. Edited by - randomprecision on 12/28/2009 6:05:47 PM [Link] |
| mharris127 Senior Member 1844 Posts 8/09 | Posted - Dec 28 2009 : 8:19PM [Link] |
| realtip Deactivated User 2301 Posts 6/04 | Posted - Dec 28 2009 : 10:00PM According to him, "If your daughter is a stripper [or pornstar], you fucked up."  [Link] |
| Digmen1 Member 629 Posts 7/07 | Posted - Dec 28 2009 : 11:26PM We like to watch porn, but would not like our daughters, sisters to do it ! I would not like my daughters to do it. The other question on a related subject that has always fascinated me is Have you ever watched a porn movie and found out the star was your daughter (or wife). Assuming that you watch classic porn. [Link] |
fu_q  All-Star Member Marv Montag (@PornOfYore) 2506 Posts 2/09 | Posted - Dec 29 2009 : 12:01AM My parents have similar feelings. I don't feel that my father "failed" as a parent, though. While the stereotypes might ring true in many instances, I don't feel that they do in the case of my sister--and, hence, all cases. I would like for her to find a safer profession, though...and one that will be better at building her resume for the future. Edited by - fu_q on 12/29/2009 12:03:20 AM [Link] |
| pornlaw Member 578 Posts 10/05 | Posted - Dec 29 2009 : 12:07AM Michael www.2257Safe.com www.AdultBizLaw.com [Link] |
| Endless Loop Senior Member Tomatometer 1129 Posts 8/04 | Posted - Dec 29 2009 : 3:54AM [Link] |
| RandomPrecision Senior Member Enjoy! 8175 Posts 3/06 | Posted - Dec 29 2009 : 4:05AM Edited by - randomprecision on 12/29/2009 4:06:24 AM [Link] |
| Dan Senior Member 2056 Posts 6/07 | Posted - Dec 29 2009 : 8:24AM A lot of parents have some difficulty dealing with sexual relationships of their children in general, whether it's related to porn or not. That's why mothers-in-law and fathers-in-law are famous for causing marriage problems among their adult children. And that's why adult children need to watch their parents and make sure their parents don't interfere too much in their sex-lives. Parents often aren't the best judges of their adult children's sex lives. And for this reason, most parents would do well to stay away from judging their adult children this way. [Link] |
| NewRomancer Deactivated User under THEIR avatar 738 Posts 7/08 | Posted - Dec 29 2009 : 9:48AM [Link] |
| Seijuro Senior Member 1389 Posts 12/09 | Posted - Dec 29 2009 : 10:51AM That being said if I had a daughter interested in porn, I would discourage her from getting in as most parents do. I certainly would not hate or disown her for it. I would just hope that she is being responsible and safe and that would be enough for me. [Link] |
| Rosco Fuji Deactivated User On the licking stick, Mr. Magic Dick! 3309 Posts 2/09 | Posted - Dec 29 2009 : 11:44AM This is one of those discussions that are purely hypothetical and everyone can say "yeah, I'd be cool with my daughter doing porn!" The same with, "I'd have no problem with my daughter bringing home a black guy!" For discussion purposes only and not to start a flame war, I'm calling bullshit on everyone. This is a true case of "not in my backyard." I've asked this question before on this topic, what happens when the daughter comes home and announces she's visiting the Gangland, or doing Cumfart Cocktails, or a Gokkun/Bukkake, or a White Trash Whore? Are the same accepting parents going to say, "Very cool honey, I'm so proud of you!" Are they going to take over managing her career so she doesn't do those things and she becomes the next big thing? These questions need to be answered also. But as I say, this topic is all hypothetical because in the BTS/interview section of the releases, when the topic of parents comes up, the overwhelming theme is that the father isn't in the picture at all. [Link] |
| Johnothan Pedak Senior Member Catastrophe 1594 Posts 6/07 | Posted - Dec 29 2009 : 11:59AM [Link] |
| TeganLovesSara Deactivated User Are you smoking yet? 252 Posts 12/09 | Posted - Dec 29 2009 : 12:04PM [Link] |
| fu_q All-Star Member Marv Montag (@PornOfYore) 2506 Posts 2/09 | Posted - Dec 29 2009 : 12:04PM Edited by - fu_q on 12/29/2009 12:05:17 PM [Link] |
| posthum Member 349 Posts 12/09 | Posted - Dec 29 2009 : 12:09PM [Link] |
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| fu_q All-Star Member Marv Montag (@PornOfYore) 2506 Posts 2/09 | Posted - Dec 29 2009 : 12:38PM I'll go back to the stripper thing--instead of the porn thing--b/c that's what I have experience with and they're somewhat related. Even though I had two very close friends in the past who were dancers, and I had--myself--done some "roadie" (peon) work for them on occasion for shits and giggles, I wasn't happy that my little sister was secretly stripping. My parents--who were also okay with my friendships, etc.--weren't exactly thrilled with her doing it, either. There are some other angles that go into this, but the main concerns were safety issues, as opposed to morality issues. That said, I'd be lying if I didn't think to myself--"Why are you doing that when you just got out of college? Why are you putting yourself in that position when you could be using your education?". Further, having "worked" (volunteered for my then-friends) in a few of these clubs in different areas, I knew what types of things would likely be encountered in them (i.e., guys propositioning the dancers for sex, drug use by other dancers, potential stalkers, etc.) All of these things are a reality in the places that I "worked" (volunteered). Additionally, I saw what a long time as being a dancer could do. One of my (ex-)friends ended up on her feet at the end of it all, saved her money, etc. The other ended up with serious financial problems and with other problems that are stereotypical to the field. So...for me...it was / is disturbing that my sister is dancing. I have faith in her to make the right decisions, but I also know that it isn't the safest environment in the world, either. My parents are supportive, but they share my feelings. [Link] |
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| fu_q All-Star Member Marv Montag (@PornOfYore) 2506 Posts 2/09 | Posted - Dec 30 2009 : 1:14PM [ invalid url ] I say more power to them, but--as you said--it would be very troublesome to me (personally) to actually see a close family member in a porno that I happened to pick up. As with my sis and her dancing, I could deal with it better in an abstract sense...but to have it in front of me in all its glory----not so much. [Link] |
| posthum Member 349 Posts 12/09 | Posted - Dec 30 2009 : 2:02PM Edited by - posthum on 12/30/2009 2:10:29 PM [Link] |
| WardqueenJanine Member 914 Posts 2/08 | Posted - Dec 30 2009 : 2:38PM As for the stripping, I really don't know any strippers that have lasted in that industry for any more than a few years but anecdotally it seems that girls who strip are inclined to be victimized more and have their lives become train wrecks more than do girls in porn. It is because there are more predators in that industry, that the girls who do that are at a more vunerable time in their lives? Who knows and maybe I'm wrong. I can tell you considering a third role in the sex business, that of escort, I would NEVER want my parents to know of what I've done (or still do) however my sister, a "normal" wife and mother is aware of it and very non-judgemental. Having said that, if one of my parents did have to know, it would be an easy choice that it would be my mother. [Link] |
| Stud_Rob Member 703 Posts 4/09 | Posted - Dec 30 2009 : 2:50PM But again too hard to say without being in the situation. Hypothetical scenarios mess with your head. [Link] |
| lack100 Deactivated User 139 Posts 8/09 | Posted - Dec 30 2009 : 5:12PM Edited by - lack100 on 12/30/2009 5:15:40 PM [Link] |
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| Gore Gore Girl Doctor of the Erotic Arts 7238 Posts 1/09 | Posted - Dec 30 2009 : 5:33PM I feel like I've said this before somewhere, but honestly if my son or daughter (if I ever have a son or daughter) wishes to go into sex work, and they feel it is a wise career decision for themselves that they will find fulfilling, then I would support it. But finding any career that is always a wise decision and fulfilling is pretty hard to come by. There's also a huge difference between studios, personal goals, etc etc just as in any industry - if my daughter turned out to be the next Annie Sprinkle, I would be extremely proud. [Link] |
| Savoy All-Star Member Sucker for Sinners 1844 Posts 12/06 | Posted - Dec 30 2009 : 8:06PM A shitty parent would disown their daughter. A good parent would provide emotional support and guidance - making sure she's doing things like saving/investing her income, taking care of her health, etc. [Link] |
| grover All-Star Member Literotica.com - grover10 16888 Posts 11/04 | Posted - Dec 30 2009 : 8:09PM [Link] |
| Dave_K99 Member 497 Posts 12/07 | Posted - Dec 30 2009 : 9:21PM I don't think I'd consider myself a shitty parent if I felt it was their free choice to enter porn, and not because of a lack of other options. If they turned to porn as a last resort then I'd probably beat myself up about it, thinking I should have done more to improve their circumstances and help them find something better. Either way, I might be concerned about their safety and future, but I wouldn't lose any respect for them because of their choice. As a porn fan that would be utter hypocrisy. [Link] |
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| BigBobxxx Senior Member 2681 Posts 5/04 | Posted - Jan 1 2010 : 8:52AM Why all the judgement? Do you think, when the dads find out their son is a pornstar, that they're patting them on the back, high-fiving and letting loose with the 'atta-boys? "So, what's it like being paid to fuck all those beautiful girls"? "What's Jenna Haze really like"? And, of course, don't tell your mother.  Seeing your children having sex is what's awkward. But, the "good parents" shouldn't be watching porn to start with, right? And, their good church-going, PTA-attending friends and neighbors, too. In all seriousness, if I were a parent, I'd be far more ashamed of my children if they were Wall St. credit default swap traders, predatory bankers and lenders, most lawyers, businesses who hire illegals so they can exploit them, etc. (you get the idea). One wonders if Rush Limbaugh's parents are proud of him? Wouldn't you be a failure as a parent, for having produced such an hateful personality (act or not)? In any event, why wouldn't a parent be proud of a "Jenna Haze" (even though I'm sure they don't want to actually watch her movies)? [Link] |
| LubeNLuv Senior Member 1854 Posts 3/06 | Posted - Jan 1 2010 : 10:50AM That said, I've seen to their college educations and the funds are there if they want to pursue that. I think I'd be far more disappointed to see them make a choice to pursue porn thinking it is a "great way to earn money" because frankly, its not given the alternatives available to them. There are those who say "Wow, the money is fantastic" but I believe that is all relative. Fantastic compared to working at Burger King, sure. Fantastic compared to retail or some telemarketing cube-farm, sure. But those jobs are bottom rungs usually taken by people with little self-motivation to better their positions in the first place. But fantastic compared to career objectives that lead to lifetime increasing six-figure incomes....highly doubtful. Frankly, anyone who says that porn is a great way to earn money likely has few options for long term career growth in the first place -or- are using it to fund college so that they can pursue OTHER career objectives. So for me, the question is more one of long-term planning. Once you do porn, like it or not, you are making a conscious decision to not pursue entire industries in your future. Teaching? Forget it. Politics/public offices? Forget it. Rising to become a CEO or other high-profile executive? Likely not...unless it is in the porn business itself. You are making a conscious decision to "screw the system" and pursue a career based entirely on your looks and your willingness to take shots of cum to the face on film for the masturbatory pleasure of others. Personally, I think thats a really short-sighted decision. I understand why some make it, but statistically, porn performers are a tiny part of the overall working class sector. And given the unbelievably high turnover of performers in this industry, it is not one that readily supports long-term career growth objectives. There are so few that make a career out of it, with the majority moving on to "better things." If porn was so great, why do so many leave the industry after just being there 2-3 years? So if my daughters, given the options available to them, chose that route....I'd feel I failed to teach her strategic thinking and common sense. Because in their case, porn would be a really poor decision. [Link] |
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